After 6 interviews (5 of which were with the recruiting team), the company I was interviewing with offered me the sales role.

After 6 interviews (5 of which were with the recruiting team), the company I was interviewing with offered me the sales role. At the same time, they shared they were spinning off from the parent company “next week” which kind of felt like a bait and switch but I rolled with it.

After the final interview which was mostly me presenting to the hiring managers, they sent me a written offer. I had a call on Feb 10 to review the offer with the head of sales. At that time, I asked for $12k more and additional vacation time. Nothing out of the ordinary for negotiations. The head of sales said she would get back to me because she needed to meet with finance to find out what was possible. I didn’t hear back from her for a month. I followed up weekly asking to reconnect / for an update. SHE NEVER RESPONDED not even with “I don’t have an update”. At this point, I thought maybe she got laid off or that something terrible happened but I noticed she was active on LinkedIn with the same company and commenting on posts so found the situation of not responding very perplexing. My 4th and final email said thank you for the offer but given I haven’t heard from you or the team, I am going to pursue opportunities outside this one.

On March 9, she writes back…sorry for the delay. I was on vacation for 10 days. We can’t move on compensation or vacation and now we are putting a hold on the position but I’d love to stay in touch for when it reopens in a few months.

I was appalled! In my 25 years of professional work experience, I have never been treated like this. During negotiations and after a written offer was presented to have no communication with the candidate? How about…hey, we don’t have an answer for you or even… we changed our minds. But to not respond at all? I know the job market is funky right now but talk about a terrible candidate experience. For those involved in recruiting and hiring, I know you’re stressed and the workload is great, but please be considerate and respectful of those you’re engaged with. People have to put food on the table. And if that’s not important to you…at the very least…It is your talent brand that is at risk.

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  1. Anonymous

    I’ve had this happen to me, and I was a recruiter myself, and would’ve never allowed this which is nonresponsive all together, obviously.

    i’ve been in recruiting for many years and although when I was going on vacation, I would apprise candidates in the process of either interviewing or offer stage that my manager said she’d handle it and many times I came back from vacation and nothing was handled as pathetic as it is, it does happen, and I can enjoy the fact that I don’t fall into this category of non-responsive recruiters. Good luck and I’m sorry about your experience.

  2. Anonymous

    Unfortunately, THIS is what is happening more and more. Good Luck to you.

  3. Anonymous

    Yes a very disturbing trend that is extremely common these days

    I'm sorry you went through this but am also certain you will find a more ethical and respectful company to work for. There are a few still out there.

  4. Anonymous

    Sorry for your experience. After being treated like you a couple times, I promised myself never to send thank you emails after an interview. If they really need me, they always reach out. This gives me psychological upper hand in negotiations as well.

  5. Anonymous

    You likely dodged a bullet here.

  6. Katherine Metres Akbar, Interview Coach & Resume Expert

    Absolutely right. It sounds like they were unsure of what was happening and afraid to lose you or bring you on but be unable to afford you. In any case, they bungled it.

  7. Anonymous

    Wow, went on vacation and didn't even have an automated email reply for being OOTO? 10 days is a long time to be away.

  8. Anonymous

    Good for you to call her (them) out & decided move on!

  9. Anonymous

    If a company is spinning off from a parent company or shifting ownership and there are any M&A or legal aspects internal resources are NOT allowed to discuss this information with external resources. I would not blame them at all. Was it an ideal experience, NO absolutely not. For you it was sadly just terrible timing.

    Stay in touch, things change and while things were in flux perhaps that was a good time while things were in motion for the HM to take her vacation. She might have been worried that she would lose her job in the spin off and so possibly she took the vacation to use up the time accrued. I am not making excuses for them just predicting a bit the back story having been on the inside through a spin off in an operational role. I hope this information softens the blow for you and I hope truly you find a great place to work that will pay you what you need.

  10. Anonymous

    You dodged a bullet! Oftentimes when a subsidiary spins off from the parent company you have to treat it like a start up. There is likely not a robust structure and they are given a tight timeline to be profitable.

  11. Anonymous

    I'm sorry you experienced this, I really am, it's awful. And there is no excuse for the behavior on the part of this person who didn't respond to you until forced to. I'm not making excuses for this person or others who do similar, but oftentimes recruiters such as myself are not permitted to respond until the hiring manager says so. We are not in control of these situations and like you said, it hurts everyone. One of the reasons I'm leaving recruiting is that I don't like that I can't share updates, or reasons for passing on a candidate. I understand why companies do it, but I don't agree with it. I do hope you find a better company to work with that appreciates you and your time.

  12. Anonymous

    this is one of the many reasons I too, after a terrific career in recruiting for 30+ years
    am disgusted with the behavior of employers. the blantant disregard for the way applicants are treated makes me sick it’s nice to see somebody else feels the same way

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