First and foremost, I'm sorry this happened to you. It's happened to most of us at some point in our careers—and it is unfair. While looking for your next opportunity, reflect on what prompted you to leave your previous one. As an outsider who has been in your shoes, I will share my experience.
1) I had to challenge myself at my job by proactively taking on assignments and offering to contribute to work that benefited the company. My boss was not hired to challenge me. I considered myself fortunate when a boss took the time to have one-on-one meetings. The key takeaway is that you have to reset expectations in the workplace. While companies aim to follow their values, they don’t always succeed. Show you're willing to put in a little extra effort to demonstrate you want to be there, and try not to take everything personally.
2) Being yelled at, ignored, and disrespected is never healthy. Most likely, one of two things happened here: either you made a mistake and your boss lacks communication skills and the ability to mentor employees toward success, or if it was an error that impacted the business, their response was poor. Take it as a lesson: feelings are not facts. Yes, your feelings might have been hurt, but identify the facts—did you make a mistake? Was the disrespect justified? If not, chalk it up to poor management style and move forward.
3) Legally, what are your options for the new job? Not many—other than learning that the grass isn’t always greener. If you’re in a probationary period (which many companies use to dismiss employees for various reasons in a specific time period) and most states are at-will employment states, all the paperwork you signed probably states that they can fire you for any reason.
I considered myself—and many of my employers did as well—an exceptional employee. The hardest lessons to learn are often the ones hardest to accept: your degrees may get you in the door, but you're not a unicorn. Virtually everyone in the company has similar credentials. And many don't. They were promoted through hard work, collaboration, and professionalism. The grass seems greener when you’re feeling down.
4) Regarding compensation, companies prefer you show that you are worthy of a salary increase. A salary increase is extended because employees see that you can perform the duties of someone worthy of an increase. Giving you compensation you believe you should receive due to an advanced degree and certification is your responsibility to use as a negotiation tactic when discussing your salary. It may not be an important factor in their salary/bonus structure. Just don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Try and find gratitude in learning this early on. You’ve learned an important lesson: if it truly is a horrible situation with your boss and you cannot perform your job, update your resume and start looking. Otherwise, five years at the same company is impressive these days. It's a significant achievement that will look good on your resume. As I said previously, “Feelings are not facts.” You mentioned feeling disrespected—look into why. If it's because your boss is a jerk, research ways to handle it. This may not solve everything, but I'm sharing my experience. I hope at least one suggestion helped, and good luck with your search!!
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