For varying reasons, I quit a WFH job and took a job with a 40 minute + commute and paying less, but with less stress, promising more flexibility, and fewer “work” hours.

12 Comments

1. AnonymousJune 8,2022 at 1:55PM UTC

   I do not think one can go back. The reasons you left are probably still there. My suggestion is to look elsewhere and forward. Imho.

2. Candace LusterJune 14,2022 at 1:07PM UTC

   I definitely agree that the reasons I left are likely still there. But now knowing the grass is not greener on this side - the job/company is not how it was presented - I'm reconsidering my position there......

3. Julie HumbirdJune 8,2022 at 2:37PM UTC

   I've seen plenty of people go back after leaving on good terms. What's the harm in saying "I liked working for you" and try to get your old job back?

4. AnonymousJune 8,2022 at 2:47PM UTC

   The only problem I can see, if they do take you back, is that they are going to be aware that you are someone who is looking for another position. Someone not satisfied with the job. This could color their whole approach to dealing with you including raises.

5. Candace LusterJune 14,2022 at 1:03PM UTC

   Exactly.....the things I have been thinking through.....

   Thanks for your feedback.

6. AnonymousJune 8,2022 at 6:13PM UTC

   Do a list of pros and cons of both the assignments now that you have an understanding of the new role as well. No harm in reaching out to the old team but from a position of strength. You can say that you do miss WFH and are willing to reconsider if some changes that cause you less stress and flexibility can be instituted. Since you have left on good terms, they should be open to this sort of feedback and if not, I don't think going back is going to solve anything. In that case, you keep looking for another opportunity and move forward.

7. AnonymousJune 8,2022 at 11:25PM UTC

   The only question to ask yourself is was the stress that you are going back to adversely affecting your health and and wellbeing? If so, and if your old boss will take you back, see if you can negotiate better conditions, especially if they need your expertise and want to retain you and not lose you this time.

8. AnonymousJune 9,2022 at 12:55AM UTC

   Sure, why not? Assuming that your old company has interest.

   Can you get some intel prior as to whether your former company is recruiting for your position? Best to get the lay of the land before proceeding.

9. Candace LusterJune 14,2022 at 1:01PM UTC

   oh, yes, without a doubt. thank you

10. AnonymousJune 9,2022 at 12:43PM UTC

    This same thing happened to me in January.
    I was mislead about the new position and my supervisor would require me to have her proofread all my emails before sending. I ended up going back to my old job since I left on good terms. I was able to negotiate more WFH days. This was a huge learning experience for me about what is really important to me professionally. I wish you the best of luck.

11. Candace LusterJune 14,2022 at 1:02PM UTC

    thanks for your feedback! i'm currently working out how to position myself / what to say when I reach back out.

12. Susan RoblesJune 14,2022 at 5:33PM UTC

    This is great to hear that it is possible to go back. Try not to burn any bridges.