I guess I am just venting.

9 Comments

1. AnonymousApril 28,2025 at 12:56PM UTC

   Stress at work is a thing. Press your therapist to provide you insight into why you struggle so much ith it. Where does it stem from? Then ask her to explore methods to help you identify the triggers and ways to defuse those situations. You can learn ways to overcome stress and get yourself to a healthy place. You just have work to do.

2. AnonymousApril 28,2025 at 12:59PM UTC

   I think it is really good that you are getting help on how to manage stress. It's one of the worst things for us, physically/mentally/emotionally, and most of us are never taught the skills to truly manage it.

   Cautionary tale: For years, I didn't listen to anyone when they said I needed to find better ways to manage my stress. I always set that bar that 'after this' I'll find ways... years of it. Now, I've developed a physical heart issue that is being attributed to all those years of stress and stress hormones. Hit all of a sudden last summer and four medications later it is somewhat under control however my life and my abilities to do things have been dramatically, negatively impacted.

   Find ways to manage it and most of all, Listen to your body.

3. AnonymousApril 28,2025 at 2:10PM UTC

   I can relate. My stress kickstarted what my endocrinologist thinks was a dormant congenital adrenal issue. I had a lot of really stressful life events and work was a constant stress. To put it simply, my body's ability to function under stress is almost zero at this point. I had no idea that was possible. It was compounded when I started perimenopause.

4. AnonymousApril 28,2025 at 2:25PM UTC

   It can feel kind of silly when work impacts our emotions, but we spend almost all of our time doing it, so give yourself some grace. I hope that you've said this in so many words to your therapist, too!

   Something that was suggested to me was to find something that feels important, though not as stressful, outside of work. Is there somewhere you can volunteer for a few hours a week? Is there a hobby you've let dry up in the last few years? It's totally understandable that work takes up our whole brains, but you're a person and you deserve to have other things matter to you. Keep your head up :)

5. AnonymousApril 28,2025 at 4:22PM UTC

   This is going to sound harsh, but you need to figure out how to manage the stress. But to do that you need to understand how you work or at least start with what is stressing you out and what is within your control and not within your control. I would suggest taking a Myer- Briggs test to understand how you work and learn and thrive in a work-related setting and then go from there. Once you can understand how your brain functions and works best in your job then you should be able to get a good handle on how to deal with the stress. And whether or not the things you stress about should even be anything to stress about. Hope this helps.

6. AnonymousApril 28,2025 at 8:59PM UTC

   It can be difficult, work through this with your therapist. You need to figure this out.

7. AnonymousApril 28,2025 at 10:59PM UTC

   Good for you for taking care of you. Therapy is a wonderful way for us to learn self-awareness and what triggers our stress. Another distress is to and don’t laugh (ok giggling is good) go sit in a Cemetary. I had a horrible apartment neighbor and the ONLY quiet spot I could find was in a Cemetary. I could tell I was more relaxed. In all honesty I went to the one where I have family and did a little genealogy. It’s quiet there. I’m ALWAYS under stress so I do yoga. Listen to spa music, try it it slows your breathing and raises endorphins.

8. AnonymousApril 29,2025 at 3:50PM UTC

   This can be really difficult, kudos to you for recognizing that you're feeling so much work-related stress and discussing it with your therapist, that is a helpful step in the right direction. Taking care of YOU is most important. I would also recommend speaking to your manager about setting boundaries if you feel they are approachable to have a conversation.

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9. Meli L.April 29,2025 at 4:19PM UTC

   Work-related stress is NOT something any one person wants to deal with. Some can handle it better than others but what I've learned is that I have to give myself grace and self-compassion. THIS is not easy but a daily practice of it can help, I believe. I hope that helps even if just a little bit : ) take care of YOU