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Today One of my coworkers that trained me that I thought I was getting to know better and have a good relationship with told me she told another coworker I wrote a letter to HR about this other coworker.

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Today One of my coworkers that trained me that I thought I was getting to know better and have a good relationship with told me she told another coworker I wrote a letter to HR about this other coworker. I was talking to my friend walking to my car and then a few other girls from the department came up and started talking to us about changes that occurred in our department. I’m not even sure how this other girl got brought up but she kept saying to me that she doesn’t like me because she told her I wrote a letter to HR complaining about her when she actually was the one that did that. I’m not sure if she was joking with me but she kept saying it to me and laughing and I said okay I don’t care if you did because that’s not true and left it at that. She then kept talking about it and I have never been rude to this person. Is this something I should report to my boss or HR? I feel if she was serious and did this that that may be grounds for termination because she would be spreading false and malicious rumors. I am not saying I want her fired I just want to be left alone by her. I always go in to work and mind my business and have just my one friend. Maybe I’m too nice and she felt she could push me around? I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want this to keep happening so I’m not sure if it’s worth saying something about to my boss or someone else. I was going to confront her about it but I don’t feel comforter talking to her now.

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  1. Anonymous

    I seriously doubt anyone is going to be fired.

    What this amounts to is a bunch of gossip. But if you feel harassed then say something to your boss and ask for advice. But please stick to the facts and avoid the drama.

  2. Anonymous

    Perhaps give it a day or two and see what comes out.

    Could just be that the person who was contacted by HR wanted to find out who complained, or she could want to make trouble between you and the one who trained you -- hard to tell.

    Workplaces usually don't want drama, so I would let it go at this point.

    Also a word of caution: You probably are already doing this, but just be careful what you say that could be construed as criticism. Sometimes others "connect the dots" in a way we don't mean, and do this either innocently (or sometimes maliciously). Wishing you well!

  3. Anonymous

    First, address it with her directly, ask them to stop and if they don't or if any further chat comes back to you report it. Note date and time of your conversation, even send an official invite. Document it.

  4. Anonymous

    HR would contact you directly if you were involved. I wouldn't bring the boss or HR into a rumor. They may try to do their best to keep the peace and now you really are part of the problem. I would wait until you are approached. I would also document, in your words, the time/date and what was said as a point of record for yourself. If you are approached in the future you can reference what was said and that you did not escalate anything at that time however if you are repeatedly brought into drama again then you may want to go to your boss with what you recalled and when. Unfortunately, it is very difficult when you are up against a bully. Protect yourself, try not to make things worse by doing anything on hearsay, and if a pattern of negativity towards you is shown you will have documented examples.

  5. Anonymous

    I learned a long time ago to stay away, as far away, from a coworker who laughs and says things “jokingly” about another coworker. This is your livelihood, and in today’s job market it’s just NOT funny. Conniving and deceitful coworkers are a dime a dozen. I know I sound like Negative Nelly, but I’ve seen it too many times that I can count. You have coworkers who are your “friends”, but when it comes to work, that is a word that doesn’t exist. I came to the conclusion long ago that, on the job is just that, work. If it was fun or easy, they’d call it something else, and they wouldn’t have to pay. Best wishes!

  6. Anonymous

    Precisely

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