Is it normal to dream or fantasize of writing a resignation letter?

14 Comments

1. Sue Gordon- retired Career CoachSeptember 22,2021 at 5:25PM UTC

   So glad you are actively looking for a job! I would say it is very normal to imagine handing in your notice- use it as motivation to continue the job search so that your fantasy can become your reality. Good luck!

2. AnonymousSeptember 22,2021 at 5:32PM UTC

   Actually this is rather healthy and will help drive you to find a better fit so you can realize that dream!

3. Susan RoblesSeptember 22,2021 at 5:38PM UTC

   I've seen alot of resignation letters. My suggestion is short and only provide the most positive information. Thank the company or the manager and let them know your last day of employment.

   I too have fantasized at times about getting it all out! It's not worth it. Be the bigger person and get to a better place.

   Good luck!

4. AnonymousSeptember 22,2021 at 6:11PM UTC

   I have just recently begun to have this thought or just walk out the door and never look back. Those are just "pie in the sky" thoughts though. When the time comes I will write a professional resignation letter and give a proper two weeks notice. But, as of yet, I can't be arrested for wishing.

5. Alexandria Scobee |Leadership Coach | IT ManagerSeptember 22,2021 at 6:12PM UTC

   That sounds completely normal given that you have found it is no longer a fit for you. I hope you get to move on soon

6. Trie AngelevaSeptember 22,2021 at 6:23PM UTC

   Totally normal thoughts when you're not in a position you like! I really understand trying to make you and this job fit; I've done that a few times and for me it never panned out! I like that your fantasies about this include carrying out the actual sending of the letter and thanking them for the opportunity. It sounds like you plan to make this a reality once you find a job that is a better fit. I did post an article earlier today on LinkedIn that includes 20 questions to ponder before deciding to make a leap. Best wishes!

7. Caroline K Lenher, CMCSeptember 22,2021 at 6:42PM UTC

   I used to dream about that all the time in my last role...mine was more the movie "I quit, I am out, good luck without me!" moment though personally :) That feeling and instinct is a big reason I went into coaching to support others in the same boat and I can tell you, as others have here, you are not alone...Your talents will be appreciated by the right boss team and company, let me know if I can support you in any way!

8. AnonymousSeptember 22,2021 at 7:23PM UTC

   Thank you so much for your response. I'm having a hard time believing I can find the right boss or company. Some companies traumatize you and give you such negative experience, I fear it will be the same in other places.

9. Caroline K Lenher, CMCSeptember 22,2021 at 8:39PM UTC

   I understand that completely, there is a PTSD that happens when you leave a bad boss or company, I have been there a few times so can sympathize. That said, you can find healthy work environments and professional relationships...your awareness of what was toxic is step one. I am happy to do a complimentary strategy session with you on this if that would support you?

10. AnonymousSeptember 22,2021 at 7:25PM UTC

    I say emphatically - make that fantasy a reality! There is absolutely nothing more empowering than saying “no!” and leaving a bad job. You deserve more. With the holidays fast approaching there are many opportunities out there for those who are willing to take the leap. Go for it!!!! I can guarantee you will not ever regret it.

11. AnonymousSeptember 22,2021 at 8:42PM UTC

    It sounds like you are ready to move on. Many other employees are feeling the same way and looking to part ways with their current employers. If the pandemic has taught us anything, it's that life is too short to do anything that doesn't feed our happiness. I felt the same way after working for a nightmare HR Director. My colleagues were great, but she was terrible. She gaslighted me, threw me under the bus in front of her manager, ignored my e-mails, didn't provide critical information (like essential passwords) and made my life a living hell for a year. I imagined how it would feel to deliver my resignation notice and even fantasized about it. Seriously! I was so happy when I was finally able to deliver my resignation letter. I practically danced into her office. She ended up being terminated for incompetence, but not before driving out a few dozen employees. The fact that you are so unhappy there and have been for some time is very telling. Hence the reason that you think about what you are going to say in your resignation letter. I hope you get out of there and get into a role where you will feel appreciated and valued.

12. AnonymousSeptember 22,2021 at 10:17PM UTC

    Thanks

13. Kari ParkerSeptember 22,2021 at 10:09PM UTC

    I've actually typed them up and then deleted them.

14. DanielleSeptember 23,2021 at 1:27PM UTC

    I think this is natural, especially if you’ve outgrown the position.