I’m stressed and I need some help figuring out what I’m going to do.

Anonymous

February 27,2023 at 5:49PM UTC

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I’m stressed and I need some help figuring out what I’m going to do.

I have been with my current employer for just about 7 years. We have recently hired someone who's own boss knows nothing about the tasks and duties that were redistributed into my department that are being handed back to her attention. Why: because a different individual from another department was promoted and said they were no longer responsible for it. Problem: They did not ask us or discuss it while accepting their promotion. I would have been happy to say, until you hire someone within their department that the assignment will remain their task. fast forward: we get stuck with it. Now that a new hire has accepted the job offer (3 months in) they are giving A LOT of push back toward me and the department. Simply because she's not asking the right questions or failing to 'try' at the harder assignments, I'm also learning they are not as ambitious in becoming a self taught learner. In order for me to be successful with all these pivots in my role, I have successfully self taught myself a lot. I even started an SOP for the next person to fill the position. Problem is, I gave my boss a deadline and said it is unacceptable to be doing their work after 3/1. As of 2/27 - my expectation was that she would be ready to take over and I'm still on the receiving end of the push-bash which is causing me stress. I have slowly given her one or two tasks and stated If she would like my help to let me know. I'm asking myself WHEN will she be responsible for her own work? I've been stuck with pivoting my role for over 2 years. I receive a low raise for all the services I provide and I'm finally realizing it won't change and now seeking work elsewhere. Food for thought: Would you advise I set my boundary and state I will not maintain the files, or Do I continue to help and job search hard while I keep my mouth shut and accept a job offer with a better environment? I want to work with a team that if you see the sugar packet on the floor, even though you know it's not your job, you pick it up anyway. I want a team where I hear yes, you know what let me free up my time so that we can discuss a deliverable and I can understand it better so that I can begin taking over. That's the heck yeah environment I want and we all deserve and somehow, I'm stuck in a reality far from it.

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Huong Nguyen-ValleFebruary 27,2023 at 7:12PM UTC
Hi! What is your position at the company? Are you a manager or in a leadership role?
Everyone learns very differently and you cannot expect them to be self-taught as you are. Have you asked how the person learns best and help them? Also, the person who took the promotion is on them and their boss to decide if they keep the tasks are not.
Are you still happy in your role? If not, it is best to set boundaries and find a new job.
AnonymousFebruary 27,2023 at 9:27PM UTC
Hi Nguyen & Anonymous,
Thanks
for your feedback. I'm 18 years in my career, 7th year High Level Senior
Manager. I LOVE what I do. I do not enjoy some people I work with or come into
contact with when conducting business.
The
tools and resources available that I have put together I think are reasonable. I
am upfront and do ask their learning style. I get full cooperation until
something changes. I ask the hard questions, I ask how I can help. Each
conversation gets curt or unresolved. I can’t feel bad for how someone is going
to react, I only hope they understand I’m their ally, I 100% agree with you
that everyone learns differently, and I have put this into my training practice.
I have developed this 4 step learning process, (1) Video Resources/Job Aids to
develop a foundation (2) 1:1 peer training of that material (3) soft data training
(4) Live Data training. The bottom line
affects my department, however, the issue in the organization was eventually
abandoned which impacted the department I lead. I enabled their abandonment by
taking ownership on a temporary basis and now ready to delegate this task with
the support of the leadership/organization.
I think at the end of the day, I’m just trying to work with my new colleague without the push-back & I wish I understood where this pushback stems from better. Maybe the next time I’m onsite I invite her to coffee/or something and get to know her better.
Huong Nguyen-ValleMarch 1,2023 at 12:13AM UTC
Coffee sounds like a great plan! After all, we are humans, and getting to know each other is good :) I mean you do not need to be friends but getting along is good
AnonymousFebruary 27,2023 at 9:12PM UTC
I am in a very similar situation to yours and now burnt out yet no appreciation but more critiscm from CEO how i am not doing enough despite putting extra 10-20 hours per week on top of the 40 regular.
Just like you i am actively job seeking but I have also started new boundaries. I am not taking extra work from staff who quit, i am not working extra hours anymore and i am prioritizing my work before doing anybody's tasks. I would like to hear more advise/
AnonymousFebruary 27,2023 at 9:30PM UTC
Encase you need to need to hear this, You got this! I hope your job search goes well or that your organization takes steps to support your boundaries. I also hope that we hear back from someone with good feedback from their own experience. I thought, maybe I need to develop a better rapport and put our work relationship back on track. I'm going to try this step when I'm onsite next.
AnonymousFebruary 27,2023 at 9:26PM UTC
Hi Nguyen & Anonymous,
Thanks
for your feedback. I'm 18 years in my career, 7th year High Level Senior
Manager. I LOVE what I do. I do not enjoy some people I work with or come into
contact with when conducting business.
The
tools and resources available that I have put together I think are reasonable. I
am upfront and do ask their learning style. I get full cooperation until
something changes. I ask the hard questions, I ask how I can help. Each
conversation gets curt or unresolved. I can’t feel bad for how someone is going
to react, I only hope they understand I’m their ally, I 100% agree with you
that everyone learns differently, and I have put this into my training practice.
I have developed this 4 step learning process, (1) Video Resources/Job Aids to
develop a foundation (2) 1:1 peer training of that material (3) soft data training
(4) Live Data training. The bottom line
affects my department, however, the issue in the organization was eventually
abandoned which impacted the department I lead. I enabled their abandonment by
taking ownership on a temporary basis and now ready to delegate this task with
the support of the leadership/organization now that they have hired for this
new position.
I think at the end of the day, I’m just trying to work with my new colleague without the push-back & I wish I understood where this pushback stems from better. Maybe the next time I’m onsite I invite her to coffee and get to know her better.
AnonymousFebruary 27,2023 at 9:59PM UTC
Reality check......this is tge evolution of the cultural and environment you now work in. It will not change until leadership or someone with the authority and interest changes the work flow.
AnonymousFebruary 27,2023 at 10:47PM UTC
Another note to add: Leadership is 100% supportive. Changes are slowly being made, however, after reflecting on this I realize people are afraid of change. People resist change. I’m female and know how disproportionally we are paid against those in the same industry who are male. Why, as a female do I see other women compete with one another? Disrespect one another? What is there to gain? Would you stick out the change to see it through, or, get a job elsewhere? There's got to be a work environment that does not tolerate or allow disrespect, period.
Zeecil KimmelMarch 1,2023 at 4:22PM UTC
I had a similar experience at my last job working for 2 years doing my manager's job for no raise and watching younger individuals coming in with higher pay and my having to train them and continue to do their work and mine until they were ready. I finally realized I need to love myself and I got a new job - better pay and much better work experience. 7 years is a long time to be at a company and most places forget how to value their employees after that amount of time.
AnonymousMarch 1,2023 at 4:27PM UTC
One way to approach this is the arrange with your boss a review of your job responsibilities and expectations. That way your boss can (hopefully) can work with the other manager about review results.
Communication CoachMarch 1,2023 at 9:36PM UTC
This is such a conflict of what you know is the right and professional thing to do and how you feel like doing what they probably deserve. Always always leave a company with the best performance and record you can possibly exit with. When things are not handled well or right, you leave, but, until then, for your own reputation, you perform your best.
AnonymousMarch 1,2023 at 10:04PM UTC
I’m 55 and not that professional anymore. Still in the corporate world, I just refuse to do more work than what I’m getting paid to do. If your already doing the work, you put a price on it and charge your company for it, or, don’t do it. If it doesn’t get done, whose fault is it? They cannot blame you if you have already told them you were not going to be doing it after 3/1. Just let it sit! Try it. Your going to leave anyway. Just let it sit, and see what happens.