Commute to work

Anonymous

September 22,2022 at 10:32PM UTC

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Commute to work

Good day, on my daily commute to work, a lot of men (strangers) constantly greet me by saying, " Good morning, baby or baby girl." Is this normal? I am a female and I feel very uncomfortable when I am greeted like that. I don't respond to the men but I have to deal with this on a daily basis. However, I have told some of those men in the past to stop greeting me like that because I do not like it and I'm not their friend in any way, but they said that I'm practically delusional.

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AnonymousSeptember 23,2022 at 12:09AM UTC
Ignore the comments and stop engaging with these men. Avert your eyes, stop trying to teach them a lesson.
JJSeptember 23,2022 at 12:20AM UTC
I would not avert my eyes. I would stare directly at them, silently.
JJSeptember 23,2022 at 12:19AM UTC
Yeah those kind of men are called jerks. Nice guys don’t use words like that and if they do, they stop immediately and apologize if you tell them it bothers you.
AnonymousSeptember 23,2022 at 12:54AM UTC
This can be normal for some men, it's more prevalent in some cultures over others and in men that are 50+ or in their 20s and with their friends trying to act cool.
Assuming you are on some sort of public transit or rideshare. If you are commuting and not the one operating the vehicle you are in, put on headphones. You don't need to actually listen to music (though if they have wires you should plug them into something that can give off sound to make it believable). Headphones have become a universal signal for leave me alone, don't bother me, etc. They might still say something but it gives you an easy out not to engage them, especially considering that when you did engage you didn't achieve what you wanted. Eventually, they should stop saying anything to you and leave you alone.
FGB userSeptember 24,2022 at 8:50PM UTC
Ignore - that's insane - major jerks