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Move across the country to be closer to family or stay where I am for a job?

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Move across the country to be closer to family or stay where I am for a job?

I have a dilemma. I have been unemployed for 16 months: a year for a career break and 6 months searching without success. Meanwhile, I have been under a lot of stress battling some new health issues (possibly from stress) and dedicating my life to the job search. Now, when I am planning to move across the country to be closer to family and continue care there, a job that I applied for about a month ago ( 2 interviews with HM, but did not hear from her for 3 weeks) have contacted me to proceed with the hiring process meeting the next level management next week. To provide context, she apologized for the delay and gave me valid excuses. I feel like I have no purpose in the city where I am now and have lived for 7 years. I would not mind a change and feel strongly that I could find a great job in the new city, even if it takes a few months. I still have savings to support the move and the new place is cheaper. However, I am concerned about passing this opportunity in this job market if they offer me the job. I appreciate your honest insights! Thanks!

7/11 Update: I interviewed for the position and made it as a finalist, but did not get an offer. The HM called me to give me the news and provided awesome feedback, including applying for another position that will open soon. I appreciated her feedback tremendously. Thanks for your feedback as well!

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  1. Danielle Blugrind

    When you think about NOT pursuing one path, then the other, which fills you with more anxiety and regret?

  2. Anonymous

    If you can, complete the process and see if you can get an offer.

    If that happens see if that can be accomplished remotely or with minimal travel to the office.

  3. Anonymous

    Absolutely interview! You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take. Just when we feel down and out, opportunities show up. Our minds play tricks, making us feel vulnerable and "home" feels so good that we want that with those we love. However, if you are in your power earning years, get employed, stay employed, then make your life plans later. Plus this job may allow remote. Don't miss a chance to being considered. Interviews are just like dating. There's no relationship yet, there's just checking each other out . Do your due diligence and honor a commitment which started when you applied. Stick with it, then make a decision based on if there is an offer. Good luck to you and keep us posted!

  4. Maggie Soldano

    Hey, that's great! Take the interview! A bird in the hand, they say, right?

    If they offer you the job, you'll have more options — building your savings further, relieve your stress, ensure you have healthcare. Who knows, you could even work out an arrangement where you can work from your home town for awhile to see if it can be a permanent arrangement. If that's not possible, it will give you time to search for work closer to your support system.

    My recommendation: define your goals. If a goal is to relocate — and considering it might take you a year to do so with an offer for work under your arm — this interview could be the perfect enabler for that goal.

    You got this!

  5. Anonymous

    Great advice. Thank you!

  6. Anonymous

    Please accept whatever job it is. It will reduce your stress of worrying about paying bills plus add to your resume. Give just 1 hour out side work to sharpen your skills. It's a cruel world

  7. Ayian

    The job market is not rough, despite people talking like it is. Unemployment rates are similar to pre COVID. Additionally, many of the senior most people retired earlier than they had planned, creating a lot of movement in organizations that ordinarily does not occur, leaving lower positions more available, even today. In your position, I would start applying to roles near your family and make the move. There are always other jobs.

  8. Julie E

    Go to the interview and see if you get offered the job. If you do, take it and work for a while to rebuild your savings. That will help alleviate your stress load. I know I would be a mess if I was burning through my savings. If you really do want to move, you can look for opportunities in the new city while collecting a paycheck from this job, or see if they have opportunities in that city.

  9. Anonymous

    Go to the interview, if you get the offer then perhaps negotiate a remote role with them if possible. You can use aging family members as an excuse. If it fails then keep moving.

  10. Anonymous

    Is the position remote? maybe you can do both.

  11. Anonymous

    I would just move across the country if I were you.

    You sound like you're done with where you're living now. You say you'd welcome a change, living expenses are lower where your family are, you still have savings, you can be close to family and you can continue to treat your health issues there as well.

    It's a tough job market out there, to be sure, but at the end of the day nothing is more important than your health and your family.

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