How to Handle Discussion Derailment

How to Handle Discussion Derailment

There has been a reoccurring pattern of someone who works on a on a collaborating team taking over any meeting they join for their questions and topics no matter the original agenda. This team has two touch bases a week where he can freely ask questions about his own specific tasks there is no reason for him to monopolize every discussion everywhere. Has anyone else encountered this?

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  1. Anonymous

    Yes there are some practical techniques.

    1- start with a visual
    of the agenda when
    you open the meeting. Here’s the purpose of this meeting and we hope to obtain X information. If we achieve that info fasted, we’ll end early. If no, we’ll schedule a follow up.
    2- I take notes on the screen using MIRO. for all to see. That’s how I “manage the discussion” to achieve the goal of the meeting.
    3 I have a section where I note the types of
    topic that are often seen as “derailment.” I have found that there is usually
    a solid point in there. They are often risks, assumptions, dependencies, and considerations. I’ll note that feedback via a
    post it.
    4 finally. I design the conversation to account for those opposing ideas. That diversity of thinking is often very useful and
    productive. For example, ill
    list a few questions and give each team member a set of post-it’s and 20 minutes to respond to each question. For example- Imagine we’ve finished doing XYZ- what will
    we now have? What is the reason to change now? What are some reasons why we might fail? posing questions for all to respond to on
    post it helps manage differing ideas and then you can choose how you facilitate the
    discussion.

    check out “design thinking workshops” and template sin
    miro for help.

  2. Anonymous

    Yes. Without structure abd adherence to an agenda, meetings become free-for-alls.

    There must be clear management of any meeting. A "please bring this up at you 2x weekly meeting " messaging.

    If the management of the meetings is passive then you lose control and people like the one described become the manager and their agenda rules.

  3. Anonymous

    The person who organized and is running the meeting should step in and tell this person that these comments need to be brought up at (whatever the appropriate forum is) and that the current meeting needs to stay on track with its agenda.

  4. Liz Milne

    The chair needs to be a bit stricter. 'Thanks, [name], but we're not discussing that at the moment, the next item on the agenda is [whatever].' And repeat yourself, allowing just a trace of irritation to show through if he persists. OR - just don't include him in the next meeting, or only call him in when you're ready to discuss his contribution?

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