Hello, I'm resigning from a company where I've experienced harassment from two individuals, including my direct supervisor, and have reported both with little success.

93 Comments

1. AprilJanuary 20,2023 at 3:15PM UTC

   Hello

   I am sorry to read that your experience had been challenging. You may find comfort in knowing that a 2 week notice is not a law but is more of a professional courtesy. It may be helpful to review your handbook to see if you will or will not be considered for rehire in the absence of a 2 week notice.

   Since you have decided to leave and do not wish to speak with anyone ( exit interview or otherwise) I would advise against sharing your thoughts in the resignation letter. Short and simple with an effective date.

2. AnonymousJanuary 20,2023 at 3:38PM UTC

   Thank you April. I do not wish to be rehired by this group and the most I would need would be a reference, which I doubt would be provided positively given the circumstances. I very much appreciate your comments and direction.

3. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 3:11AM UTC

   References for this job: Any clients/customers? Any service providers from outside this company with whom you worked (lawyers, accountants, consultants, etc.)?

4. JoyJanuary 23,2023 at 2:06PM UTC

   The only thing your current employer can say is that you were employed. Unless you give permission for someone specifically to speak to your performance, they are not allowed to by law.

5. AnonymousJanuary 21,2023 at 4:15AM UTC

   Can you get short-term disability?

   And a big NO to any disclosures about mental health issues, even if caused by them. Or maybe especially because they caused them. If they gave a crap about your mental health, you wouldn't be in this position.

6. AnonymousJanuary 21,2023 at 7:28PM UTC

   That is so true. If they gave a crap about my mental health, I wouldn't be in this position to begin with. Thank you for saying that so clearly.

7. Ally MorganJanuary 21,2023 at 1:53PM UTC

   I have a professional and put together girlfriend who recently quit a job and gave 0 days notice. It sounded bold when she told me, but when you think about it there's nothing wrong with it. How many days notice do employers give when they fire you? Also, it doesn't sound like you will be ysing these people as references going forward. Good luck. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Get out!

8. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 4:04AM UTC

   In light of the circumstances, give as much or as little notice as you see fit.

   Two weeks is standard in typical circumstances, but your situation is not typical.

   Letter: Short and sweet — you’ve already been through too much to stress about a resignation letter, and why make them privy to your sensitive personal information? Send the letter to HR and, if you wish, to your manager or a senior executive.

   ***Before sending the letter, make sure that you have a mechanism for making sure that all amounts owed you have been paid and other arrangements made: salary, accrued leave, unused sick leave (if available), work expenses that you incurred and have not been reimbursed, any severance payment, pension or other retirement benefits, etc. You also want to make sure that all tax withholding is correct and that you have returned any company equipment. Do you want to continue your company medical insurance for the period allowed by the federal COBRA law? (You pay up to 102% of the premium) Do you want to apply for disability payments?
   You will need to review and sign the paperwork, so you might *NOT* want to leave immediately.

   Try this for a resignation letter (you can email it):

   RESIGNATION LETTER TEMPLATE

   Mr./Ms./Mrs./Mx. (Select one) (Insert Last Name):

   I hereby resign the position of (Title) at (Company Name), effective (Date, Time *OR* immediately).

   Please contact me at (our offices *OR* insert Outside Contact Information) to finalize all paperwork, financial matters and other arrangements connected with this resignation.

   Sincerely,

9. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 1:53PM UTC

   Thank you. Something I mentioned during a workplace wellness meeting was used against me too - I was apparently overreacting to the harassment because of something that happened in my past. How messed up and manipulative is that?

10. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 3:05AM UTC

    Overtly sadistic, manipulative and unethical. Shouldn’t your comments during a wellness session be kept confidential?

    I wish that workplace bullying/harassment was always actionable — not only in cases in which discrimination was present.

11. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 1:40PM UTC

    Sorry you went through this. I recently had a similar situation with one boss. If we were walking the building together, he'd say to anyone we encountered - "She's MINE, you can't have her." He would also put his arm around me. We had NO relationship, I asked him repeatedly to stop and he would not. I reported him and got a lame-axx apology and it kept up. Just a thought, please don't read this wrong - he is a minority and I am not. I had found another job and I quit immediately, and said it was due to those circumstances. Sometimes, you just gotta GO.

12. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 2:33PM UTC

    I'm so sorry you went through this. Did you need a reference from your supervisor or employer for the next job you found?

13. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 9:08PM UTC

    No. I work in a field that everyone knows how awful my former employer is.

14. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 2:49AM UTC

    You can always get references from colleagues or customers.

    No need to feel trapped with a dysfunctional supervisor due to a concern about references.

15. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 3:34AM UTC

    Thank you for this!

16. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:45PM UTC

    I am in recruiting. It has been over 20 years since any large company would request for references due to liability and no one will give a name out of someone who would bad mouth them. It is standard practice if you do get a call to provide a reference for someone, to let them know the company policy is to refer them to HR and HR can only confirm title and dates of employment. No more salary checks or voluntary vs involuntary departure. If someone does ask for references, just say that your job search is confidential.

17. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 3:03AM UTC

    Hi,

    Thank you for the information. What do you mean by telling the new prospective employer that "my job search is confidential"? Wouldn't that turn them off from hiring me?

18. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 8:24PM UTC

    If someone is fully employed, they must keep their job search confidential to avoid it getting back to their current employer that they are on a job search. I have not heard of companies asking for references due to the liability it can cause if the person does not get the job based on a reference and nobody would give the name of a reference that would say something negative about them.

19. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:59PM UTC

    I’m sorry you went through that experience. But to be clear ladies that example IS sexual harassment!! Go but do not leave it for the next lady to deal with Wrong is wrong!

20. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 2:45AM UTC

    I'm sorry that happened to you. I believe Karma will find her way to him. Good for you for valuing your mental health and getting out of there. You're probably attractive to him, and he had no game. There are lots of jobs out there where you don't have to put up with that kind of harassment. If it happens again, record them and sue the company.

21. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 4:11PM UTC

    There is a repeating theme in a lot of recent posts about employees being harassed to the point of quitting. Any lawyers here who know what it takes to change employment law in the US? What if we got, let’s say, a million women to sign off that this at will employment BS needs to change?

22. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:09PM UTC

    Back in the day, the formation of unions were used to address issues as are posted herre.

    If you wanted to change employment law that is asking for a whole lot and by the time anything useful is created (govt is a beauracracy) then it would be useless for today's situation.

    My answer would be, if someone needs to leave, go start up their own business and be better than the former boss!

23. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:27PM UTC

    It definitely needs to change! Let's organize and do this!!

24. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 5:43PM UTC

    Have you contacted your local EEOC office? It sounds like you might have a claim and should report this. You do not say what type of harassment you are experiencing but additionally speaking to a labor attorney should be your next step. Do not quit as this will haunt you and surely taint your next work experience if you do not address the why. Good luck.

25. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 6:31PM UTC

    I have and while I can file a retaliation claim for a written writeup I received a few days after filing for FMLA, the harassment does not meet the standards for grievous injury and legally, the organization has an investigation with an outcome. I did send a rebuttal in to the write-up as well. Can you explain further what you mean by this will haunt me and taint my next week experience?

26. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 2:46AM UTC

    I’m a reader who feels that resignation is the right thing to do. Last year, I resigned a job where my co-manager had begun to harass me to the point of screaming accusations at me (not a metaphor — colleague’s voice literally raised.)

    Walking away from the situation left me feeling empowered — rather than seeing conditions continue to deteriorate, I left.

    My strong feeling in your case is that your resignation is an act of strength and self-care, *not* a defeat.

27. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 2:48AM UTC

    Thank you so much. This means so much to me. I will keep your words close to me in moments of doubt.

28. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:06PM UTC

    Kudos! I was in a similar situation. I was told by the Office of Civil Rights to file with the EEOC and the DOJ. The company I work for is well known. So, a little bite to remind them to mind their HR business should be good.

    I sent a report to HR. They did not even want to follow up with me. I told them to. I know that they did not investigage because a coworked has been updating me.

    I did not go back to work. I have PTSD, some depression and shoulder, back injuries.

    It sounded like the boss retailiated by writing up. I had this happen on a past job, and more recently, I was getting verbal warnings. If your gut instinct tells you that the "write-up" is in retailiation or error, then listen to your instincts!

    Leaving is never fun but it is empowering. I have had to walk away more than once. It hurt- but it hurt more to stay. If you question whether to stay or not ask yourself,"How important is it?"

    We all should be treating each other with kindness.

29. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 4:56PM UTC

    Where is this grievous injury standard coming from? It is not uncommon for a victim of discrimination to have a write up against him or her. That can be proof of being targeted and the timing issue is very useful. A retaliation charge can be viable whether or not there is "grievous injury". The standard is whether the retaliatory behavior could (not even does just "could") deter or dissuade someone from pursuing their EEO rights under law. I am very concerned about what you have been told and the source of your information. Regarding the FMLA issue: https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fact-sheets/77b-fmla-protections. Regarding the world of retaliation: https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/guidance/enforcement-guidance-retaliation-and-related-issues. There are many other sites but it is best to talk to an employment discrimination lawyer before you make a move.

30. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 6:33PM UTC

    I will share that for the majority of this time, we did not even have a HR person employed.

31. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:24PM UTC

    Maybe an unpopular opinion here, but I’d say no. As horrible as the situation and people you’re dealing with, it’s always better to go out in a professional way. Give two weeks and don’t vent on your way out. It’s a really small world, you never know who you can encounter in the future and you don’t want to exit doing anything that can reflect badly on you. I went through a really bad situation at my last job. I thought I’d give upper management an honest explanation why I was leaving and they’d make changes so others wouldn’t have to experience what I had. You know what it did? Nothing. They didn’t care. It only made things awkward when I ran into them at professional events we both attended.

32. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:27PM UTC

    Thank you. I'm thinking short and sweet is the way to go.

33. Aisha BaxterJanuary 23,2023 at 1:27PM UTC

    I agree, speak to a lawyer today, just get 30 minutes of free council so that you know your rights. Leaving is inevitable but get the guidance from the lawyer on the best way to handle it. Harassment is serious, PTSD is real, you do not deserve this treatment, you must take care of YOU. If you hit a wall with the lawyer and can't get council for some time (maybe they are busy), give your 10 days notice, that is appropriate and you cannot be faulted for it, write the resignation letter, short and sweet, no allegations in that letter, just state you are resigning from your position and providing 10 days notice (that is 10 business days). Be sure to date it, sign it, scan it and email it. Electronic paper trail is essential. Please note, some countries have different requirements for how many days notice to provide. I live in Canada so we have the standard 10 days notice but I have known people resign with one day notice. If you are in a contract following the contract is best action to keep your nose clean. You can always pursue this harassment later with a legal firm when you feel ready. It is your right. Make notes of times and dates of incidents with these people at your work in case you do want to pursue it with a lawyer later. Distance yourself from these people, protect you, no one else will. You are doing the right thing. I support you. You are one of the strongest people I know. You will get through this. I am so glad you reached out and posted this message. Hugs.

34. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:34PM UTC

    Thank you. I have to give notice today for it to be ten days and I'm waiting to hear back from an attorney. I'm not required to give two weeks notice but I know it's professional to do that. I think in light of my health issues and the denial of leave, it's probably ok to take an extra day if needed.

35. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:29PM UTC

    Don't resign without consulting an employment lawyer. If you resign this can impact your ability to claim unemployment especially if your former employer will not support it. Additionally, you sound like you may have encountered harassment, harassing someone into quitting is not permissible.

36. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:33PM UTC

    Before you make that decision, check with your state's local employment laws. Most states are at-will employment. With that said, You should write your resignation letter, keeping it short and sweet. Just tell them that you are resigning effective [] and decided not to return. Why stress yourself out more by returning to such a hostile environment? They are probably expecting you not to return anyway. This could be their way of pushing you out. Quiet firing as it is termed.

37. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 2:19AM UTC

    Quiet firings, quitting hirings, and quitting quitting, oh boy. You are probably correct; they might be expecting her to quit.

38. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:47PM UTC

    I am so sad to hear this and unfortunately do not have any advise of my own as I am experiencing a similar situation. I was wondering if any could advise how to get diagnosed - I am currently experiencing stress and depression as a result of work, my doctor is aware but I do not have a formal diagnosis. If anyone is able to advise that would be appreciated - sorry if I should have posted this else, do let me know and I will do so.

39. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:52PM UTC

    Go to a psychiatrist. They will document it for you. Medical doctors/family doctors normally would refer you out or should refer you out to a mental health professional.

40. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 4:25PM UTC

    thank so much

41. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 6:29AM UTC

    FYI: Depending on where you live in the US it might be difficult to get an immediate appointment with a psychiatrist. The pandemic created a great demand for psychological services. Ask your primary physician for a referral.

42. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 4:34PM UTC

    Go to your health plan to see a list of psychiatrists, psychologists, and licensed clinical social workers. If your primary didn't make a diagnosis, they should be able to. If you have an employee assistance plan at your job, call them. The EAP where I work has six free visits with a mental health professional. The EAP won't help with the legal part against your employer for obvious reasons; but, if you have an EAP, you should be able to get a referral if not direct preliminary counseling.

43. Tena MooreJanuary 23,2023 at 1:49PM UTC

    I experienced this same thing. Two individuals were pretty much bullying me (2 men) and making it hard to do my job by keeping information from me that I needed. I went to HR twice, with no success. I was even told 'Don't let those boys railroad you!' - but nothing was done to stop them. One was my direct supervisor.

    All this to say, I feel you and I'm so sorry this is happening. I eventually quit, but I haven't been able to find a job since, so sometimes I wish I had stayed.

44. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 1:59PM UTC

    Yes, it's ok to give less than 2 weeks notice unless your employment contract explicitly says you need to give a specified notice period. I would personally not put any details in the letter, I would just say you are resigning and your last day of work will be (whatever) and thanks for the opportunity to have worked there.

45. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 1:27AM UTC

    Maybe she shouldn't put "thank you for the opportunity" if she's about to sue them. The employer's lawyer or firm will use it against her.

46. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 9:00PM UTC

    If she's going to sue them she shouldn't resign before lawyering up and getting advice on if she can even resign or she has to wait to be terminated.

47. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 2:20PM UTC

    You can resign at anytime, no notice is required, even if you give 2 weeks notice the company may make your resignation effective immediately.

    On the opposite side companies do not give notice when they lay people off. Many pay severance but even that is not a legal requirement and may come with strings attached.

48. Balanced372207January 23,2023 at 2:28PM UTC

    Don't put anything in the letter that an employee rights attorney hasn't given the okay on. I highly recommend you consult one immediately.

49. Bradford McCormickJanuary 23,2023 at 2:30PM UTC

    I am not a lawyer. You need to do what you need to do for your health. What do you owe the people who gave you PTSD? Nothing except to get away from them (remember Lot's wife in the bible!).

    Say nothing to them beyond what is absolutely necessary. It probably is safe to say you need to leave due to your health. You have to tell them you are leaving. And if they would (which they surely won't) try to do anything to you, get a lawyer and countersue.

    The thought which goes through my mind (I fortunately was made redundant from my last job which gae me PTSD) is all you are required to give according to the Geneva Conventions if you are captured by the enemny is: name, rank and serial number.

    Think what you want. Keep it to yourself. And remember to not look back once you are safe.

50. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 2:36PM UTC

    2 weeks is a professional courtesy, not a requirement, at least in the US. All you need to write is “This letter serves as my notice that my last day with (company) is (date).” “I am resigning my position with (company) effective (date)” also works. You don’t need to say anything more, and I wouldn’t.

51. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 2:36PM UTC

    Thank you for sharing. I'm not the OP but find myself currently in a similar position as you. I have my own company but due to cash flow, I needed to re-enter the workplace. Now I find myself in an abusive workplace where I can't get another manager. It's getting to the point I need to drink alcohol or take cbd to get through a workday with her. I never imagined that i would have 3 degrees, amazing certifications, and feel so trapped.

52. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 4:39PM UTC

    Also beware of being hungover or sliding into drinking during working hours. That is misconduct and could be a firing offense. Do not believe that being labeled an alcoholic is an ADA protected disability. It may not be. Be careful. Alcohol is not a good choice for many reasons including being a justification for firing you. Good luck.

53. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 1:54AM UTC

    But you're not trapped. Update your resume and start looking for another position online. Practice your interview skills, and things will change. Also, stay in prayer; God is powerful, and all of a sudden that annoying person at work will become insignificant. They themselves may quit. One of the things I've learned over the years is not to put all my eggs in one basket; that's what causes people to feel trapped. Start putting those degrees to work and start working on other new ventures, i.e., online tutoring, to create diverse cashflow. Good luck.

54. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 9:55PM UTC

    I've been looking over a year. A few nibbles and low ball offers. I do still have my business going but again the cash flow problem. Trying now to do more networking to escape.

55. AnonymousJanuary 25,2023 at 12:39AM UTC

    I had a friend for whom it took 2 years to find a good-paying job.

    Don't give up hope, seriously, claim the position you want, put it out there in the universe.

    True story........... I was unemployed 15 years ago; it was for about a year, like you, and one of my friends gave me a positive affirmation book. In conjunction, I started reading the book of Psalms, although I'm not particularly a religious person. I figured it couldn't hurt, and I needed all the help I could get. After reading the affirmations and the psalms, I claimed my current position.

    I called a temp agency where I had worked a year before. I told them I was looking for a temp-to-perm position at XYZ law firm. They told me they had an XYZ account. They said once a spot is available, they will contact me. I prayed about it, and in less than a week, the temp agency called to say they had a temp-to-perm position for me.

    I immediately knew that the individual I would be working for is a difficult person to work with; otherwise, why would they go outside their firm?

    So, I took the position, and less than a week later, the partner I was working for offered me the position. I went to HR, and they told me to wait 30 days and see if I felt the same way.

    Well, it took that partner less than nine days to show their true colors. They went behind my back and wanted to hire another person who was a permanent floater in the firm.

    I gave the other floater my blessings, and I went back to HR and said, "Thank you for the opportunity to work at XYZ." I truly loved it here; however, I am seeking a permanent position.

    Well, a day later, that floater I gave my blessing to was in my position, and I was moved to her former position, with HR offering me a full-time permanent floater position with good salary and benefits (401k, etc.). Immediately afterwards, a partner snatched me up, and over 15 years later, I'm still here, about to move on and get my bachelor's & MBA.

    The moral of this story is to claim what's yours, don't give up, and believe that there's a position out there with your name on it!

56. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 2:47PM UTC

    Thank you. I don't understand why I should disclose my personal health information to my employer, though. Could you explain?

57. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 4:29PM UTC

    Do not give your personal health information. But do discuss how you were mistreated and that you are resigning due to the impact of that mistreatment on your health. Run this by an employment discrimination attorney before you act if at all possible. Try the local bar association for reduced fee consultations. Some lawyers have free consultations. Just be sure to prepare everything you need to communicate in the allotted time. Don't let an attorney waste time with their sales pitch and don't retain anyone until you are clear on the terms.

58. Jessica WeaverJanuary 23,2023 at 10:37PM UTC

    I was definitely in the wrong here, sorry. Others have made excellent points to check out

59. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 1:25AM UTC

    DON'T DO IT.

60. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 3:50PM UTC

    I had a similar problem and ended up with a medical marijuana card. A supervisor asked me to wrirw a report about an infection control concern I noticed and he turned it in as his own and it got him promoted. He never read it and didn't understand it. Upper management asked us both to explain what the report was about and only I had a answer he was told his contact would not be renewed. I was stalked, followed and gaslighted by him and two leads, and then they tried to Baker act me. I would have been better off getting a lawyer.

61. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 8:27PM UTC

    I am so sorry you experienced this. Lawyering up is important, unfortunately.

62. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 4:18PM UTC

    Have you worked there for one year full time without taking FMLA yet? The Family Medical Leave Act entitles you to 12 weeks of unpaid leave for this very reason.

    If you have exhausted your FMLA entitlement and cannot stand to return, then you MUST put the reason why you are leaving down in your resignation letter IF you want to pursue action through the EEOC or the court system later. If you give a polite letter or a basic letter giving no details, that letter will be used to spike any claim of a hostile work environment or discrimination.

    Your best bet now is to discuss this with a lawyer. You need to know your rights and options. There are low fee or free and some expensive consultations out there. Focus on speaking to a lawyer who deals specifically with employment discrimination. Do not go for labor law (could be specializing in unions, wage and hour, or other things that are not your focus). Be careful with employment lawyer, too. If the person has not handled discrimination, harassment, hostile work environment cases, they are useless to you and almost none take contingency (you pay only if you win) cases. It is a hard fight to win but, if you plan any action against your employer in the future, you MUST be specific in your resignation letter (without being hostile) or else any future claim you make will be seriously hindered by that omission.

    I wish you the best. Keep us posted. Your health and well-being come first. If you plan to challenge the way you were treated, you must get legal advice as soon as possible because there are unrelenting deadlines to meet to protect your claims. Feel better and empowered soon!?

63. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 4:28PM UTC

    I believe it should be manadatory to allow body cams on all individuals going forward in all work areas of life. People can't be trust anymore. Police get to wear them. We the people need to prove it's their word against theirs. If you had absolute proof that you were harrassee, you wouldn't have to resign, they'd be fired.

64. Damie WilsonJanuary 23,2023 at 8:02PM UTC

    Sorry for the spelling errors. My eyes are bad now thanks to the lie that legalizing marijuana was a good idea.

65. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 1:10AM UTC

    This is a brilliant idea. Sounds like a great product to invent and become a Billionaire!!! I also feel since there is so much WFH now, we should be allowed to record all phone calls with the other party being aware of this. They will be on their best behavior. If they are foolish enough to email abusive behavior, then easier to prove in a court of law.

66. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 1:33AM UTC

    In most states it only takes one party consent, so technically anyone can record if it's legal in their state. THIS would be something to use in court when they fire. Companies usually have a policy to protect themselves, however the court will ignore that policy if there is egregious behavior that exacerbates dangerous working conditions and that includes danger to one's health (mental AND physical) - in cases like this, fyi, she would win unemployment even if she quit, because it is exacerbating a personal circumstance thereby endangering health. The key is that she should do everything possible to report it to HR. If they do nothing, they'll lose every damn time. She should put her health first no matter what. Stress wreaks havoc on the body and I mean pure CHAOS long term. A good therapist, support system, and some CBD/THC microdosing will help tremendously (of they don't have an addiction issue).

67. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 6:27PM UTC

    I'm the person who posted this. I am in an all party consent state and have never been asked to consent to recordings in this workplace.

68. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 6:11PM UTC

    Do you mean you've been denied a long term paid leave or that you've been denied an unpaid 12 week leave? If you have worked there for a year, I believe yu are entitled to an unpaid extended leave. You should check your employer's leave policy with HR and ensure it is is within the bounds of your state and federal rights. I don't believe any employer is obligated to pay a long term leave beyond what their HR policy requires. Unpaid leave is a given. So before you resign, understand your rights. If, however, you are trying to have your employer assume the responsibility for your disability, that is another thing all together.

69. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 7:15PM UTC

    I've been here less than a year but they have a paid STD policy in place. I've received some but not all of that time, which is defined as STD, sick, and PTO combined. It was denied in accordance with the policy handbook.

70. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 6:41PM UTC

    No don’t resign!!!
    Continue to email HR about their behavior! They will fire you and then you can sue for wrongful termination, pain & suffering, etc.

71. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 7:16PM UTC

    I don't think my mental health can take continued time in this workplace.

72. BellaJanuary 24,2023 at 1:23AM UTC

    Her health is most important. This is bad advice.

73. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 7:29PM UTC

    “Socialism”??? That word doesn’t mean what you think it means…

74. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 7:31PM UTC

    In an era where companies are laying off employees who have worked there 10, 15, 20 years in a mass email, you do not owe jack to this company.

75. Susan Sims-PrittsJanuary 29,2023 at 7:37PM UTC

    I'm so grateful that I live in a non-union, Right-To-Work state! Although we lack some protections of unions, we also are free from the often over-bearing influence and control. Thankfully, as a Human Services Profession, MSW level Social Worker, with one exception, my work environments have been human and compassionate. That doesn't mean it was always easy. Human beings are complicated....... and due to our lack of adequate mental health resources, problems often escalate far beyond the point where they could be handled appropriately. There are drawbacks to being a young, brash, independent country..... LOL.... Oh well. We're fortunate in many other ways. Sounds like you made the best decision for you!!!! Good luck!

76. Damie WilsonJanuary 23,2023 at 8:05PM UTC

    Yea, let's. That way its their word against theirs and how they walk, talk and chew gum at rhe same time can be deemed appropriate behavior. If you heard half of the things me previous employers were doing to Mt Co workers you wouldn't be against the idea.

    Sexually harassing women. Not allowing me to work from home while pregnant. Encouraging me to get an abortion. The administrator discrimination against the black colleagues. Asking people to work for free because they merged with another company by calling it "help." Sure you don't have anything to hide?

77. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 8:05PM UTC

    Human Resources or as I like to call them, "Inhumane Resources" will not help you. They are there to protect the company not the employee. Your complaint is an EEO complaint and as such, you can either contact the EEO Office at your employer's (if they have one), in your state or find an employment attorney. The EEO Office will only find whether or not your complaint is relevant as to race, age, religious, or disability. You will then have to find an attorney on your own. I personally went through this before, after 17 years at a job and learned this through time and error. You have to decide whether or not it's worth it both emotionally and financially. If you are not seeing a Psychologist, I would highly recommend you do, if nothing else, at least to document your anxiety and the rest of the symptoms. DO NOT TRUST HR - They are not there to help you! If you feel termination is inevitable and you want to pursue a complaint, contact an attorney first. If not, put in your resignation letter before they terminate you. Document everything! Contact the disabilities office in your state and find out if the ADA covers extended time off, even without pay because of your condition and also whether or not your employer can terminate you because of your disability.

78. AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 10:06PM UTC

    Involuntary (against the person's will) detention for 3 days due to exhibiting a mental health crisis - Florida.

79. Ann Marie ShraderJanuary 24,2023 at 1:04AM UTC

    Send in your resignation and RUN!

80. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 1:24AM UTC

    That's true. If she sues them, their slimy lawyer will use everything she puts in writing against her. I agree with you. She has to be careful.

81. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 1:43AM UTC

    I know how you feel. We are in the same age bracket. I work in corporate America, and the lack of recognition, micromanagement, passive aggression, and small acts of aggression I have had happen to me or seen happen to others took a toll on me emotionally. I'm burned out. So, when COVID-19 first happened, I decided to go back to online school and get a B.A. in psychology. It made me feel so good about myself that I am about to quit my job to get an MBA degree and maybe start a side business. Moreover, document everything, and consult an employee's attorney to see if you have a case. Maybe think about getting new skills and changing professions; you're still young enough to do it. Learning something new will instill confidence in you and make you feel like you have options. Also, give BetterHelp.com a try. I did it for 8 weeks, and it was very helpful. We have to protect our mental health.

82. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 2:15AM UTC

    Congratulations on your sobriety! I am literally doing my paper on alcohol use disorder (AUD); I, too, almost had an issue with it because I was miserable with my jobs in the past. Thank God, I only drink it when I socialize now, which is not much these days since I'm glued to my laptop doing school work these days.

83. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 6:59AM UTC

    mMy apologies as I haven’t read the other responses. Nonetheless, it will be expensive. However, if you hire an employment attorney, he/she/they may be able to negotiate a severance package before you leave.

    Please be forewarned! The company will lie and throw everything at you when you get an attorney.

84. Lisa MarieJanuary 24,2023 at 11:57AM UTC

    Unless you're under contract with specific terms on how the employment should end, simply write your resignation letter, stating your facts *without emotions* and leave.

    No need to dwell on the traumatic situation, *unless* you wish to pursue your claims of harassment.

85. AnonymousJanuary 24,2023 at 3:54PM UTC

    Recently this happened to me from a co-worker. The past few days nights I have been jumpy; kicking my legs while sleeping!

86. Aisha BaxterJanuary 25,2023 at 4:22AM UTC

    One thing to consider is when leaving do it according to the ministry of labour, 10 days notice. Why? You want a good work reference. Work references can make or break someone. It happened to me. OR and I just thought of this, apply for a new job at another company OR learn how to create passive income. TONS of info on Youtube with creating online things to sell. I am doing it now. I want to make enough money that I can leave my job. Maybe I can't win the lottery but I can make my own future through hard work. Look up publishing on KDP (that is Amazon Kindle Direct Publishing) or look at creating things and selling through Print on Demand, or make candles and sell on Etsy. I watch this one Youtube channel called UpFlip and it has interviews with real people who went from low start up costs to now making thousands of dollars. Some people are in Cafe businesses, some make dog collars and sell on Etsy, some just print stickers and sell on Shopify and Etsy. Be your own boss.

87. AnonymousJanuary 25,2023 at 3:29PM UTC

    Thank you. I am in the US and ten days notice is customary, not required. Appreciate the tips on passive and independent income streams.

88. AnonymousJanuary 25,2023 at 8:59AM UTC

    Before giving up, you must think over the consequences. Because you better know about your liabilities to be met, when there will be no income source. Talk to your seniors and friends to find a way out of the individual or organization. You need a justified action because during the interview for new job they will ask the reason for leaving the last job.

89. Susan Sims-PrittsJanuary 28,2023 at 6:59PM UTC

    Short and sweet.... and professional. "Thank you for the opportunity to work with you, and for the experience. Wishing you the best of luck as you (choose one or make up your own) 1-grow your company, 2- continue with your success, 3- something else....etc. " LOL. Keep it professional, short, non- controversial, etc. Most folks have no desire to know what we think, whether we're correct or not. Save the stories for your friends and family. Find a great new job and move on!!!!! Best of luck! There's the perfect place for you, out there.

90. AnonymousJanuary 29,2023 at 1:57PM UTC

    Hello. I'm the OP. Thank you for your help. I resigned with a short message, did cite that it was due to health issues incurred in the workplace, and requested info to move the offboarding process forward and receive an item from work back. I gave just shy of two week's notice. It was not received well, I don't believe, but it's done. I realized the most urgent thing is for me to get out of there, messily or not. Expressing thanks to an organization that gave me multiple health issues and tried to manipulate the situation to blame me multiple times seemed ingenuine, so I simply signed off with best wishes. Thanks for all of your input.

91. Nina AhujaJanuary 29,2023 at 7:01PM UTC

    Wishing you all the best on closing this chapter and starting a new one.

92. AnonymousJanuary 30,2023 at 3:11PM UTC

    Thank you so much. It has been so, so difficult

93. AnonymousJanuary 30,2023 at 11:06AM UTC

    One more question. Since I resigned in poor standing, do I need to worry about what can come up in a background check? Or that future potential employers may contact this group even if I do not provide a reference to them? I think my employee file will likely not be flattering and I'll be marked ineligible for rehire.