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I’m a Regional Property Manager, been with my company close to five years.

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I’m a Regional Property Manager, been with my company close to five years. My relationship with my supervisor has always been challenging, but there have been improvements over time. She’s obsessive compulsive and controlling and hyper critical, but I love the company and my coworkers. I’m well paid, and pushing 60. Though I could work elsewhere (My industry is pretty low on age discrimination, we are in demand) I do not want to do that. I learned through a conversation with a former coworker that my boss had a series of exchanges over a period of years regarding complaints one of my direct reports had about me. My boss never came to me or to HR. She never encouraged this person to talk to me directly. She just soaked it in, waiting to get the goods on me I am thinking. The person she was speaking with had numerous performance issues and had she remained with the company would have been terminated. My boss speaks about transparency and trust, but has little to none of these things herself. I’m worn out after 5 years of working with her, and not sure of next steps (or maybe just continuing to work around it). My boss has herself been demoted twice in my time there, but I still think she’ll retire working for the company. I’m tired and frankly confused.

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  1. Anonymous

    Confused? I guess you could approach her and open this issue up and see if you need to file a claim with HR. But frankly there has been no damage done and you only heard about a supposed issue through gossip long after the fact. She could have encouraged communication and your former report decided against it.

    This is why third hand gossip is so damaging. You now believe that there was an anterior motive of "getting the goods on you". If you believe everything you hear there you need to get everything out in the open for the full story. You've only heard a small part of the story and that makes you every bit as wrong as what you are accusing your supervisor of. Please don't create something before you know the whole story. It's not right even with your list of historical wrongs your supervisor has endured.

  2. Anonymous

    Good point on the hearsay!

    I went through a lot with direct report in question and probably reacted to that as much as anything else.She was a total nut job and time suck.

  3. Anonymous

    Why worry about it now? It sounds like the complaining employee is no longer with the company and your boss didn’t feel the complaint warranted any formal action from HR so you don’t have any complaints documented in your file. Overall sounds like a positive not a negative!

  4. Anonymous

    Part of being a manager is knowing when someone is just complaining and when something needs to be escalated/confronted. Isn't it possible that, despite your low opinion of your supervisor, she determined that it was best to let this person complain and leave it at that? Isn't it possible you were being considered and protected?

  5. GirlBossanova934974

    I am focusing on one sentence here......."She just soaked it in, waiting to get the goods on me I am thinking. " That sounds like a paranoid statement to me. So you have a manager who has been demoted twice talking to a former employee who would have been fired if she had not left on her own? OK! Who cares? Frankly as a business owner myself, I would say your company's employees have way too much free time on their hands. All this time to worry about office gossip and partake in office gossip!!? I would not be part of the gossip.

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