Why would some coworkers tell me don't work too hard when I really work hard because I want to please my patients and give excellent care?

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July 30,2022 at 4:23AM UTC

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Why would some coworkers tell me don't work too hard when I really work hard because I want to please my patients and give excellent care?

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AnonymousJuly 30,2022 at 8:22AM UTC
I think they would like you to fit in and not burn out.
I know you'd like to stand out and really impress everyone, but make sure you pace yourself so you are there for your patients 100% for the long haul and not lose your focus.
JenniferJuly 30,2022 at 9:37PM UTC
This is a really good point. There may be a line between great service that others give and potentially unsustainable above-and-beyond, "no mountain too high" kind of service that OP is striving to give.
OP, remember to take care of yourself. Give some thought to the above comment and see if it feels like she's on the right track. If your coworkers are dedicated, caring people, then their comments are likely intended to help.
AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 10:41PM UTC
Many thanks, I'll be aware of this.
AnonymousJanuary 23,2023 at 10:37PM UTC
Hi, you're probably right about me that I try to fit in and not burn out. And I just have to accept that not everyone will like me nor my work ethics.
Crystal HowellJuly 30,2022 at 7:37PM UTC
Just Do You!
AnonymousJuly 31,2022 at 7:16PM UTC
This is typical in any workplace. Some people bring their bitterness to work and project that onto others. Don't be that person that absorbs their negativity. Find ways to proactively shield yourself from energy vampires spiritually. Whether its thru prayer, meditation or responding with kind words to break their negativity. Its not you its them. And you do not have to even mentally participate in it. Like Crystal said, just do you. God created you to be happy, so do just that.
JJJuly 31,2022 at 10:20PM UTC
You are making them look bad and reminding them that they suck.
AnonymousAugust 1,2022 at 2:38PM UTC
Translation: "Don't make me look bad."
AnonymousSeptember 17,2022 at 4:44PM UTC
Yes!
I'm a CNA and it s not an easy job. We give customer service and show we really care (acute rehab) . I just reverse roles - what if I'm in their shoes? I feel the need, too. Plus my strongest virtue is patience. After a few weeks of stay they are so grateful about our service (and they give us goodies and food too - not the reason though), but showing compassion towards them. So I feel a sense of fulfillment.