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Need motivation and advice on next steps

I have been employed at an MNC for 7 years now. I started with a newly created role and did very well in the position, since then I have moved three roles, each a newly defined role and have been doing well, marked as a high potential employee. I am in line for a director level position now and have been communicating this clearly with the management/ my bosses that I am looking to move up the ladder. I recently interviewed for a director position in my organization and it was openly acknowledged in the results that I was the best in the interview but did not get the director role as I am "young" and it went to a man 15 years my senior. My current position is starting a new business division for the company and in the 19 months that I have been in the role, the business has increased from scratch to a considerable size with many projects on the floor, but my yearly performance rating was marked as average on the fact that the business does not show profit yet (it is like a start-up, we will need time to break even) even though per projections we are already financially stable and ahead of the curve - even though it was acknowledged that I did extremely good work, my rating was meets expectations. These last two corporate actions have really shaken my confidence and I feel very disillusioned and demotivated. I am giving my 120% to this job and it is demoralizing to see that the effort is not recognized. My company recently offered me a stretch assignment with no increase in pay or designation that I refused and I am hearing now that how "disappointed" my bosses are with my decision. The job market is bad and I am looking for jobs actively but still no luck, how do I turn myself around and go back to the job with my previous drive and enthusiasm? I can barely keep my head above the water these days.

Any suggestions are welcome.

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  1. Anonymous

    It might be time for some soul searching. Do you like the work and are you inspired by your firm’s mission? Or do you like achievement? I get it- the dopamine rush of recognition is intoxicating. But at some point in everyone’s career something like this happens. It’s frustrating as hell. There is nothing wrong with being ambitious- but if all you care about is your performance reviews and growth- unfortunately you will hit a wall. For the next level in your career they likely want to see how you handle the bigger picture. Do you mentor others? Can you bring others up to your level? If all you care about is you and your growth you would be better suited for an eat what kill kind of job like sales or finance ect.

  2. Anonymous

    First did they use the word young? If they did that is an illegal use of how they declined you for the role. Ageism is rampant in companies and you should speak to an attorney about how that was used in declining you. It stinks that you did not get the role but get over it. Clearly there was a more tenured person they chose and that is that. Find the path with your HRBP and manager to the next promotion opportunity for you and let them know that you want to see that move in X amount of time. Be firm, if they value you they will help you path that out. Also, declining work when they are trying to stretch you is a bit of self sabotage here and thought it will sting a bit to do things outside of what you usually do the recipient of that additional stuff to your toolkit is you. If you keep adding more experience there you can take it with you when and if you decide to leave. Take your bruised ego and put it away because it will only hurt you while you continue there, it will be tough but balance out the pain by asking constantly for feedback in writing and accolades. Find an internal mentor from one of the other divisions that has done what you hope to do there. Ask about how they dealt with the speed bumps you are going through. Document every move you make for yourself and your leadership. It seems that revenue is the driving force for some of the companies decisions, focus on showing them how you saved or made money for the. Toot your own horn and be and remain positive if you can. If you need to take a week off to reset your psyche do so because you need a refresher.

  3. Anonymous

    Yes, I know what MNC means but ageism is only accepted if you let it be no matter where you are, competency is what should get people jobs and experience matters.

  4. Anonymous

    This MNC has said in no uncertain terms (and multiple times over) that they place little value on your contributions to the organization. Stop extending courtesies that are not being returned to you. I know you’re already looking for a new job, so channel all of your effort into that.

  5. Anonymous

    I have been in your shoes. They are using you up and I guarantee they will spit you out. I know you're asking about how to get that enthusiasm back, but unless and until you are properly recognized for your contributions, it will not get better.

    You sound very accomplished. Get that on your resume and focus on that job search. A better place will snatch you up. In the meantime, you have a paycheck.

  6. Anonymous

    You're probably too new (with just 19 mos tenure) to be a Director.

    Perhaps you should have accepted the new position they offered. A great CEO gave me the best advice: agree to every task that is asked of you. It will lead you to success. He wasn’t wrong! I've moved up the ladder one rung at a time. Not necessarily the specific path I would have taken, but opportunities nonetheless, which led me to my dream job which I will happily retire from in a few years.
    Maybe see if the bosses will still extend that job offer that you turned down.
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