I work in a very small healthcare facility and have a coworker that undermines and disrespects me to the Doctor.

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April 26,2022 at 6:11AM UTC

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I work in a very small healthcare facility and have a coworker that undermines and disrespects me to the Doctor. I have seen her do this in another office as well. She does it in a subtle way so it’s not obvious to those that don’t know her very well. Subtle jabs and lots of suggestions that I need help and she has the solution. I don’t trust her as far as I can throw her. The Doctor just loves this woman but doesn’t see how insidious she is. I love my job but She’s ruining it for me. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

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AnonymousApril 26,2022 at 9:31AM UTC
I would approach this lady and ask her why she is doing this and you feel like you are being demeaned by her comments (subtle) to the Dr.
AnonymousApril 26,2022 at 11:33AM UTC
The problem with someone like this is the fact that she has already laid the groundwork behind the scenes. She has probably been lying for quite some time and now is at the point of reinforcing her narrative. Unfortunately confronting her in private may help her narrative. It also gives her the opportunity to play the "victim when she was only trying to help you".
Here's what I suggest:
Whenever she makes a subtle jab or suggestion to the doctor in front of you about needing to help you just say, "No darling, I got this. I appreciate your offer to help, but please excuse me. I have work to do." Say it calmly and with a smile. Afterward, turn around and keep working. That way she knows you got her number and the doctor knows you are well equipped to do your job.