I see a lot of posts that tell me "what to say" and "what not to say" in interviews. What bothers me about these posts is that they are often written to appease a deeply flawed and quite broken hiring and interviewing process that champions people who are good in telling others what they want to hear.
In this spirit, let's focus on things you can focus on that are meaningful for you and ensure that you are landing with the right company.
1. It's Not About Them
Why do we still feel that we need to treat an interview as if the company is holding all of the cards? An interview is as much about you and what you want, as it is about the company. This means that YOU should interview who THEY are and ask questions that clarify what the company and their culture is like, how they treat people and what makes them ideal for you! Ask questions about their team. If you are replacing someone, ask why they left and pay attention to what a person is saying between the lines! Ask what the average tenure of people on the team is and do your research about the company. Pay close attention to whom is interviewing you. If the vast majority of your interviewers are white males, that may be a red flag.
2. Be Weary of Dated Patterns
Nothing is more flawed than interviews that ask stupid questions like where you see yourself in 5 years. If you are in an interview and all the questions are literally "straight out of the book," you may want to reconsider. I always look for people and companies that break the mold and are real. I don't want to work with robots who cannot think outside of the box and ask me stupid questions that tell them nothing about me and show that they are simply just going through the motions.
3. Bring Your Whole Self
Interviewing is a bit like dating. You wouldn't want to date anyone who can't accept you for who you are, is unable to see you and can't recognize your strengths. So don't hide aspects of yourself. Be yourself - all the way. Don't censor if you are super passionate, for example. I share what I care about and what my intrinsic motivators are. I wouldn't want to work for a company that doesn't care about that.
4. Be Honest
If they ask a question you don't know the answer to, tell them. Don't answer any question with what you think they may want to hear. Most people can tell when someone is dishonest. They may not register it consciously, but they almost always do at least subconsciously. When you are dishonest, chances are, they will pick up on it. I believe that honesty and integrity matter above all and would never hire a person who is dishonest in their interview.
5. Follow Your Gut - Don't Settle
Sometimes we get desperate and when we are desperate we tend to overlook red flags and warning signs that would have otherwise deterred us from a situation. But if you are in an interview and something doesn't sound right or feel right, listen to it. If they are trying to tell you that your salary is too high or that they can't give you the title you want, don't take the job. If this is their best foot forward, imagine what it will be like once you are there.
A friend once gave me a good piece of advise. She told me to never go backward when starting in a new role or with a new company, something I've done unfortunately numerous times. She told me that companies and recruiters will see that I've settled in the past and would therefore try to make me settle again. Don't do it! A company and people who recognize your value and fit won't blink an eye in paying you what you are worth and giving you the proper title.
Looking for a new job is stressful. Especially when you are unhappy or feel defeated in your current place/role, remember that you have worth and deserve to find the place that will recognize and reward you for who you are. Don't work with or for anyone who weaponizes your strengths and hold them against you. Life is literally too short!
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I have been interviewing since April.
I am working but I am making about $15,000 less then I was.
I have been over-qualified for positions but I am not getting hired.
Now, not sure if it is my age, I am 60 but look 50. Truly do!! Been blessed.
I think I blow it in the interview. I get very nervous for some reason. I don't know what I am doing wrong! You would think after all the interviews I would feel comfortable or used to them.
Does anyone have any hints for interviewing? All of mine have been over Zoom or Teams. Thank you!
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I made a small error at work.
No harm was done. I placed a message that a patient needed blood work on the wrong chart. This was questioned by my manager. Upon reviewing the chart, I realized my error and the patient never had the blood work done.
I am concerned this could become a written warning. If it is a written warning I plan to request it be a teachable moment instead of a warning since no harm was done. Any other advice on how to handle this?
My manager who spoke to me about this issue has made two huge mistakes that I am aware of. If this becomes a written warning should I question if her errors were also written warnings?
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Can I even negotiate pay at this point?
I entered into an interview process after knowing their comp range which was below what I desired. When they asked if the salary range would work for me, I said it was below my desired range but am interested in learning more. I thought perhaps learning the total comp package would make it better but it didn't. For reference, this is a very large private university, not a small business. After learning more about the role, it's clear that the responsibilities are way higher than the title calls for (I'm very confident of this). This role title would be a "step down" for me but the responsibilities match, or perhaps exceed, my current role.
It's a new role they created and frankly, I'm not sure they know exactly what they want/need. I honestly don't know how many folks would do that job with those responsibilities for that price. It seems like an easy "PASS" and move on but I met the whole team and they are so wonderful.
Here I am at the job offer; can I even negotiate a higher salary considering they told me salary is $XYZ - $XYZ? If so... how? What the heck do I say? This people-pleasing gal is stumped.
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I am on my way into maternity leave (29 weeks) and don't want to return to my job. I want to start a new job after my leave. How common is this? Does anyone else have any experience with this?
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An employee's spouse has previously fought and kicked cancer's butt. Unfortunately, it has returned for the 3rd time. I'd love to hear some ways on how to offer support to this family through an employer, aside from a meal train. Thanks in advance!
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a relocated for a job in July, everything was going well. I started to really love my job for the first time and was going over and beyond. Covering managers shifts day and night and more.. never gotten a written up or anything. They fired me without any reasons all they said was you’re not the right fit for us we will have to part ways. I told them they had me relocate for this job and now you want to tell me I’m not the right fit.
I had to break my lease to my apartment and move with my parents. But I am so traumatized. I don’t think I ever would like to work another 9-5