I applied and accepted a new position.

Anonymous

December 9,2022 at 3:36PM UTC

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I applied and accepted a new position. It was based on the recommendation of a friend. At that time I did not realize I was stepping into her role and would now be trained and accountable to her.

I am now having issues because she is passive aggressive when I ask for clarification on some of the info she is training me on. I get a lot of “since I know you want more context, call this number and let me know what they say.” When I ask some questions, she will tell me she will get back with me and later say the issue was resolved without providing info on what was needed to resolve it.

I don’t feel comfortable confronting her actions because I am a subordinate. Is it appropriate to informally address with our lead as an impartial third party? I like the job and appreciate the opportunity. I think she feels threatened by me, but I’m just trying to learn the job so I can be self sufficient.

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AnonymousDecember 9,2022 at 4:14PM UTC
If you want to confront someone you'll need to confront your supervisor first. Keep it professional and I suggest you summarize everything you have questions about or don't understand in writing to her after explain your confusion and include her direction or explanation to ensure you understood correctly and to make sure you two are on the same page.
Being a professional means overlooking your history and friendship and treating this situation accordingly. You don't need an impartial 3rd party. There is no issue yet. I wouldn't suggest bringing others into your situation. This is a professional situation until she uses it as personal. Stay professional and you should be fine. She's learning how to manage you just like you are learning to be managed by her. Leave your history out of it.
Crystal HowellDecember 9,2022 at 7:25PM UTC
I would get my answers elsewhere, ask co worker , take online classes, etc. People change when they get a title "manager", Corner her for the resolution, in writing.
In regards to this issue, can you advise how it was resolved ................................
Friendship is over, business only. Sorry about that, wasn't nice of her to spring I'm your boss on you either...........................
AnonymousDecember 9,2022 at 8:54PM UTC
You had no idea you would be her direct report? Who exactly did you interview with?
That's a little shady that no shared any info on the team and personnel. Usually you speak with your potential supervisor when interviewing.