I cried at work.

Anonymous

October 6,2021 at 3:17AM UTC

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I cried at work.

I had a meeting with my boss. He said what he said and I cried. something I’ve been striving for isn’t going to happen and I just… ughh. I have lots of awesome experience. A history of success. Crying has always been my first emotion. It’s my emotion for sadness. Anger. Fury. Loss.

Is there any redeeming myself? Is this going to be held against me? How do I stop myself from doing this in the future?

Please let me know I’m not alone.

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AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 5:40AM UTC
I don’t think you are alone. Most people wouldn’t cry but many would manifest some kind of negative emotion. I wouldn’t apologize. I would “mourn” the old project such as talk privately to someone who understands what happened or do some writing to get the emotions out of you.
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 12:25PM UTC
It wasn’t just the thing that didn’t happen. Part of it is that I was afraid I’d be blamed for something that I didn’t do and wouldn’t be able to defend myself. They’d make a conclusion and I couldn’t respond.
The culture is cut throat.
Amanda SimmsOctober 6,2021 at 8:00AM UTC
It's okay. There is nothing wrong with crying and showing vulnerability. If it gets held against you, that is their issue and not yours. Sometimes in the past, if I've gone into a meeting knowing it may be emotional, I'm upfront about the fact that I may cry but that it's just how my body reacts and it's not a 'weakness' but a rather normal human response.
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 10:23AM UTC
This happens to me frequently. I think whether it will be held against you depends on your boss. But it shouldn't be. I think of crying as a biological function that occurs to release emotion, so I've stopped trying to fight it, but I do let people I work with frequently know that I have a tendency to leak tears.
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 2:25PM UTC
You're emotional. No big deal. Just be professional and continue to work hard
You can't undo the crying. It is part of who you are and how you honestly react to situations. It's not the end of the world.
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 4:02PM UTC
Personally, I would send a message (or Face to face if you donlt want a record of it) and say I want to apologize for crying the other day. It's my body's natural response when Im feeling emotional but I know it can come off as unprofessional. However I want to be clear and communicate that I understand we will not be doing X moving forward (or whatever issue isn't happening)