Anxious about quitting a new job...

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May 27,2022 at 1:17AM UTC

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Anxious about quitting a new job...

I have been in this job for a little less than 3 months, and it is not a good fit, mostly due to team dynamics, it's dysfunctional, and I don't see light at the end of the tunnel. I've been there long enough to get some things going that if I leave in the next few weeks, it will inconvenience the team. But the thought of staying gives me heartburn, and I already have an offer with an employer I had previously interviewed with. So I am definitely leaving but am a little stressed about resigning. Thankfully my job is remote so it will be over the phone. What do you think the worst can happen? I feel bad, but I need to do this for myself.

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AnonymousMay 27,2022 at 1:39AM UTC
I am the original poster, and this is a legitimate post, I choose to remain anonymous as you are. I am asking an innocent question, maybe I needed a place to express how I am feeling. Please don't judge my post and if you think this is a trolling post, you can flag it.
LaurenMay 27,2022 at 3:24AM UTC
I too get anxious when thinking about worst case scenarios and I recently started doing something I heard about in a podcast.
I write out the current situation (i.e., I leave this job a few months in) and then I write all the “and then whats” down on paper. And then they are upset with me.. and then I feel guilty.. and then.. and then.. I always end up realizing I am going to be okay in the end no matter what. I also feel prepared for all the things that could potentially not go so well before they happen which personally makes me feel better.
Do what is best for you and don’t be sorry for putting yourself first.
Wishing you all the best, always!
Barb HansenMay 27,2022 at 3:40AM UTC
what's the worst that can happen when you resign your current job?
The worst is someone will yell at you. They shouldn't do that, and probably won't do that but that's the worst.
What will probably happen is that you will not be yelled at, your manager may ask you why you are leaving, and ask you what tasks need to be transferred to another team member.
You don't have to phone anyone to tell them you are resigning, just send an email to your manager cc'ing the HR person with your last date of employment and the tasks that you'll complete before your last day.
If you live in a "right to work" state, you can just quit without any notice. Send your manager an email saying that you have quit effective immediately. Then there is no pushback.
Take a breath, and know that you will be just fine.
SueMay 27,2022 at 12:50PM UTC
Sometimes the light at the end of a tunnel is an on-coming train. That being said, give your 2 week notice over the phone and follow up with a letter. No need to explain why other than you are exploring new opportunities. You cannot control the inconvenience to your team. You can ask them what you can do in your last 2 weeks to best help them. What's the worst that can happen? You will spend your last 2 weeks in misery, but the light at the end of your tunnel isn't a train, it's your new job! Good for you for taking care of yourself!
Huong Nguyen-ValleMay 27,2022 at 3:59PM UTC
I left my job after two months. Your sanity is more important than leaving behind people you barely know. Even though you took the job, you are still feeling it out. It is not a great fit and that is okay!
Nothing will happen but your happiness will return :) I did not put my two months job on my resume and when I look for the next job, I said I needed a break to rest and reset.
JJMay 28,2022 at 5:15AM UTC
Just quit. Bad companies lay people off every day without getting heartburn and anxiety. It is nice that you are so nice but reserve all that energy for the new job that is a better fit. It is business and you need to care for yourself.