I'm all for feedback, but lately anything I write is torn apart by my boss.

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June 2,2022 at 11:39PM UTC

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I'm all for feedback, but lately anything I write is torn apart by my boss.

When I speak to her verbally we have a good relationship, but through emails and other forms of written communication, not so much. She rewrites my copy and will leave comments that make me very upset.

How do I address this with her in a professional way? I just started this position and at this company, and I really do like it. I work my tail off, it's upsetting that this just started about a couple weeks ago and I'm not sure why. Could it be that she just wants me to become the best version of myself or is it something negative? I've been working for over a decade now, so when feedback upsets me it's major, I've developed a thick skin over the years. I know she's been working a lot of hours lately, so maybe that is it? Hoping things change soon. Thanks for the advice.

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Sabrina CortesJune 3,2022 at 2:54AM UTC
I'd confirm what she wants you to do by repeating it back to her. This allows you and her to ask questions so that you're both on the same page about what she wants you to do, and it could also avoid some of the negative comments she leaves.
And yes, it's good that you recognize that she's stressed too and could very well be contributing to her feedback to you.
It's best to ask questions so that you and she are on the same page.
If you're already doing this, great! If not, I hope this helps.
Sending you positive vibes!
JYJJune 3,2022 at 3:34PM UTC
Definitely talk to her. Let her know that you are taking her feedback to heart and want to ensure that moving forward you are getting it right. Having a conversation will give you a better idea of where she's coming from. Words on paper can come off as harsh.
Anne MatsushitaJune 3,2022 at 9:37PM UTC
You can frame it like you are open to feedback and want to understand her expectations.
You can also share what your preferred style is - perhaps you'd rather discuss her changes live rather than receive it in writing. Otherwise, she might assume you're fine with the way things are if she doesn't hear otherwise. Good luck!