Need advice… Back in July, I quit my job of 5 years.

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October 7,2021 at 1:24AM UTC

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Back in July, I quit my job of 5 years. I decided to stay on to take care of any incoming customer issues or anything transaction related, send tax reports, and also make sure everyone clocked in and out. Fixed pay, every two weeks. Just some extra money on the side. One of my coworkers, who I thought was my really good friend, put in her two weeks. Fast forward to today, she sends me a message saying the boss offered her to make sure that everyone clocked in and out. Not really a problem since she does that anyways. She then asked me if she could do any customer issues that were urgent and how I felt about it.

it’s not that I have an issue with it, but this is my position. Is this something to worry about? Am I overreacting?

Should anything be said to either my boss or my coworker/good friend?

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AnonymousOctober 7,2021 at 2:13AM UTC
I would ask What's Up ...because she didn't just set this up on her own. She has a plan.
AnonymousOctober 14,2021 at 12:23AM UTC
I went dark on her for a few days and she could tell I was sort of upset and distant with her. She said she will only take care of urgent issues and anything transactional is me.. it still does not sit right with me.
AnonymousOctober 14,2021 at 1:43AM UTC
I don't trust it either. My "spidie" sense says there's more going on.
AnonymousOctober 7,2021 at 2:48PM UTC
Is there enough work that they need both of you to do it? Or do you think they're positioning her to take over your role?
AnonymousOctober 14,2021 at 12:26AM UTC
I do a lot more than she does.. she just inputs the breaks before payroll for one location and will now try to take care of any customer issues that are “urgent”
I don’t think she can take over my role due to the fact that I was overseeing the whole entire business. The owners still reach out to me for things.. but I’m not sure. You never know.
AnonymousOctober 8,2021 at 10:15PM UTC
If this is just extra side $, and you don't need the $ to pay your mortgage or keep the lights on, does it really matter? You could find a side job elsewhere? Is it that big a deal since you've already basically quit?
AnonymousOctober 14,2021 at 12:27AM UTC
This pays my car payments in full.. so yes I would like to keep this gig for as long as possible.
I’m trying to do that just in case anything goes wrong here but it would require more of my time and I don’t have that..
Megan HamiltonOctober 12,2021 at 6:49PM UTC
Can you just flat out ask her what's up?
AnonymousOctober 14,2021 at 12:28AM UTC
Sort of did.. she knew I was upset but she thinks that she is doing something good. Claims that she said to the owners that she did not want to take anything away from me in any way.
I don’t know what to think even though we sort of talked it out.
Megan HamiltonOctober 15,2021 at 3:27PM UTC
Hmmm sounds like you didn't believe her? Sometimes if I'm not sure, I choose to trust people because it makes the world feel like a better place. (I think I learned that from a Brene Brown story...)
Megan HamiltonOctober 15,2021 at 3:28PM UTC
And on the other hand - I always trust my gut. Because every once in a while it's trying to protect me and giving me a wrong signal, but more often than not, it's giving me information that I should trust.
AnonymousOctober 13,2021 at 1:40PM UTC
Unless I'm reading this wrong, it sounds like you quit, but then your employer convinced you to stay (albeit in a limited capacity). They may have asked you to stay on out of panic, to make sure the wheels didn't come off, while they worked out a permanent solution. You may be starting to see the signs of that permanent plan coming into action. Unfortunately, once someone quits, even if they end up sticking around, the employer assumes you have one foot out the door. Might be time to start looking for something else.
AnonymousOctober 14,2021 at 12:30AM UTC
So I gave my two weeks, but before I left I said I’d like to stay on and continue to deal with customer issues because we had so much for both businesses it would make it easier for the managers taking over for me. I was a manager for two franchised businesses. Before I left, that was exactly what the owners were looking for. They wanted someone to solely deal with these types of issues.
AnonymousOctober 14,2021 at 12:32AM UTC
I do understand what you are saying and definitely feel like this can be a possibility but it also can’t because no one that is working there has the knowledge of the system we work on too.
I want to look for something else in case but no one wants to hire me!
DeLisa DawkinsOctober 19,2021 at 10:46PM UTC
You will never know until you move outside your comfort zone.. they say if you have worked for the same company for a minimum of 5 years; you will either move up or move out. Best of luck