ive come to the conclusion that my employer doesn’t value me , and likewise im very unhappy and dissatisfied at employer.

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May 28,2022 at 3:44AM UTC

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ive come to the conclusion that my employer doesn’t value me , and likewise im very unhappy and dissatisfied at employer. i dont feel like ive been treated fairly. ive been w my employer for 12yrs and make high income. im going to leave the company. i think it may be best for me just to part ways and say ive found a better opp outside the company rather than point out their inequities.

… is it just best to go and leave w/o talking about the unfair things they've done, and just to keep it ‘positive’?

i dont have another job yet, but plenty saved up to carry me over.

…although it would feel great to say to their face how much they suck, it may be better in long run to keep it simple.

…thoughts, advice?

thanks.

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JJMay 28,2022 at 4:56AM UTC
Just say you are leaving. You don’t have to make up nice things.
AnonymousMay 28,2022 at 5:53AM UTC
If u tell them what you think they may try to impede your chances of getting hired elsewhere. The sick part about it is you would never know. Just apply and leave. If you are traumatized by it focus on self healing and restoration
Anitha RameshMay 28,2022 at 6:43AM UTC
I empathize...i cud sense what you have gone thru these years. My advice wud be to:
-Try and hit on a better job before leaving. This wud place you better plus make them at least realize you were worth much more n they missed on it. Even if not so, it wud give you more confidence. Leaving a job and then finding another one, i dont feel right. Moreover when you are in a role, it increases your scope for new job rather than quit and search.
Regarding reacting or pouring out, i dont feel right because it changes you internally too. You had been tolerant so far...be at it...it is useless to speak out where you are not understood..it wud only create harm than good...moreover, the last impression wud only last, however, good you were. It might affect your next job too. Let your absence do the job of making them realize your worth. You be yourself and move on. Every experience tames us n prepares us for the next opportunity. My wishes for you to find your right place. God bless!! :)?
Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition SpecialistMay 30,2022 at 1:29AM UTC
I don't see what you have to gain by doing this.
Listen, if they wanted to be a better workplace, they'd already be one.
AnonymousMay 30,2022 at 4:48PM UTC
Inequities in employment exist because people don't talk about them to the companies, we just leave. I have seen this several times in my life and have been guilty of it myself. Trust in your feelings and make your decision to the address the inequities only if you can do so without anger or bitterness. Otherwise move on and be happy you are out of the environment.
Cynthia Jones 1128May 31,2022 at 3:50PM UTC
Would the individual or company use the information you provide to actually make any changes? If not, I'd hold off on telling them. As for leaving before you have another job lined up, I'd reconsider that. It is generally easier to find a new position when you already have one. Maybe give yourself a timeline for finding something new. You can always decide to leave but at least you'd have given yourself a head start on finding a replacement.
Vanda LeeMay 31,2022 at 5:51PM UTC
Start looking now and make a plan/timeline. Job hunting is a lot different now than it was even 5 years ago depending on your profession. If and that's a big IF you decide to tell them why you're leaving, I would put it in a professionally written document and copy multiple people you feel it might be relevant to...but after 12 years, do you think it will do any good? The biggest thing is you don't HAVE to tell them ANYTHING... give notice or resign. As for them hindering future employment, all that most orgs do now is verify employment to avoid lawsuits. Good luck!
Sabrina CortesJune 2,2022 at 3:36PM UTC
Yes, maintain your professionalism until you find a job that better suits you and what you're looking for in a company. Then, focus on wrapping up any projects or loose ends before leaving.
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Sending you positive thoughts!