I see the benefits in a video policy but I have concerns about “edicts”.
I had an exec that made an edict of video for ALL meetings. Usually I’m on video but I get migraines and sometimes my face shows the pain and others would comment if I was reacting negatively to the content. Also, sometimes is just painful to see bright lights and screens. I really shouldn’t have been working with a migraine but at the time I didn’t think I could prioritize my health. I was afraid that they’d hold it against me.
The big boss would send me emails documenting when I wasn’t on camera noting the policy and the date/meeting when I had the camera off linking me to the policy. Almost like a catholic school demerit. It was clearly being documented.
She was a bully who would not hesitate to demoralize.
Finally I said—- I like being on video and adhere to the policy when I’m in good health, however, when I am in pain and have to work anyway to meet a deadline I have to made small adjustments to accommodate for my health. are you asking me to jeopardize my health and my performance in favor of a video policy? And she stopped.
I doubt you want to escalate it to that level but— just an example. It was a simple and dumb situation that she escalated to a level that wasn’t necessary.
A bigger question is why I had to keep working amid migraines and that, my friends, is why I left. No job is worth your health.
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