Hi everyone,

Hi everyone,

posting this for my coworker. We work in a high stress industry as project managers and it seems she has been experiencing some real toxic job behavior from our supervisors. Recently, one of our heads of leadership has shown some micro aggressions towards her, especially on meetings. His tone will shift when he speaks to her and will often refer to her in a demeaning 3rd party tone. For example, when told she was going to take over her partners portion of work and that it needed to be done by end of day, she responded by saying that her current workload would not allow her to finish both the new assignment and complete her current assignment by the end of the day. He responded by saying “Did you hear that, (other manager on call)? Looks like she can’t complete her work that she’s been assigned. That’s too bad.” Once the meeting ended, my coworker asked to speak to her immediate supervisor and expressed her frustrations with being assigned a new assignment that would not allow her to successfully complete her current assignment on time. During their meeting, our problematic supervisor came into our office and demanded to talk to my coworker and her immediate supervisor. He proceeded to berate her for her attitude, accused her of being written up for it before (she doesn’t have any write ups), and said he was there for her when her dad died last year more than anyone else had been (he gave her the test of the week off). He ended up leaving, and she’s been upset and crying for most of the day.

This is just one example that happened today I can’t help but feel that all of this was wildly inappropriate and I am genuinely concerned about her. The issue is a lot of what I would consider inappropriate happens in real time and isn’t captured in emails or text, so I am not sure of the best way she can help herself from this situation. She’s already mentioned that she can’t afford to leave.