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I am having a VERY hard time calming down this morning, and I feel like there is just so much I have to get done this week and no possible way I can do it.

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Can anyone please suggest some meditation tricks or quick ways to help me? I dont want to ruin the whole week by starting it off on such a negative tangent. Thank you.

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  1. Anonymous

    Meditation, even if it's for 5 minutes, can be helpful or stepping outside to take a walk around the block might help calm your mind. You've got this!

  2. Anonymous

    thank you, this is good advice

  3. mindyschweitzer

    Go watch Mel Robbins online, she has some great videos that help keep us focused on what we need to get done within a day. She also has great tips on anxiety control, morning routines, evening routines, etc. She's amazing!

  4. Anonymous

    checking her out now, thank you!

  5. James Narelle

    I'm having the same. Working at casinos can be very tough sometimes. https://www.thoughtco.com/top-reasons-to-be-a-casino-dealer-537380 but this article keeps me going.

  6. Nirupama Raghavan

    I like the Smiling Mind app...

  7. Anonymous

    thanks! i’ve downloaded it and will try it out. have you tried the Calm app?

  8. Nirupama Raghavan

    No I haven't. Smiling Mind was recommended on my company's health and wellness site.

  9. Anonymous

    When I'm feeling overwhelmed with tasks, I time block my calendar. Even down to the small tasks - it shows me that I actually DO have enough time to get everything done and gives me a plan of action - AND it's productive!

  10. Anonymous

    i like this suggestion!! going to try it for my weekend as a test run. thank you!

  11. Leader757947

    I like to use the counting breath technique when I'm feeling overwhelmed. Even a couple of breaths in this fashion will help me calm down. Breath in for a count of 8, hold it for 4, and release it over the count of 8. If the counts are too long, shorten it to 4 - 6 in & out with 2 - 3 holding. The important thing is to slow the breath down. The shallow breathing we experience under stress exacerbates our stress levels by causing the body to release more cortisol.

  12. Frances-Agape

    At first I was very, very skeptical about breathing being able to relax you. It took some months practicing, but I kept with it and can attest IT REALLY DOES HELP !

  13. Bosslady835198

    I make a list of things to get done each day. Then I prioritize. If I get half the list done, I feel good. When I get overwhelmed....I just breathe. Slowly.

  14. Anonymous

    To add to blocking the calendar, I call it "admin time." That way, if anyone has access to my calendar, they see I'm taking care of administrative tasks that need to be done.

  15. Jassmine Riley

    I always start by taking a deep breath. You'd be amazed what planting your feet on the floor, sitting up straight, inhaling deeply through your nose, and exhaling slowly through your mouth will do for you.
    Then, prioritize your week with a list.

  16. Crystal Rhineberger

    Giving yourself the credit you need is a must here!
    You have the skills and the motivation to accomplish what you need.
    If its cleaning and work combo make your cleaners work for u! Spray and let sit until u get home
    Employ the dishwasher to even just hold the clutter
    Errands can be accomplished by lining them up w simple all right hand turns done a bit b4 or after work (i break mine down in small portions spaced out during work week) i also bring a book that is entertaining or relaxing (nothing work related unless its a must) and use every bit of down time even if its im to work early and have to read in my car.
    I also keep text messages on silent so i can answer those on my time w out nagging dings and pings.
    Good luck this week! U will be able to rock this

  17. Nicole Pecoraro

    There is a triangle breathing technique that works well for me! It helps me to focus on something other than my endless to do list and just breathe until I’m through it. Sometimes it’s short, sometimes it takes me longer... but it almost always works! I think you can find it on YouTube.

  18. efgallagher

    I love the Calm app. Guided meditation anywhere from one min to hours. You can even sort by meditation for anxiety, stress, gratitude and more. There's also quick "emergency" meditations to get you calm quickly. Hope it helps!

    https://www.calm.com/?utm_medium=paid&utm_source=google&utm_campaign=gsa_calm_desktop-xx_us-en_cpc_exact_trial&utm_content=trial&gclid=CjwKCAjwqLblBRBYEiwAV3pCJqVD3Rkq_bsfAvtGRodHXVoBu-MQE5p1B40D56ICqxMULBogXMiibRoC2JoQAvD_BwE

  19. Jenny Willis

    Make a list of tasks each day, and cross them off the list as you complete them. Don't start a new task until you finish the one you are working on. Lastly, remind yourself that if you don't finish something, it's ok. Unless you are a surgeon who cannot afford to make a mistake, give yourself some leeway and credit. If the tasks can wait until tomorrow, don't beat yourself up for not finishing them today. Once I started viewing my responsibilities as not being so "critical", I was able to get through each day with much less stress.

  20. anon5152

    I often feel as you do but have come to realize that there is only just so much I can do and no more so I no longer beat myself up if I don't get to everything. My mother used to live and work at a hotel. When the dining room got too busy and she was feeling overwhelmed, she would simply walk upstairs to her room and take a short nap! I always loved that story. It showed that she knew her limits and knew best how to handle them. Plus it made her that much more refreshed when she came downstairs to deal with a bustling crowd.

  21. Daniellemcooper

    I joined a meditation meet up group that meets on Sunday nights. I needed the comfort of other people around me to help my brain calm down. Great way to go into Mondays.

  22. Lady Pele

    I make prioritized lists and organize my days that way. I also block out time for desk work on my calendar, so I'm not constantly in meetings instead of working on deliverables. When the stress gets to me, I take a walk and practice some deep breathing.

  23. Catherine Brewington

    I got an idea from the minding anxiety app about (if you can remember during an anxious time) about using the power of curiosity. So if you’re feeling anxious, think what about my body is contributing to this anxiety. If you’re feeling sweaty when you are anxious and having trouble calming down try to focus on the sweaty sensation and identify if one part of your body feels more sweaty than another, and you can do that with whatever anxiety symptoms you have. It’s a good way to cut through some of the anxious thoughts that can create a roadblock to actually getting things done.

  24. Catherine Brewington

    Sorry—app is called unwinding anxiety

  25. HILYEDUCATED

    I have walked in your shoes for so long and for a long distance. I understand your situation and have a plan for you and it does not use any apps or even a device. It is all done by you and 15 minutes.
    Sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and picture in your mind a magic slate (on of those toys that has a plastic sheet over a black surface that when you draw or write on the plastic you can lift the plastic and it goes away). Now. as you talk a deep breath and slowly exhale while your eyes are closed relax your arms. as you do your next breath do your legs, and at the third breath picture your slate with all kinds of writing on it and as you exhale slowly lift the plastic and you will see all that writing go away and your slate is now blank and you are totally relaxed.
    Now your mind is clear and is able to take you where ever it wants to take you,let it as long as it is not reality. Your mind will take to a place that will start going up to the 10th floor of somewhere. From there the doors open and your visit will begin. You mind will decide when you will return down the elevator and when you do you will feel so relaxed and clear headed that you can see reality a great deal clearer and think much better. You need to a room with soft lighting and total quiet. Do this everyday and eventually you will be able to do it anywhere and at anytime. It took me a week to get the hang of it. Once I did my mind took me to places I can never go back to so my brother told me to write them down. I would tell them about the places and he found them fascinating like I did. These moments have done a world of good for me. I am able to look at my issues, organize some type order by urgency and whether I needed assistance. Good Luck! I know you can handle this, and I am very confident you can handle all that is in front of you, once you get yourself settled. Oh, I have been there and done that and never want to see anyone be in that position if I can help it.

  26. Esther Smith

    My dear friend gave me the best advice: Only focus on the NEXT RIGHT THING. Don't let your mind run to all the things, just choose the NEXT one, and focus solely on that until it is done. And then the next. I have been in your exact spot and letting all the things run through my head can be absolutely paralyzing.

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