Our company had our annual Christmas party the other night (the first time in years due to Covid).

Anonymous

December 19,2022 at 3:58PM UTC

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Our company had our annual Christmas party the other night (the first time in years due to Covid). Our boss and his wife graciously hosted the event in their beautiful home. We were all eating, playing games, and introducing our spouses and significant others to the co-workers that had not previously met them. Most of us arrived on time or close enough to on time so introductions had been made at least 30 minutes into the starting of the party. The last co-worker to arrive, arrived late - much like they do at work so no one was surprised. This co-worker (and their spouse) ftmade it a point to greet everyone in the space except for me. Another co-worker who was standing next to me immediately noticed and began apologizing for the other co-worker's rudeness. It was not the first time since transferring into this division of the company where I've left out of the festivities so to speak, but it certainly was one of the most hurtful, especially to have happened at a Christmas party. Thank you for reading this and letting me share this in a somewhat safe space.

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AnonymousDecember 19,2022 at 6:48PM UTC
You could always make the introduction yourself and leave this person looking stupid.
AnonymousDecember 22,2022 at 3:22PM UTC
How? They completely turned around and walked the other direction.
AnonymousDecember 22,2022 at 7:46PM UTC
It was a party. It's called mingling.
AnonymousDecember 30,2022 at 3:18AM UTC
As much as you're trying to excuse this behavior; it's unexcusable. This person was not mingling; they literally turned around and walked all the way back across the room. They spoke to and acknowledged the co-worker standing next to me and immediately walked away.
AnonymousDecember 30,2022 at 9:51PM UTC
Maybe the person replying is the coworker lol
AnonymousDecember 20,2022 at 8:31PM UTC
Perhaps they didn’t know your name and were too embarrassed to ask?
AnonymousDecember 22,2022 at 3:21PM UTC
There's only 10 of us in this office. Much like Cheers, "everyone knows your name". Secondly, they stopped at the co-worker next to me then walked off in the opposite direction.
AnonymousDecember 23,2022 at 1:42PM UTC
The coworkers behavior is a reflection on them not on you, be grateful that you’re not like this individual.
as hard as it is, and as painful coworkers can suck.
The coworkers behavior is a reflection on he/she/them not on you!!
I’ve been in the workforce for over 40 years and when I look back and think about some of the things that were done to me deliberately, and by a gang of coworkers,
I cringe and I thank God that I was able to get through it and bettered my career because I was able to deal with these miserable individuals, your human it may bother you, but look at everyone else in the company not this troll. The person that apologized to you knew the worth of the other individual.
It’s hard to believe that some people may not like us will never know why, but there’s just some miserable people out there that enjoy being nasty confrontational and treat other human beings with no respect what goes around comes around.It’s hard to believe that some people may not like us will never know why, but there’s just some miserable people out there that enjoy being nasty confrontational and treat other human beings with no respect what goes around comes around
Happy holidays.
AnonymousDecember 23,2022 at 3:38PM UTC
Some are just that way. Trust me, it is them and not you. I volunteered to work a table for our company for an after-hours activity at a local elementary school. The two people who had invited me spent the entire time talking to each other, not allowing me into the conversation and, most of the time, turning their backs on me. I felt this was not only rude but deliberate. I have always tried to include anyone I could in a conversation, especially when it is a group activity and we were all supposed to be doing the same thing. I'm so sorry this has happened to you.
AnonymousDecember 25,2022 at 1:34PM UTC
Eeewww. Some people are just plain rude. I have one coworker who is rude to me for no reason too. But I’m always extra nice to him and it visibly drives him nuts lol. But a rude person who arrives late to begin with, do you really expect them to treat anyone with courtesy? Kill ‘em with kindness is my motto. They end up looking stupid.
Rachel Maneval RodeDecember 25,2022 at 4:30PM UTC
I get it. I work in a small school district office with the administrators and their staff. There are two administrators who barely acknowledge me on a daily basis even though I’m the receptionist and have to let them in the office. I always greet them with a smile and kill them with kindness throughout the day, which they also barely acknowledge. It’s comical. I come home and my husband asks if I was “invisible” again today. Some people just can’t be bothered. Some are outright rude. With some, it’s not that they think less of you, they just don’t think of you at all. Yeah, it hurts, but I can’t change them. I can only choose to be kind to them anyway.
AnonymousDecember 25,2022 at 10:37PM UTC
Keep killing them with kindness. It’s hard to remember especially when you feel slighted and excluded that others behavior is never about you it’s always about them. Kudos to you for rising above.