I moved to a new city from a smaller area I grew up in for a new federal job, after being out of work for a year due to completing graduate school.
December 24,2022 at 2:20PM UTC
The job is good, but unfortunately I had to take the job right away and I didn't have time to access the city and the extreme cost of living here as well as the extreme lack of housing and rentals. There are no housing laws, and my coworkers tell me horror stories about their bad experiences with renting and buying and say that not much can be done. Every apartment review in every area says the same things - high auto thefts, high mail thefts, homeless living in lobbies and hallways, smoking smells get into your own unit (pot is legal here), mouse and roach infestation, landlords fix nothing, there is never enough parking, there are hidden fees added to rent, etc. Rent is 4x higher here than where I lived. Housing that is for sale has been neglected and needs a lot of work - too much for a single woman. I need a place but being new here I don't know which way is up or where to start, I don't know if I want to buy if I leave in a couple of years, but renting at 2100 a month for 600 sq ft is nuts. Thank you for quality advice on living in crazy overcrowded overpriced cities.
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I recently interviewed for a job that I was really excited about.
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I need help on how to deal with an all boy's club at work.
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