I felt led on by an employer.

Anonymous

April 27,2022 at 6:31PM UTC

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I felt led on by an employer. We had a phone and zoom interview that I felt went really well, but was told it would be a few weeks before there is an update. Come to find out when I called after this timeline that they had already done in person interviews and were ready to make an offer to someone. The manager thought he told me they had been further along in the process with others, but he never did. All this time I was hopeful, but I would have never put so much emotional energy into this one had I known they were that far along with other people. I feel like they just wanted a back up in case this one didn't work out. It feels icky to be strung along like that.

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Heide FramilApril 27,2022 at 7:06PM UTC
I'd feel the same if it happened to me after being hopeful and all. My advice would be to think of it as a blessing in disguise for a much better offer. Prepare another resume/CV and look for another company. I'm sure you'd find one in no time.
Lisa MarieApril 27,2022 at 9:59PM UTC
You are right to feel the way you do. This happens more often than you know because not everyone is speaks truth.
Now you move on. Let your writing of this post be the "release valve" if you will on this matter. There is no benefit to you to dwell on it.
Next step? Proceed to finding your next best opportunity- after you take a moment to write a specific open-ended question you will always use to ask at the end of every interview regarding their recruiting timeline.