I've been uncomfortable at my place of work since my last promotion.

Krystal

July 13,2023 at 10:43AM UTC

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I've been uncomfortable at my place of work since my last promotion. Honestly thought the grass was greener on the other side, however it's been almost 2 years and I hate my role. I expressed my concern with my manager and he throws textbook managerial lingo at me. I feel so defeated and uselss on this team, especially after leaving my old team where I ran my shift with full autonomy.

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AnonymousJuly 13,2023 at 11:44AM UTC
Sounds like you feel you work better as the leader without having to report to anyone instead of having to answer to someone in the direct position you're currently in. Some people just don't like being told what to do. NOW, in saying that, it's great that you identified that. So, seek a type of role that you feel you thrive in as the current role isn't that, from what was shared. Pause on the 'throw managerial lingo', as you have your style, as mentioned, and they have theirs, no need to discount that. Go, find that new role to be happy in. We ALL deserve that.
KrystalJuly 24,2023 at 9:32PM UTC
Nope. There's nothing in me that wants to be a leader. I like full autonomy. Working on my exit plan.
AnonymousJuly 25,2023 at 10:59AM UTC
Probably a great plan t exit as it is hard to lead when someone doesn't want to be lead. good luck.
AnonymousJuly 13,2023 at 12:59PM UTC
So sorry for your trying situation. Moments like these make you grow to make you truly realize what you want in life.
At the end of the day, YOU have to be happy in and with what you do, so that you can thrive. If things are falling short and your voice is not heard take the next steps to move forward (if you financially can) or revisit your WHY to see how you can plough through the madness and not get burnt out mentally or physically.
KrystalJuly 24,2023 at 9:29PM UTC
I'm so uninspired, but this level of uncomfortably is pushing me to leave.
AnonymousJuly 14,2023 at 5:51PM UTC
Are you being micromanaged? or just not inspired? If it is the latter then its time to self assess and decide what you want and don't want in the next role or to move back into something from before in your same company. Often moving into management does not suit those who thought it was what they wanted as the getting sh* done part falls away and the work becomes the tedium of managing others to do what you used to love. Find your true purpose and clearly the manager you are currently reporting to does not know how to manage you. You could try to tell him what you need and be firm with him around how you need his inspiration but if he just doesn't have it then it's time to think about a move.
KrystalJuly 24,2023 at 9:28PM UTC
Both. I get email abut miniscule things, yet when were in a 1:1 setting and I inquire about said email he gives me nothing. I'm working on my exit strategy.
Clydene HorriganJuly 14,2023 at 7:52PM UTC
Can you share more about the problem you’re facing? Are you looking for guidance in laymen’s terms so you can learn but you’re getting back “management lingo” without the meaning? If that is the case, start a glossary and ask him for the laymen’s description.
Or is it something else? I wasn’t quite clear from your post.
maria roseJuly 15,2023 at 9:07PM UTC
Indirectly you are unhappy with your current position because you are not in charge but under another person who is your direct manager. You don’t mention what happened that caused you to be switched over to this team about 2 years ago but you most probably had the assumption that you would be eventually be the manager of the team but you are not and it’s bothering you. In today’s world, moving up the line in position is going to require more work related job expectations and skills because the current trend is less workers and more duties. Just because you can do your specific job tasks without being directly supervised doesn’t make you qualified to be promoted if that’s your goal. If you are trying to progress upwards in your company and your company does internal promotion, then you need to ask for a way to make that happen if available as an opportunity for you. But remember that you have to be able to perform as required and also adjust your lifestyle accordingly to deal with the demands of the job.
KrystalJuly 24,2023 at 9:26PM UTC
I'm in the process of "making an exit."
KrystalJuly 24,2023 at 9:30PM UTC
I don't want to honestly. It's not worth it especially when I go unheard for almost 2 years