How do you handle bullying from HR?

How do you handle bullying from HR? I love the organization I work for. I'm very passionate about the work I do (I'm in the non-profit sector), but recently our HR Director has become an absolute bully. <--- That's me phrasing her behavior nicely. There's gossip in the hallway, there is trash-talking lower members of the team loudly and in the hallway, exclusion, blaming, and excessive nitpicking. She has a habit of making my job 100x harder than it needs to be because she likes to find a small unimportant detail she thinks needs to be addressed NOW. I've even reached the point of not using any common area trash bins or recycle bins because we've reached the point that every mess in the office is my mess. It's exhausting. Just this morning she gave a detailed tour to a new employee explaining each empty office and each Director's office then "forgot" about my office were as she walked by. It's exhausting. I love what I do, but I'm not sure how to address this. I've brought up concerns before and the feedback received was "she just comes across harsh." Three employees have quite specifically because of this person. Any suggestions for addressing the concerns or how best to handle the situation?

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  1. Anonymous

    HR protects the company. In this case with unfettered authority and with an iron fist.

    Until she costs the company in obvious resources, she will continue. Management doesn't consider whoever left as necessary. This person will clean house with praise and most likely incentives and rewards. I've found 9 times out of 10 this kind of behavior is commended behind closed doors.

    I'm not sure there is anything you can do about her lethal Management style.

    Just stay out of her way and keep the ammo she uses against you to a minimum.

    Most of us love our work very much and are extremelypassionate about it. We've just found environments to work that fit out needs.

    So using the statement that you passionate about what you do doesn't have anything to do with the culture you practice that work in.

    Please know that this kind of environment will wear you out eventually and you might lose your passion.

  2. Anonymous

    They've got you emotionally hooked into your job. That's why you are able to put up with this. Leave. Like now.

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