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Ladies, I need your inputs on something.

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Ladies, I need your inputs on something.

I am looking to change my current job - that's remote and move to one that's either hybrid or is completely onsite + gives me more opportunities for growth.

Thing is I stayed in my job for the past couple of years, because remote work allowed me to cope with divorce and also not bail out on my career at the same time. I did take on additional assignments, even got myself promoted during this time, but still work was still insufficient to create any kind of value add for me or my new role or the salary (i could well be overpaid). I am realising this more clearly now since the emotional pain is also slowly wearing off- I don't want to be stuck any more here ( the toxicity is also on the rise with someone who I supported all through my divorce tried sabotaging my contribution out of insecurity). I've explored opportunities for career change within the company but that option is quite limited- the company isn't in a fast growth space anymore (its been through some layoffs in the last couple of years) - more people are looking out or have already quit.

How do I explain my decision to change jobs to a new hiring manager at another company ? I do not want to give my divorce as a reason for staying in a role that's really looks low growth on paper (even though that's indeed the reason).

Do let me know what you guys think

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  1. Anonymous

    Thank you so much

  2. Anonymous

    You position your narrative that you have exhausted the growth and learning the position has offered abd even with stretch goals and commitment there simply isn't anything more you can accomplish. So, while you love the company, you want to keep your career moving and are looking for your next career challenge. I think it's absolutely correct not yo use your divorce as the reason you stayed. It would paint the wrong picture. You want to come across as commited, vibrant and growing.

  3. Alexis Gladstone

    You said everything in your question, you just need a slight tweak: I've reached a plateau in my ability to grow at my current company. I'm looking for ways to further my own development and contributing at a higher level to the organization I work for.

  4. Anonymous

    Keep the answer to the question centered around your career and what you want to contribute to a new company. The worst you should say about your current company is that the opportunities there do not align with your career goals, and follow that up with why the company/position you are interviewing with/for does.

  5. Anonymous

    A great response by another poster. You have maximized your ability to grow professionally, with no other movement available. You company has reached a stalemate of sorts where employees are not able to move to new roles nor learn new skills. Most companies do not want a long explanation. Find something about the role of interest that aligns with your current skills that allows you to use those skills and grow. In a previous job I had where I held the same title, I left as my employer didn't capitalize on my robust skill set. Thus my fear was becoming stale in the industry. And the new company allowed me to use not only my current skills but I continued to grow professionally. It will work out, but do let us know. Good luck!

  6. Kimplanetstl

    It's okay to say you miss interacting with people and are ready to return to the office. Lots of us are finding that working alone is lonely after nearly four years. Many employers are looking for more face time with employees, but are getting push back from those who want strictly remote work. You'll be more welcome than you think.

  7. Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition Specialist

    Can you please clarify why/how you see your situation as different than most folks who look for a new position?

    Your divorce should not be mentioned at all. Neither can I see how working remote comes into this.

    You had a position where you were advancing - you took on additional assignments and were promoted - and now you feel you have advanced as far as you're able.

    You can say that you're looking to take your career to the next level, that you're looking for a new challenge.

  8. Anonymous

    If not for the lawyer and court visit which is easier with a remote job that by itself wasn't too demanding, I probably would have left after the 1st round of layoffs. I stayed in and worked hard 1. To do justice as far as possible to myself as a talent and explore all possible opportunities and potential in full. 2. Cope with divorce by keeping busy. A promotion helped, but imo even that couldn't save the diluting effect that the restructuring had as a result of layoffs on my role/overall resume. That i perhaps didnt shift early enough to salvage my career is what alarms me a lot, though I ve been here only for 3 years and that isn't that long imo.

  9. Anonymous

    And while I've clarified how my divorce affected my decision to stay in a job, i don't intend to mention it in the interview , just to reiterate

  10. Anonymous

    You have exceeded your growth potential at this job and looking for more challenging and fulfilling roles or something like that.

  11. Anonymous

    The simple response is, I have been here for X years and while my contributions have been substantial, the company growth trajectory is no longer on the upswing and the challenges for me are waning. I would like something new and to take my skills and the learnings I have made here and bring them to a new company and business that is growing. Your company seems to tick all those boxes and day one I can come in and contribute and do XYZ. Boom! Job landed! Good luck. (PS feel free to steal my words word for word)

  12. Anonymous

    “I’m looking for a new challenge.” Or “I’m ready to make a change.”

    Easy, simple, no fuss, and don’t talk about your divorce or toxicity in the work environment.

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