I am not sure what to do and need some advice.

Anonymous

October 4,2022 at 12:57PM UTC

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I am not sure what to do and need some advice. I have been working for a company a little over 2.5 years in a mid level leadership position. About 2 years ago we merged into a much larger good to be part the the all north American team. The new director was fantastic at first, we got along great. This organization says daily its open door,leaders up to the president, say come to me with questions or concerns. About 1.5 years ago I had an employee leave in an odd manner. HR instructed me to speak with the directors leader because that was the process in there types of situations. I set up the meeting. I let my boss know right after I talked to HR who was with the director coincidentally so she shared with her as well. Since then I've gotten assesed for the wrong role for an end of year review , received a very low merit inxrease,, got pulled from projects I was running, been embarrassed in peer meeting by her rolinv her eyes when I speak and outwardly making snarky remarks, she has been assassinating my reputation to other leaders, sent very harsh and unfounded "feedback ", has dictated what my leader put in my reviews, and the feedback given I'm blindsided with, and most recently I received a very negative to the point of almost firing review with no merit increase. I know I'm being pushed out until she has enough false "documentation " to fire me. Ive applied for other roles outside of her area but have recently been told off the record she has contacted the hiring managers to say they shouldn't consider me. I am looking for roles outside the company but in at my level I've not had success so far and I'm not able to take a huge pay cut to leave. I don't know what to do anymore and I'm completely miserable.

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AnonymousOctober 4,2022 at 3:43PM UTC
Unfortunately when a leader is sabotaging your moving within the company and is pushing you out there is little you can do other than documenting your counter claims for each contrary claim she makes for your file. HR doesn't seem to be able to address her efforts to get you out and other leaders in the company seem to listen to her opinions regarding offering you opportunities.
So, since you are resigned to stay for the money (no judgment here), you're going to have to keep as low a profile as possible to hang onto your job for as long as you possibly can.
In the interim, keep job searching and networking to find your next opportunity. Hopefully you'll find something before she is successful in pushing you out.
AnonymousOctober 4,2022 at 7:36PM UTC
Hang in there. You may not see it but what goes around comes around. For someone to take so much effort must be taking them away from their job and people notice these things.
My suggestion is the network with previous coworkers from former companies this has always lifted me up in difficult times(don't mention your current status but tell them what you are looking for).
I also agree with the other comment. Document everything. Document what you have done, projects, and previous performance reviews.
Update your resume. Call your local EEOC to see if you have a claim for retaliation.
AnonymousNovember 1,2022 at 3:35PM UTC
Weird, i just had a similar experience. It's bizarre and you need to have a really strong mind if you're gonna survive it and thrive it. It's hard to be targeted like that, for what amounts to some weird personal vendetta. Toddlers with titles do not impress me not one bit :). So here's the deal. You need to leave as quickly as possible, so keep going with that strategy. You will find something great - repeat that every day. Meantime, as long as you stay, document absolutely everything, including how you felt when it happened. Read up on your state laws about "constructive dismissals" - where they make it impossible for you to do your job. Contact an attorney if need be. And get out as quickly as possible. Exit Strategy is your new middle name. I believe in you. Wish you great good luck finding a much better place that values you and doesn't tolerate or allow BS little games like this!
AnonymousNovember 1,2022 at 7:31PM UTC
Thank you so much! Since I posted things have gotten worse. The good news however is I received an offer from another company which I have accepted.
AnonymousNovember 2,2022 at 6:05PM UTC
Awesome news! I'm so excited for you! Remember to leave all the weird evil with them, so you can move forward in good happiness! I wish you all the very very best excellence, from them and you, at your new company! Very happy congratulations !
Nicole RobertsonAugust 20,2024 at 5:34PM UTC
I had this same thing happen to me. It's so similar it makes me wonder if it was the same person/company. I luckily found another job before they could fire me.