Are people becoming more entitled now?

8 Comments

1. AnonymousMay 17,2024 at 7:39PM UTC

   yes, participation trophy mentality in the workplace is real. Along with I've had this role for 6-10 months, I'm ready to be a Director mindset. No longer putting in the time to become a subject matter expert, or taking on stretch assignments, or even building relationships is on their sites. Super fun.

2. AnonymousMay 17,2024 at 8:32PM UTC

   Entitled.
   IMO, social media has become a free for all of wanting instant EVERYTHING when and how.

3. P I.May 17,2024 at 8:46PM UTC

   You owe them nothing else.

   People are too "soft". They should move on and take your feedback to improve for future openings. If they keep "demanding" more feedback, put on your best poker face and repeat the same thing you already told them, just in case they didn't hear you the first time..

4. E CMay 18,2024 at 1:48PM UTC

   These candidates are out of line to demand more after you have already given feedback. I would also recommend that you think about the root of your comment about "everyone gets a trophy." It really smacks of a person who struggles to understand different perspectives and the things other (younger) people can bring to the workplace. I wonder if perhaps your feedback was not as helpful as you thought it was. This could be a growth opportunity on all sides.

5. AnonymousMay 19,2024 at 1:33PM UTC

   I'd like to add a concept that I learned for management, conversation, coaching, etc. "Seek first to understand." I encourage you to consider that perhaps they're speaking in a way to be heard or to understand. You may also be a "representative" of a company culture (and I'm guessing here- where they've repeatedly been let down or passed over without an understanding as to why or how to truly improve, or resources to do so). You don't have to own any of their upset sent to you. If they were demanding or unprofessional, etc. , you are right to be convinced you made a solid hiring choice for your management style. --As you dig further to ask "what is going [on] nowadays?" That's the work we must all do now and for the future.

6. AnonymousMay 19,2024 at 2:10PM UTC

   I don’t know your company, but if multiple people came to you with clarifying questions, it sounds like it could be:

   1) you didn’t effectively communicate (as well as you thought you did)

   2) culturally, there may be a culture of miscommunication

   3) both , you’re an effective communicator within an ineffective environment so you still didn’t effectively reach them and/or

   4) the culture enables entitlement and /or

   5) the culture is toxic so people feel unheard.

   all things can be true. You could be dealing with entitled people, but if it’s more than one person, you gotta start looking at yourself too. What makes them believe so hard they deserve this role? What makes them all confused about why they didn’t get the role? Does this company have a “just do what you’re told” attitudes towards employees? Are they butt hurt they got passed over for roles in the past without explanation, and are taking it out on you?

   either way, it sounds like it wasn’t a good fit, so you dodged several bullets. Part of me feels that yes, they are entitled. But why? Have they been passed over in the past and have emotional baggage? Are they rockstars who are used to being told yes, and they let it get to their heads, and can’t understand why anyone wouldn’t pick them?

   I don’t know your company, but part of me feels it’s a little bit of everything - entitlement. Toxicness. Miscommunication/not being able to connect.

   the difference between you and other hiring managers is that these are internal people with access to you to complain. If this was an external hire, it wouldn’t be as much of an issue but between friends, this does sound like mega entitlement in their part.

7. AnonymousMay 19,2024 at 8:52PM UTC

   Yes, people in general seem to feel completely entitled. It is sickening.

8. LaurenMay 20,2024 at 4:30PM UTC

   You don’t owe anyone an explanation, really. Initial feedback is fine (not required), because this can be helpful if the person is open to listening and learning, but I would take care with this as well and not say anything that someone could potentially use against you. Requesting follow up feedback is ridiculous, and I would not engage with requests like this. I’d make this known during the first call— this is your feedback—ask if there is anything else, because this is it. I’m a bit suspicious that people requesting second calls are fishing for something to use against you, to potentially take some type of legal action. Not unheard of. Protect yourself.