Am I a jerk for wanting to stick to my plans to resign from current position?

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August 2,2022 at 5:15PM UTC

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Am I a jerk for wanting to stick to my plans to resign from current position? I’ve been at my incredibly low paying job for 3yrs. I accepted an offer from another company, with a much nicer pay scale. I turned in my 2-week notice. Now my manager and corporate are trying to get me to stay, but are still ignoring raising my pay. I just found out that my immediate supervisor did not even turn in my most recent evaluation, and only asked for a 50 cent increase when he did finally turn it in. Am getting all kinds of excuses why it took me putting in my notice for them to even pay attention to me. I think it’s a REAL bad idea to stay. Am I right?

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Cyndi RosenblattAugust 2,2022 at 5:22PM UTC
Absolutely do not stay. I hate to state absolutes like this, but you will be fired as soon as they replace you if you stay.
AnonymousAugust 2,2022 at 5:51PM UTC
You need to do what is right for you. It sounds like you are unappreciated there and underpaid. Good luck with your new career move, sending good thoughts your way! Here's to a new, positive mental health journey!
KatAugust 2,2022 at 6:00PM UTC
Keep to your notice and don't look back! Why would stay at a place where you know you're underpaid and not appreciated? The attempt to keep you seems half-hearted at best and only because you've given notice. Don't expect anything (including your pay) to improve if you stay. I wouldn't be surprised if your promised raise never materializes if you were to stay. Time to go!
Audrey KirschAugust 2,2022 at 6:40PM UTC
I'm not seeing any reason for you to stay. They are not likely to change if you stay and your pay will not improve unless you again threaten to leave.
Joanne RosenAugust 2,2022 at 6:44PM UTC
RUN AWAY!!!!!
Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition SpecialistAugust 2,2022 at 6:46PM UTC
OF COURSE YOU'RE NOT A JERK FOR WANTING TO BE PAID MORE. Of course they want to hang onto you.
It IS a REAL bad idea to stay unless you want to continue to be underpaid and underappreciated.
You're responsible for your career and for doing what's best for you.
Do NOT let any of this bother you or give it one single second more of bandwidth in your brain. Forget about it - don't look back, use your energy to look forward to the exciting new opportunity you have in front of you.
GOOD LUCK ON YOUR NEW ADVENTURE!!!!!!
AnonymousAugust 2,2022 at 7:02PM UTC
Yes you are 100% right. This should only cement your decision. They sound chaotic and unfocused on their employees.
Robin LampertAugust 2,2022 at 7:25PM UTC
You are not even close to being a jerk here. They've been paying you at a low rate, not appreciating you, and even now when they are about to lose you, they haven't put anything in writing to motivate you to stay. Clearly you've been doing a good job or they wouldn't be asking you to stay.
I hope the people in your new place appreciate you.
AnonymousAugust 2,2022 at 7:29PM UTC
Why would you be the jerk? You need to go. Seriously.
Carmelita ErvinAugust 2,2022 at 7:52PM UTC
You are taking your career and life into your owns hands. If that is being a jerk, then we are all jerks. Obviously your manager doesn't value your work, so why should you stay there. It is time to move on.
AnonymousAugust 2,2022 at 8:10PM UTC
If you are questioning your decision I would pause and figure out exactly why? Your hesitant and doubt leads me to believe that you might want to stay.....maybe really want to stay.
Which is just fine. It's your decision and your happiness.
Maybe ask yourself, aside from an increase in salary, what you want them to offer you.
It's never a REAL bad idea to do what makes you happy.
Take a breath and figure out why you're looking for outside validation about your decision.
AnonymousAugust 3,2022 at 6:40PM UTC
Thank you for the insight. I was considering staying, but after some of the things I’ve learned, I am definitely NOT staying.
AnonymousAugust 4,2022 at 2:14AM UTC
Then revel in your decision and enjoy looking forward to your new chapter. This should be a wonderful time in your life.
AnonymousAugust 2,2022 at 8:11PM UTC
Take the new job.
Your current employer had the chance to treat you well and did not. They blew it.
AnonymousAugust 3,2022 at 2:27AM UTC
Are you looking for validation for leaving or are you looking for reasons to stay? I'm sensing frustration abd maybe hurt feelings but am I right? You tell me.
AnonymousAugust 3,2022 at 6:39PM UTC
OP here. I feel like they’re trying to guilt trip me into staying. But I’m not going to stay. My last day is 8/12 unless they fire me first
AnonymousAugust 4,2022 at 2:12AM UTC
No one can guilt anyone. It's actually a choice.
JJAugust 3,2022 at 2:54AM UTC
Yes the new opportunity.
Becca A.August 3,2022 at 3:56AM UTC
Not at all. Youre showing respect to yourself for sticking to your plans. So keep standing up for that inner you and keep going forth with the plan you know in your gut is the right one to take.
Wish you the best.
Patricia ManroeAugust 3,2022 at 5:37AM UTC
No, you are not a jerk for wanting something better. I would go with the offer.
AnonymousAugust 3,2022 at 9:56AM UTC
Not at all!!!!
You are not a jerk for wanting a better job/opportunity! Anyone that feels different is the jerk
The management you work with knows they get free labor from a hard worker if you stay. Too bad for THEM.
And they expect you to stay with no concessions??!!!
Welcome to a new beginning for you and a headache for them!
AnonymousAugust 3,2022 at 10:41AM UTC
Once resign means.. resign.. no point to stay back. if they offer you more than then also don't stay back. complete notice period and move to next organisation. if they really want you, then they should have considered your request and increase you pay scale as per market prior to your resignation. if they playing drama means it their inefficiency to find replacement to you.
Jackie GhedineAugust 3,2022 at 11:06AM UTC
You decided to leave for a reason. My advice, as a career and executive coach, you don't want to stay with a company where you have to resign to finally get paid market value. You need to work for a company who values your contribution and compensates you fairly for it
AnonymousAugust 3,2022 at 1:32PM UTC
Do not stay! trust your gut and go to someplace that will value you!
Alexis GladstoneAugust 3,2022 at 1:57PM UTC
I definitely wouldn't stay, and no, you're not being a jerk!
You decided it was time to leave so stick with your decision. It can be hard leaving the familiar for the unknown. Don't let the little bit of attention they are throwing your way dampen your resolve. Leave as scheduled and jump into your new role with focus and enthusiasm!
Barbara ThompsonAugust 3,2022 at 4:28PM UTC
Run. Don’t look back.
Maegan, Nike Sales Rep & Career CoachAugust 3,2022 at 6:47PM UTC
Sounds like you have a great opportunity in front of you
Heather CutlerAugust 4,2022 at 1:15AM UTC
Suffering in a low paying job is a choice when you have a higher paying opportunity in front of you. Your boss has been crystal clear in how they’re going to handle your request for a raise: they’ve ignored it because they don’t value you as en employee. Move on!
Tomilyn RichardsAugust 4,2022 at 11:02AM UTC
You do not owe them anything, but I do know how that guilt feels. Doing what is best for you and your career is your focus. They will find someone else and until they change, this will be a continuous problem for THEM.
AnonymousAugust 4,2022 at 12:12PM UTC
Yes move forward in your next life adventure.
Jocelyn LyonsAugust 4,2022 at 1:49PM UTC
You are not a jerk for wanting to be valued appropriately. It's time to move on, especially if your current employer still hasn't budged...
AnonymousAugust 4,2022 at 7:49PM UTC
No, you would be a jerk if you stayed under those conditions. Another example of poor management.
Regina BrownAugust 5,2022 at 2:22AM UTC
Wait, they are ignoring your pay raise...politely let them know that you have accepted ANOTHER position at a HIGHER pay scale.
These people cannot be that dense and/or stupid.
Keep it movin', girl!!!
AnonymousAugust 5,2022 at 11:17AM UTC
you better not even consider staying. Know your worth... because clearer this employer doesnt.
Kim CallinanAugust 5,2022 at 12:31PM UTC
You are correct; continue with your plan to leave, but do so on good terms. Thank them for the opportunity you have gotten there and wrap things up professionally. Good luck.
Jacqueline CutlerAugust 7,2022 at 2:23PM UTC
Yes, you are right. Go with the new job, where you are paid more!