My 1:1s with my boss are on Teams

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July 7,2023 at 1:54PM UTC

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My 1:1s with my boss are on Teams

All others in my group meet with him in person.

All of my colleagues are on a bi-weekly cadence. I’m newer-3 years out of school and on the job. They all have 10+ years experience.

My boss offered the whole team the opportunity to modify their meeting frequency anywhere between weekly and monthly. I requested weekly, and our meetings went from in person to virtual.

FGB hive mind, is this an opportunity to “take nothing personally?” Or should I request in person meetings?

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AnonymousJuly 7,2023 at 4:13PM UTC
Why? A 1:1 weekly is fine anyway you can get it.
AnonymousJuly 7,2023 at 5:03PM UTC
Personal? Ask the leader if you can do in person with your ask? Or every other week in person. Communicate with your leader, easy. I don't think years of experience needs to be brought into this, as it lends a bias on your part of assuming. Leave that there. Ask for what works best for you with your leader, simple.
AnonymousJuly 7,2023 at 7:38PM UTC
I'm not sure there is enough information here. Are you working remotely and the others in person? All in person? All remote? All hybrid? I would be open and honest with the manager about the frequency and format.
Denise BrowningJuly 8,2023 at 1:04PM UTC
I prefer doing 1'1s virtually over Teams because I don't have to worry about trying to find conference rooms where is difficult to find that kind of space. I plan for them to be on days we are remote rather than days we are in the office. We can be more candid and don't have to worry about others over hearing the feedback being given, etc.
AnonymousJuly 9,2023 at 2:39PM UTC
Well, though early in your career I think it's great that you recognize what you need from your manager. Now that we are going back into offices being in person if way better than over video. Suggest that you let him know that and that you want that in person time. Take control of what you need and make an agenda for the meetings that goes into the calendar. It sounds like your manager is fine with letting you decide things for yourself tell him what you need not only in meeting type but in growth so that you too can get ahead.
AnonymousJuly 9,2023 at 7:00PM UTC
Why do you feel bi-weekly isn't enough?
After 3 years, you should not need a lot of micro-managing, but if there are fast-moving things to discuss, weekly makes more sense.
If you are psychologically needy or insecure, check into therapy for that, and give yourself a goal and a deadline. Like, "by my next evaluation, I'll have worked my way off of weekly check-ins and return to biweekly F2F."
Lisa McCartneyJuly 9,2023 at 8:33PM UTC
Personally I might as for 2 weeks out of the month in person like the others and then virtual for the rest (if they are needed). (S)he might think your weekly request is excessive and this was the solution. Hope it helps.
AnonymousJuly 10,2023 at 3:43PM UTC
I would ask if the change to virtual was intentional. Outlook now auto-populates Teams if you don't disable it - maybe that's what happened with the new invite. You should let your manager know that you would like to meet in person. Consider meeting every two weeks to be considerate of his busy schedule.