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Trying to avoid pressing my nose up against the glass too much

I found out last week that our boss took a few team members on a leadership seminar trip. I feel like I should have been invited as well. I've done a great job, reviews are stellar, they give me impressive raises, and I've been hitting several milestones. The only thing these particular employees have over me is that they've been with the org for a few years longer than I have-- and, as if it should matter at all, they have political connections within our org (friends/family). Still, I have solid industry experience that matches or surpasses theirs. Not sure why I was overlooked. Maybe it's just not my time?

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  1. Maegan, Nike Sales Rep & Career Coach

    Take the lead! I would ask to be considered for the next one.

  2. Anonymous

    So you found out after the fact? How did you find out? Have you approached your boss about this? Something along the lines of "hey boss, I understand X and Y had the opportunity to attend this seminar. I would like such an opportunity, could you let me know what the criteria is for being selected for such an opportunity?"

  3. Anonymous

    Since the event has passed I would let you boss know that you want to be invited next time the opportunity arises.

    Obviously this had more to do with tenure and current roles than overall experience in the industry.

  4. Laura

    Have you asked your boss how the determination was made on who went? Sometimes we build things up in our heads so much trying to figure out "why" when we really just need to go directly to the source and ask the question.

  5. Kimberley Ferretti Hammett

    Definitely ask questions about the seminar and find out more. There's a chance the boss was playing "tenure gets the perks" but also consider that maybe this seminar is less of a perk and more of necessary learning experience for your colleagues that have been there a while and not receiving the same stellar reviews as you. It's very possible you were overlooked because they felt you performed above the level and wouldn't have as much to take away from it.

    Maybe a good approach would be to ask "Hey *boss*, I noticed much of the team went to this leadership seminar and had positive things to say about it. Could you tell me what some of the takeaways were and if there are any growth opportunities that could be a good fit for me?"

  6. Anonymous

    Ask? You are suffering from FOMO so perhaps find out from your manager with a direct conversation how you can get in that inner circle. Perhaps the budget only allowed for a certain amount of people to go and that was the limiter. Don't automatically go to the dark side in your thinking, instead show them why you should have gone.

  7. Anonymous

    That sounds really frustrating, especially when your performance has been consistently strong. It's hard not to take that personally. You absolutely deserve recognition and inclusion. Hopefully it’s not a pattern—but if it is, it might be worth raising the concern professionally or exploring where your growth will be truly valued.

  8. Anonymous

    It is valid to feel disappointed at your boss for being overlooked especially after stating why your great performance and interest. Your voice matters that is why it is important to find out from your boss why you were left out, i hope future opportunities recognize your value. Your time to shine is definitely coming!

  9. Anonymous

    It does!!

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