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HR, irritable and erratic boss

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HR, irritable and erratic boss

I spoke with HR about my boss recently after enduring months of on again off again verbal abuse. The boss lost their temper and made a few violent gestures at me. I felt I needed to make someone aware of this. Was this a dumb move?

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  1. Anonymous

    Keep a record.

  2. Anonymous

    I personally didn't know what to do in this situation in the beginning. I could have written records myself. Downward counter factual helps.

  3. Anonymous

    Are you documenting? Do you have witnesses? I don't think a dumb move to go to HR - I would have done so at the first instance of a 'violent gesture' (although could you explain what you mean by that?). What was HR's response?

  4. Anonymous

    Are there security cameras where the incident took place? That would be important to know and for HR to look into.

  5. Anonymous

    If you felt physically in danger and needed protection against an escalating threat absolutely you did the right thing.

  6. Anonymous

    Get a new job. You can’t change a person’s behavior. Yes, you did the right thing. If it happens again you tell your boss I’ve recorded this. Do you want to be aggressive towards me again? Tell them one more outburst I’m calling the police first, HR second. Your choice. I’m the wrong person to ask as I don’t tolerate that BS.

  7. Jacqueline Smith

    Never. Things don't change if we don't speak up. Document of course, ask to have a second supervisor present whenever you have to have a conversation with your boss etc. Make sure you're doing your part, being a good employee, being respectful as well too and having an honest conversation with the person. Facts are important, the less emotionally probably the better, the goal is to reach a resolution. Peace is one of them. Communication is key as is team work.

  8. Anonymous

    Having another person in the room is not an option because so many work from home. If HR follows up, they will probably be present if they decide a conversation is needed. The boss does not seem open to resolving things and continues focusing on the problems, some real and others imagined or exaggerated .I already tried an honest conversation and that is whI posted here.It didn't go well. I am looking for another position but the job market is tight. At first, I thought the boss was having a bad day but it has been like this for several months.

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