Whoa. After reading OP's response to this, I am actually in agreement with anonymous. I am hard pressed to find any genuine curiosity in your post when you reply in such a vicious and immature manner to the one and only person who questioned why you would post such a puzzling inquiry. As you yourself stated, we ARE in fact in the midst of the "great resignation"! That right there is reason for timelines to be accelerated in order to lock down promising candidates in this very competitive hiring market. Of course it is not a red flag, and yes... It DID seem like you were asking this to either brag about how clearly desirable you are because you are going through the hiring process faster than the average... Or to fish for people to confirm your beliefs in how truly outstanding a candidate you are.
I also thought, There is no way you were genuinely worried this was a real "red flag" ...come on.... If that was a genuine and valid worry, then you must be unbelievably rigid or, you are the kind of person who makes mountains out of molehills.
Now, after reading your bratty response peppered with name calling and what I am sure you perceived as amazing mic drop, "total burn" moments, I can confirm you are mountain into molehill gal... And your response is a red flag on your ability to gracefully communicate with anyone who is not lavishing you with praise. This type of response makes me assume you are that person on the team who thinks every wrinkle is a monumental emergency and also someone who is constantly borrowing worry and looking for hand holding and reassurance from everyone.
Before you fall back on your name calling and psuedo- psych 101 BS, no, I am NOT projecting nor am I bitter.
Just sharing MY observations on this very interesting turn of a thread. You may have been able to spin the "genuinely inquiring" bit if you hadn't been so cringy and silly in your response.
Since you came to this beautiful site for some advice, I would like to give you a bit:
Before you start this new position, decide which person you want to be within your new team. Do you want to be the one who asks her co workers for confirmation every time she has a "slight worry" and the one who, on a hair trigger loses her composure and has a tantrum? Or... Will you be the cool and composed problem solver who refuses to let petty annoyances become anything other than a minor blip on her radar?
If you want to grow to be that second woman, you have some work to do. .. but you can start by taking a beat, breathing deeply, and choosing to always be the bigger and better person. Every time.
Best of luck to you, I hope you land the job, and find success and growth in your new role.
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