I have been experiencing issues at work and realized this what happening to me.

17 Comments

1. AnonymousAugust 29,2022 at 11:13PM UTC

   I'm sorry this is happening to you!

   I had this at my prior work and worse, my supervisor supported it!

   It is very real. And degrading and exhausting!

2. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 4:27AM UTC

   Very exhausting , it made me question everything about myself!

3. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 10:40AM UTC

   Same here.

   My bully started in not only on how my work life was a joke but also how my personal life was pathetic. She knew nothing of me but saw I had no wedding band and started quoting the bible to me and stating my family hates me and I deserved death.. My boss adored her!!!

   She started months after I did and had never met me prior to the role.

4. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 4:13PM UTC

   This is happening to me right now.

   Luckily, it's happening because my position has been eliminated, and being a "lame duck," the mobbing doesn't bother me. But it's abundantly clear what they're doing.

5. AnonymousAugust 29,2022 at 11:15PM UTC

   I'm soooo with you on this!!!! I too had a horrible marriage I walked out of and though I have acquaintances at work, I basically go, say a pleasant "good morning" - or whatever, do my job and go home.

   Work to live, not live to work!

6. AnonymousAugust 29,2022 at 11:17PM UTC

   I'm sorry that has been happening and it's not only unacceptable, but downright mentally and emotionally draining (to put it lightly). I experienced similar and made MANY attempts to remedy the situation but to no avail. I pride myself in my work ethic and treating others with kindness and respect. I'm also an "older" employee and my colleagues were much younger so discrimination crossed my mind but I got along wonderfully with the younger staff members in a prior role and the same company.

   I have been in the workforce for decades and have never experienced anything like it. I consider myself to be strong but after nearly of year of that nonsense, I got out. I hope you do not have to go to that extreme but being made to feel that way truly awful. Speak to your manager and perhaps even inquire with someone in HR you can trust. Read over the "Diversity and Inclusion" information within your organization and outline if anything there pertains to you.

   Hugs, and keep us posted!

7. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 4:24AM UTC

   It unfortunately started with mgmt

8. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 12:01AM UTC

   May I ask what you did about it?

9. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 4:23AM UTC

   I did nothing that I am aware of and if I had done something it was never brought to my attention

10. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 8:49AM UTC

    What I meant to ask is how did you stop the abuse? What worked for you?

11. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 4:25AM UTC

    I agree and I was doing that but to no avail. It’s one of the worst experiences of my life.

12. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 1:26PM UTC

    This is a tale as old as time. I am not sure how to combat it when you have no one you can trust. I have seen it go both ways once HR was involved. One guy even got a promotion shortly after the accusations were made.

13. AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 3:59PM UTC

    Thanks for sharing.

    So do you stay or do you go once you’ve identified this is what is happening?

    it’s not clear to me how to effectively engage with HR, confront those acting in this way, reach out for management support or other and think it will be okay to stay.

14. AnonymousAugust 31,2022 at 10:35AM UTC

    She was insecure and troubled.
    The best way for her was to go after others. It was awful. She saw great pleasure in being this way -- to be sure others felt miserable and she was full of pride. 100% of the time she stated "facts" about others, she was completely wrong.

15. Tomilyn RichardsAugust 31,2022 at 11:20AM UTC

    I am a zero tolerance person as it relates to bullying. You go to HR, you make it loud and clear to your leadership. If it continues, I would absolutely leave. No workplace should tolerate that behaviour.

16. AnonymousAugust 31,2022 at 2:40PM UTC

    This exact scenario happened to me, and I was a Talent Acquisition Manager in HR! The entire HR organization began treating me this way, it was horrible. Never during my 15 year career have I left a job after 3 months, but the situation was so toxic, that’s exactly what I did. My prior company welcomed me back with open arms the day after I left; was the best decision I ever made to leave and not allow the toxicity to erode my confidence.

17. AnonymousAugust 31,2022 at 9:35PM UTC

    I agree!

    People act like this for a reason. It's one thing if you are miserable, but taking it out on others is plain wrong IMO!