I really need to get out of my head...

8 Comments

1. AnonymousNovember 9,2022 at 8:54PM UTC

   Well this happens. Just dustract yourself and have faith that you did well. Go for a run and chill.

2. Nicole DupuisNovember 9,2022 at 8:56PM UTC

   What were you confused about? Sounds like you felt good initially about the interview and then you almost talked yourself OUT of feeling that way. We all have a negativity bias where it is easier for us to think about negative outcomes than positive, especially when it is something important and impactful to our lives. Focus on what you did well. Instead of second guessing, pick out some areas for improvement. That way your feedback to yourself is more constructive than just fear-based. I hope you get it!!!!

3. AnonymousNovember 15,2022 at 4:10PM UTC

   Thanks, Nicole. I found out today that I didn't get it. I guess all this time, I knew. I appreciate your kind words.

4. Gaby CadenaNovember 9,2022 at 10:50PM UTC

   Hey there, it sounds like you have some insight into the narrative in your head and how it can be detrimental to your well-being. However, insight doesn't solve the problem.

   It is good to have a coach, mentor, or good friend to process your emotions after a big event.

   Emily & Amelia Nagosky- wrote about the process of emotions and how learning to process them fully (even after the event that triggered them, to begin with, is over) can improve your experience.

   It is a common assumption that because the big event is over, you should be relieved, but your body and mind continue to process the emotions and feel this confusion or feelings that may be difficult to process.

   I would recommend having a conversation with support and seeing how you feel after; if the feelings persist, then time to dig deeper.

   Good job and good luck with the opportunity!

5. VerityNovember 10,2022 at 12:14PM UTC

   I believe that a lot of people might have similar feelings - I know I would. But, as you said, you know you did well so I think you just need to keep focusing on that and try to stay positive :) If I listened to the voice in my head that said this after everything, I'd never have the achievements I do now.

6. Crystal HowellNovember 10,2022 at 2:05PM UTC

   You did your best, it's up to stars if they were aligned . Patience is a virtue.

7. AnonymousNovember 11,2022 at 3:50AM UTC

   If you did your best, it is time to relax!
   Once you do everything you can to shine, the rest is out of your control. I wish you the very best and if this is your door it will open! Good luck.

8. Shanita Taylor BSIS, BSc (Psyc), M.A.E.LNovember 11,2022 at 10:50PM UTC

   Congratulations