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January 9,2023 at 12:37AM UTC

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I have been working for a company for almost 17 years now. Things have changed over the last few years and there is no work life balance anymore. On top of that, there are layoffs happening even though my team is not impacted. I recently took a new job within the org and I am not at all enjoying the work and has been very stressful. Thinking of quitting but I need the paycheck. I dread Monday mornings now.. that’s why sitting and writing this post. Any advice on how to deal with the stress at work?

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AnonymousJanuary 9,2023 at 3:13AM UTC
Ok, I want start by saying that our life is what we make it. It is honestly is a reflection of our choices.
If you are choosing to stay in a miserable situation then here is what I can offer:
1. Since there is clearly nothing you can do to suddenly love your work, pick out the parts you even like a little and focus on those parts as your reward. Do what you can to organize and manage every other portion of your job but spend quality time enjoying those parts you like.
2. Make your personal life your joy. That means find balance in your life and invest in you away from work. Invest time, money and energy in those personal interests that bring you joy. Hobbies, learning, friends and family. Anything that fills you up will help to offset the dread and stress of the work you are obligated to do to keep your job.
3. Selfcare. Eat well, exercise and sleep well. Stress, anxiety and dread will extract a cost so you need to counter that. Try prayer, meditation, therapy.....its important not to downplay the cost of forcing yourself to endure unhappiness. .
4. Finally, since your company is in flux and even though you and your team have been untouched by layoffs there are no guarantees that will remain the case so update your resume and LinkedIn profile. Attend professional conferences and join memberships that you company can pay for so you can bring your network current. You may need them. 17 years are a single company, even one that has grown and changed is a very long time.
5. Work on your fear of change and dream.
AnonymousJanuary 16,2023 at 6:24PM UTC
Does your company have an EAP- employee assistance program? if so take advantage of that it's usually a 3rd party where you can speak to someone about what you are dealing with. As an alternative if your main concenr is the potential for getting laid off do start to look. Create a well defined cover note touting your most marketable skills and that the instability of the current company is making you consider a change. You could also ask if you are possibly at risk and if they are doing packages volunteer for that. Then you can focus on finding a good more balanced place to work. Yes, it matters that you get paid but if you get laid off you will break free of the stress.