I’m not being treated fairly with same equality, opportunities and respect as he treats my coworkers.

8 Comments

1. AnonymousMay 29,2025 at 7:47PM UTC

   Do you know them well enough to discuss accountability? I really don't suggest struggling junior staff addressing this by themselves, but are you able to find someone you trust lateral to them that could attend this meeting? I say this because 1:1s never workout in holding that person accountable if you plan to stay unless a great interpersonal relationship is forged. With another person lateral to them present, it will show that this unprofessional behavior is serious. You don't need to threaten but explain you came to them first to address this. An action plan to correct this. How you plan to measure the change. and what you plan to do if the change isn't consistent or you don't see them continuing to improve. Best of luck. Also, keep an excel file of all the meeting you've had with that person documenting the meeting with a followup email is essential this email should highlight what was addressed and the action plan to correct it. They may not realize what they're doing directly is having a negative affect on you. I wish you the best of luck!

2. AnonymousMay 29,2025 at 8:27PM UTC

   I would start by asking why.

3. AnonymousMay 29,2025 at 8:56PM UTC

   that might make him dislike me more

4. AnonymousMay 29,2025 at 10:47PM UTC

   Then don't say a word and start looking for a new job.

5. AnonymousMay 30,2025 at 3:39PM UTC

   Philosophical statement I read, and going to use: Move in Silence - - -don't tell anyone about what you are planning, take care of yourself.

6. AnonymousMay 29,2025 at 9:08PM UTC

   I'm reading this but not know who "he" is that you're referring. Are you saying you feel you are not treated with equality, etc. by your manager, but you are seeing that others, as in your colleagues are receiving what you are not? It's a delicate slope here. I know some may not think 1:1 meetings are helpful but they are. They are only as good as you guide them. With that, ask your manager if you could have a meeting with them only. Then ask for regular meetings at least once a month to make sure you are receiving acknowledgement for your work, be able to ask questions and directions. In this meeting, thank them for meeting with you and that you are seeking support. Find some professional development activity and do some research, something that can help you learn and grow, then ask your manager for their approval to take it. Or if it's a no cost then tell them you took it. Ask and you shall receive, but you have to ask for what you need and want.

7. AnonymousMay 30,2025 at 3:36PM UTC

   I have been enduring this in my current position for a few years now, and its a big hint, we dont want you...and keep them legal. IMO - - I'm saying this about myself Unfortunately I have to hang on until I can get out, and I am federal and I don't know if I have a job, and am supporting a family, Veterans. I have been making the most of a vacation time to possibly relocate with a new job, one that is Veteran friendly.

8. S MaishaMay 31,2025 at 12:54PM UTC

   Network with others in your field, not just at that particular job. Some companies have poor culture and cliquish environments. Hopefully there’s something better out there for you. Good luck