I'm feeling lost and uncertain about my job.

12 Comments

1. AnonymousSeptember 30,2024 at 5:35PM UTC

   Yes your job is definitely at risk. She is slowly making your position irrelevant.

   There is nothing you, personally, can do I'm afraid. Your only recourse to get this to stop is to go to HR but she may have beat you to it. Try and reconstruct a time line and document incidents of her reassigning your work and include documentation of when and what she said about your workload and you meetings with her about your pointing the pattern out

   In the meantime, start looking for another job

2. GirlBossanova934974October 2,2024 at 12:46PM UTC

   Unless you have some retirement plan with this company AND your retirement check will be cut significantly if you leave today, I would be out of this place yesterday. Your new boss is hoping you quit because she does not want to be seen in a negative light if she dumps a 20 year employee with the company. Doesn't look good! The only other thing? I would be asking myself why this new supervisor has it in for me. There are all sorts of very questionable people these days who have been promoted into management jobs these days. Competence is not one of their better character traits. It is all about running some sort of popularity contest and being the belle of the ball even though no one sees any of that.

3. AnonymousOctober 2,2024 at 1:43PM UTC

   Socially i know there's this whole "Quiet Quitting" movement and not doing more than what's expected, but for situations like this that is exactly what's required. You need to remind them and SHOW your value. Appeal to other employees (outside of your direct mgmt) that you're available to assist as needed (print jobs, formatting, etc,). Literally look at yourself like a business - you're the VP OF MARKETING!!

   I make this suggestion with the assumption that you want to stay where you're at. Otherwise my advice would be for you to start searching. . . . perhaps you should anyway (just in case).
   Please view my suggestion as a last Hail Mary. Either way I do not think it would be wise to bring this to HR!!!

4. AnonymousOctober 2,2024 at 3:36PM UTC

   I would think first if you want to truly stay there. If you do then do speak up and let the CEO know that you are being under-resourced. Let them know that you want to do more and are capable of such and that you would like to add in any way place role that they need extra hands. Let them know you want to be busy and are committed to getting sh* done.

   If you come away empty handed from that conversation think about whether they truly value you. You could speak to an employment attorney if you think they are going to eliminate your role, and "age" you out. If you have proof of this you might have some recourse. Alternatively, sit down and have an honest chat with your manager and let them know you want to do more. You won't know until you know.

5. AnonymousOctober 3,2024 at 12:46PM UTC

   I've been there. It was different roles but the same conversations and assignments. Regardless of what I did, it was either too much, not enough, or outside my lane. I was once admonished for acting like a manager when my title was "site manager." Assigning tasks and clients to my team was outside my lane when it was in my job description. I'm not sure what to tell you. Age discrimination is hard to overcome and even harder to prove, especially when upper management is trying to bring in fresh new faces (read that younger people are cheaper.) The older ones get tired of the fight and look for work elsewhere or retire. I ended up retiring and finishing my doctorate.

   Does your company post jobs internally? If not, check the Indeed or LinkedIn job boards to see if they have any roles posted that you would be interested in. Obviously, your manager isn't interested in helping you find another role that would fit you, so you have to do the leg work on your own. If you see such a role, tell your manager you will apply for it and then follow your company's policies for application for an internal transfer. If you are unsure of the process, talk to HR or TA. They can guide you. Good luck, and I hope you find something that challenges you and where you are appreciated.

6. LORI-ANN BURLINGAMEOctober 3,2024 at 1:15PM UTC

   It is always difficult to inherit someone else's staff members. You worked with your previous manager for many years and had a special bond. It appears that you and your current manager do not have that bond.

   Have your had a performance review with your current supervisor? If not ask for a 1:1, to see if and where you may need improvements. (Managers will often reassign work to others who they feel may be better suited. )

   Keep you spirits up things will work themselves out. :)

7. Changemaker828603October 3,2024 at 1:16PM UTC

   Sorry. I have seen this happen to so many women. It happened to my Mom, and also to me. I just couldn't believe it. And even went through a PIP that was set up to fail. I just couldn't accept what was happening.

   I found another job, you will too, and you will wonder why you stayed in a toxic environment for so long. It drains you.

8. AnonymousOctober 3,2024 at 1:52PM UTC

   I think everything is correct the way your position is managed. If you feel that your manager has another plans for you, you should let them know that you are available when you finish your assignments.

   Good luck.

9. AnonymousOctober 3,2024 at 6:55PM UTC

   Seems like writing is on the wall and I’m sorry you’re going through this ,I think I Would start looking for new positions in a new company

   in my experience HR is not going to help you and will probably hasten your exit look for something new that can be invigorating and stimulating and give you a whole new outlook

   good luck !

10. AnonymousOctober 4,2024 at 12:47PM UTC

    It's rich that your supervisor is reassigning your work and then insisting that you don't have enough to do.

    It doesn't sound like there's a positive future for you at this company, whether you go to HR or not. So I would start looking for another job where you are treated with respect.

11. AnonymousOctober 4,2024 at 1:01PM UTC

    I am sorry about your experience. I believe you should try to find another job. You could take up the issue with R. But tr to look for another job.

    As other people have mentioned, HR is not necessarily on your side. Instead, HR seems to look after the interest of the company rather than the employees.

12. Rosa GoesOctober 8,2024 at 8:13PM UTC

    It's time to move on. Like others mentioned, start looking for other opportunities. Get a recruiter involved to assist. You don't mention what your current role is, only that it's an admin role. So for starters, work on your resume, think of your next role, the opportunity you want and type of company. Start networking. You've been at the company for 20 yrs so alot has changed in the hiring process. A recruiter will help guide you.