what is the best way to approach a coworker that is always pointing fingers and blaming others?

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November 4,2022 at 11:01AM UTC

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AnonymousNovember 4,2022 at 11:51AM UTC
I usually start with a questions....do you realize that you resort to blaming others when things don't go well?
AnonymousNovember 4,2022 at 1:13PM UTC
This really depends on the person you are talking to, typically people get very defensive when confronted. Is there a way to have a lead/supervisor/manager help guide the conversation (and be a witness)?
AnonymousNovember 4,2022 at 4:11PM UTC
Can you take ownership of this and find a resolution for us?
Shelly EdwardsNovember 4,2022 at 4:32PM UTC
I'd start with something along the lines of "Hey Gladys, thank you so much for pointing out the issue. Its great that you want to work as a team to fix the problem. Perhaps you and the other person can come up with a solution that works better for the next time. What a great help you have been." I'm more of the kill them with kindness and professionalism kind of person. It usually shuts people down prett quickly when they realize their tactics aren't working. They either start coming at it with solutions that make them look better or they stop brining up mistakes because they don't want to look bad.