How do you feel about a coworker with recurrent tragedies in their life?

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1. AnonymousJanuary 14,2023 at 2:23AM UTC

   I'd feel sympathetic. And grateful that I'm not experiencing their problems.

   You don't say much about what type of tragedies are occurring. Am I right to read resentment or suspicion in your post? If you're resentful of the extra load, talk to your management - potentially use the extra work and your coverage in your next review(s). If you're suspicious or don't feel like the person should need to take off as much from work for "tragedies", you can still report the extra work you did in reviews. I wouldn't accuse the coworker unless there was good evidence. Sometimes people really do have runs of very bad luck after which things return to normal. Some people plan badly enough that they create their own bad luck. By documenting the extra coverage work, you can make both your contributions and the need for better back-up clearer to your management.

   Good luck.

2. AnonymousJanuary 14,2023 at 3:50AM UTC

   Thank you, yes, lots of resentment and suspicion. Not only from me for sure from the entire team. Managers aware but with no real action. The rest of the team is just amazing and help with coverage but more and more it impacts overflow of work.

3. AnonymousJanuary 14,2023 at 1:52PM UTC

   This is great advice!!

4. AnonymousJanuary 14,2023 at 6:46PM UTC

   That is life, if you feel pressured from having to cover for this person when they are out speak to your manager. That is not your job but if you are taking on the full boat of another ask for more pay or a dept transfer if this is chronic and you prefer not to.

5. Mary PoolJanuary 15,2023 at 1:33PM UTC

   There was a period of my life when I thought my life had become a soap opera. It was literally one thing after another for months on end. I have always appreciated the support of my manager and team, they made me feel valued, not like a burden. The last thing I needed was one more thing added to a pile I had no control over. Sometimes in life, people have a run of bad luck. Ask yourself, if this were you, how would you like to be treated? If covering is become too much, as for help.

6. Mary PoolJanuary 15,2023 at 1:40PM UTC

   She is covering for this person, not a manager. It would be completely inappropriate for her to ask for a doctor's note. Also, it must be company policy to ask for notes; a person, including a manager, cannot ask willy-nilly. What goes on between him and his manager is between them, this is a matter of privacy.

7. Erica MitchellJanuary 15,2023 at 2:02PM UTC

   Please have some empathy for him. If bad things keep happening to him he needs it.

8. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 2:22PM UTC

   I feel that if that coworker is treated with empathy and compassion by their employer, they are likely to be a good coworker in return. And if they are treated with suspicion and resentment, then they will also be resentful.

9. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 2:32PM UTC

   I have worked with a few people like this, and their personal life consumes them, and they dabble with work. No one could possibly constantly have such drama, and its naive to assume he is having a string of bad luck. Watch closely, there will always be something.

10. AnonymousJanuary 16,2023 at 3:05PM UTC

    not at all true! consider yourself incredibly lucky that you've not had multiple tragedies! I've lost 3 family members, lost my relationship, job, health (diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, got Ramsay Hunt, just broke a tooth and now my wrist). But lucky you and anyone else because since I LOST MY JOB, no poor soul has to speculate that i'm lying and cover my work for me.

11. MsJanuary 15,2023 at 4:05PM UTC

    Without knowing the types of tragedies it’s hard to respond appropriately. The word tragedy in itself sounds very serious so I’d show compassion and show up every day with gratitude for all the things going right in my life and hold space for that coworker worker if they need an ear.

    If work begins to hinder your personal quality of life - then expressing your overtime and work load with your leader sounds appropriate so that this person’s tragedies aren’t impacting your life in such a negative manner.

12. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 7:20PM UTC

    What do you mean "how do you feel?" I had a year where it was a constant crap storm of bad luck - my dad died, my brother and cousin had really bad accidents (then my brother had a heart attack later in the year), we lost people to suicide, and rounded out the year with losing my cat. Stuff happens, when it rains, it pours. Give them grace, because I am feeling some resentment from your post.

13. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 9:11PM UTC

    Oh believe me, the entire team would be more than willing to show empathy if we knew the constant "incidents" were true; but not only do they happen before or after a holiday but we also see that his social media stories show trips to the beach and other activities that do not coincide with what he shares with us. Yes, there's a lot of resentment and management keeps telling us we need to trust he's telling the truth because no one would really lie about serious incidents.

14. Michele KingJanuary 16,2023 at 1:27PM UTC

    This should have been in your original post because it provides a great deal of clarity. Reading your post makes you sound like an insensitive clod. Adding this information in there changes the scenario.

15. Looking for a changeJanuary 16,2023 at 3:08AM UTC

    I don’t know if this person is telling the truth if he is he definitely has a lot going on. If he isn’t he will be found out or karma will come. If you are able to cover him and do your own job well I suggest you bring it up during a review or to ask for a raise

16. Wendy Place BurnsJanuary 16,2023 at 1:37PM UTC

    Actually, interesting strategy.. leverage the capability for a raise...I like it

17. Lisa WilliamsJanuary 16,2023 at 1:19PM UTC

    I believe she's stated the incidents are always before and after holidays and they're seeing social media posts where he's at the beach during these incidents. I think everyone can have empathy and compassion but it does get old having to carry the weight of other's lack of work ethic. I'm not saying this person is lying but apparently, he's not really smart with his social media posts, exposing that most likely, he's not being honest. She's frustrated and rightly so.

    Yes, we all go through stuff, and as a manager, I've been through my own personal struggles. If indeed he's being honest, then management needs to provide some temporary help and possibly step in the assist with the work load during these times.

18. AnonymousJanuary 16,2023 at 1:24PM UTC

    I don’t think you need to pass judgment on what is happening with your coworker’s personal life. If *you* are overworked, then address that with your boss. If you don’t have time to finish your tasks because you’re covering for him, then your employer needs to divide this work differently. But again, what is happening in this coworker’s life is nothing for you to be trying to judge as worthy or unworthy of his attention or distraction.

19. AnonymousJanuary 16,2023 at 1:42PM UTC

    Absolutely! Well said. As coincidental that it may be that every month, there seems to be a tragedy with this individual, one never knows what's truly going on. Count your blessings that your life isn't fraught with recurring issues, challenges, etc.

20. Crystal HowellJanuary 16,2023 at 1:26PM UTC

    Have a consult with boss and hr, discuss next steps.

21. AnonymousJanuary 16,2023 at 1:43PM UTC

    Talk with your boss about your workload. Ask that the tasks you’re expected to cover be spread out to others or ask for a raise to be properly compensated. Is being resentful getting you anywhere? Let it go and concentrate on your own career.

22. J CJanuary 16,2023 at 1:54PM UTC

    We had a guy who,had about. 20 grandmas die. His explanation was he was raised by different relatives over the years so he had lots of grandmas. But he posted a trip to Brazil when his grandmas funeral was in Virginia. Took it to upper management. We weren’t allowed to use the Facebook page for discipline ( Union! ). But it was enough that he had to start bringing in a death certificate or obit and there had to be a family connection mentioned. Not surprisingly, his grandmas all stopped dying

23. AnonymousJanuary 16,2023 at 2:57PM UTC

    I'd say be glad you're not the one with all the tragedies and have some compassion. In the past 3 years, my mother died (who I took care of for 8 months while trying to work FT), my brother died, my brother in law died, I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, got Ramsay Hunt, broke a tooth last week and broke my wrist 4 days ago and live alone so can't do much for myself currently but don't have much choice. Lost my partner and my job, so no poor soul has to cover for me. I'd trade paces with you in a heartbeat.

24. Bradford McCormickJanuary 16,2023 at 2:58PM UTC

    Somebody has already asked of this person is real or not? If they are real, you are only a fellow employee and you are only one person. You have to get your own work done and you need rest each nite.

    You need to talk with your manager and ask how you can provide the most help within the bounds of what is reasonably possible for you to do. If it's some kind of "secret" that only you know, that sounds to me like that would be a problem that needs to be addressed:

    The company needs to know about this..You want to do the right thing but what is the right thing for you to do may not be clear and you do not want to be an "enabler" of somebody who is not themselves being straight, which may or may not be the case here. This is just too uch for you to handle by yourself, isn't it? You need to look outfor yourself, andthat's not eing "selfish": Like when on an airplane the cabin loses air pressure, mothers are instructed to put on their own oxygen mask BEFORE puting the mask on their child because if they try to do the child first they may lose conscieousness before they succeed.

25. AnonymousJanuary 16,2023 at 3:33PM UTC

    i worked for many years in a drug rehab. Very upscale place and clientele. A “guest” as they were called, told me her father died suddenly. Got massive amounts of attention, as would be rightfully so in that situation, right? When that wore off her sister was allegedly in a car accident that left her on life support, and that morphed into a brother overusing and dying. Then clinicians became suspicious. And the “ deceased” father called to check on her. The whole thing ended poorly with a trip to the psyche ward for the guest. I say all this because I was shocked at the level of deception, but more so for her need to get attention. Some people do have very tragic circumstances in their lives. My advice for you would be to drop all preconceived judgements of this person, say a prayer for him if you are a person of faith and then address it with your supervisor. He too could have an emotional issue he tries to hide by becoming absent, or perhaps he’s just that kind of employee who doesn’t want to work. Either way, its excessive and unfair to you. But please please please frame it with an element of concern for him because god forbid it’s true. Humans however, never cease to amaze me with avoiding work. Just come from a good place with it. Admin might know something you don’t, or they could have their own suspicions.

26. Kate MockusJanuary 16,2023 at 5:04PM UTC

    God forbid indeed.

27. Coach Nancie Kay ShumanJanuary 16,2023 at 5:00PM UTC

    Don't stand near him at a bus stop. Beyond that, if you feel that his work should be shared by others, as this he's been on going for a while, then talk to your supervisor about having other people cover as well.

28. Coach Nancie Kay ShumanJanuary 17,2023 at 7:26PM UTC

    I feel compelled to share my actual experience here. in 2012, my 6 year old niece was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, my godfather was diagnosed with kidney cancer, my BiL was diagnosed with severe neurological issues, and my father had a massive heart attack. In the next 3.5 years, 11 people in my circle would die, along with a cat, and I would end one of the most important relationships of m y adult life. I was lucky to be working for myself, and able to basically shut down my business in order to help care for them, and take care of my own mental health. Ultimately, all of this and much more, sent me into a well deserved depression, which took a year to work through. The reason I am now in London studying Integrative Health and Wellbeing is because I recognize a need for a reset after having to dump my practice due to disease, dying, death and depression.

    Are there times when situations such as this are suspect? Yes. Is it appropriate to ask your supervisors for a more equitable distribution of labor to cover the absences? Absolutely. Are his absences any of your business? Only in as much as the extra work effects you, and in that case, see the second sentence of this paragraph.

29. AnonymousJanuary 16,2023 at 6:07PM UTC

    Suspicious!

30. CosmosMomJanuary 16,2023 at 6:21PM UTC

    I’ve been in this position before and worst part was they were always backlogged. I worked out with our boss that I would only work on things that came in during their absence, not anything before or after. That helped me quite a bit. As far as them always having a crisis, that is something I left up to management- they eventually dealt with it.

31. Reb562January 16,2023 at 7:48PM UTC

    I had always thought this situation was ridiculous until it happened to me. In 2020 my best friend died, then my mother in law, then my father in law, then I had to have emergency operations twice, etc....

    I felt so bad, and my bosses looked at me as if I was one of " those" people, etc... Now in 2023 I have more compassion, more understanding and I am more flexible with my employees and co-workers than I have ever been in my 30+ year career. Until it happens to you, it's hard to believe this could be someone's reality.

32. Stephanie LekowskiJanuary 16,2023 at 8:54PM UTC

    It's not just about recurring tragedies, assuming they are real. It's his inability and your firm's inability to create conditions where you don't end up having to cover your and the missing employee's workload. I spent YEARS due to a colleague who didn't bother/know how to coordinate child care with their spouse and they were ALWAYS having "emergencies". It was a nightmare.

33. Rosa GoesJanuary 16,2023 at 11:48PM UTC

    It's tough. Most of those tragedies are out of anyone's control. Your coworker is having a bad year. I would talk to your boss about rotating coverage for this person so that it's not a burden on you and/or one person. It helps if you work within a team and duties are reassigned. Offer the rotation coverage to your boss. Or maybe they can hire a temp for the time being. Any suggestions that would make work life easier. Good luck to you!

34. Liz MilneJanuary 17,2023 at 12:17AM UTC

    Being cold about it, he's surely going to run out of family soon...

    Being kind and giving the benefit of the doubt: he's having an awful time, perhaps cut him some slack?

    If it's impacting on your work, raise it with your line manager, but I'm sure they've already noted the many days off he's had.

35. AnonymousJanuary 17,2023 at 4:12AM UTC

    What kind of a monster are you? Be grateful you have the health and sanity to cover for him. I'd much rather be you than him... I THINK!

36. AnonymousJanuary 17,2023 at 1:24PM UTC

    I don't think You think at all. Beyond rude comment and completely uncalled for. Being tired of picking up someone else's work does not make any one a monster. It makes them tired. Your comment just makes you a jerk.

37. AnonymousJanuary 18,2023 at 5:47AM UTC

    I don't think? You don't SEE. We're human beings before our roles as employees, business owners, bosses, whatever. We're human beings, period. And we're put on this earth to help and support one another when tragedy, loss and/or pain occurs. "Being tired of picking up someone else's work?" Give me a break. We should be helping each other, not scrapping about "being tired." It's temporary! So why the spoiled and whiny? Selfish and unfeeling, that's why. NOW who's the jerk?

    PS: Uncalled for? If someone posts, they should be willing to hear feedback--even if it's not what they want to hear.

38. AnonymousJanuary 18,2023 at 4:58PM UTC

    I'd agree with you if it was constructive feed back but it wasn't. And guess what, we're not obligated to help every other person out there all the time. We are put on this earth by happenstance and nothing else.

    and you are still a jerk.

39. AnonymousJanuary 18,2023 at 7:12PM UTC

    I sure as hell wouldn't want YOUR help and I hope you never need any.

40. Janet ParkhurstJanuary 19,2023 at 1:08AM UTC

    Name calling isn't going to get us anywhere. And that isn't in the spirit of FairyGodBoss. Maybe I didn't put it in the best way, but my message is that humanity comes before profit. And I STILL think we were all born for a reason. "Happenstance and nothing else?" That sounds dismissive and like someone who doesn't want to take ownership of her own life, let alone others'. It also sounds like you have never suffered a real hardship --NOT that I would wish that on anyone. But there IS an old expression, "Show me a person who has never suffered, and I'll show you an insufferable person."

41. Ginger CarlsonJanuary 17,2023 at 4:53AM UTC

    "The Perils of Pauline", is what my family calls that. Apparently my father saw a movie in the 50s, everything happened to Pauline. Bless

42. AnonymousJanuary 17,2023 at 1:28PM UTC

    Its exhausting isn't it and it's hard to not feel a little resentful. I'm sorry that you are having to deal with the extra work. Are there resources that can help you with coverage?

    *To anyone about to come at me. This post is about the OP, not the guy with the life issues. His stuff is his stuff, but you know what, others are allowed to be tired or feel resentful when the clean-up falls on them regardless of the reasons why. It doesn't make them a monster or unfeeling, uncaring or unsympathetic. It makes them human,

43. Stephanie LekowskiJanuary 19,2023 at 6:00PM UTC

    Absolutely. I had several physical issues as a result of having to cancel not only personal time but actual doctor appointments due to a former co-worker going MIA on his millionth "My kids' teacher called and I have to leave to pick them up from school." I would be expected to take one for the team. You can't help feeling resentful.

44. Valerie RiegerJanuary 17,2023 at 3:17PM UTC

    To answer your question of how I feel about a coworker with recurrent tragedies - I would feel compassion. It seems like he's having a very difficult season in life.

    Having said that, I also recognize the difficulty in covering for someone as much as you've been asked to cover for your coworker. I would encourage you to reach out to your manager and ask if there is someone else that can help shoulder the workload.

    I hope - for both of you - that this season in your coworker's life moves on quickly.

45. AnonymousJanuary 17,2023 at 3:34PM UTC

    As someone whose 2022 was personally a series of tragic events. Deaths of loved ones, Family members in an out of hospital, and then back in again. Watching them suffer and there's nothing you can do. Then having a scare of potential cancer and having to wait 2 months for the surgeon to be available. I felt, guilty and embarrassed for troubling others, fearing they would think me problematic, cursed, a burden. I was doing everything I could to keep going. I went to therapy, tried to process deaths, health trauma. I told very few people how bad it actually was. I felt extremely vulnerable, overwhelmed, hopeless, anxiety, fear anger. With my own health scare, I did notify our HR, and they were helpful and supportive. I shared what I was capable for and what I wasn't. When people helped me I felt a mix of shame, vulnerability, guilt.. and also gratitude and love for people who were, despite my tough circumstances, kind, patient and stepped up. In this world, so many people are like "what's in in for me" or "don't be so dramatic". Now that my life has finally found balance and calmed down after a year of horrifying unrelenting trauma, I am thankful for the ones who showed up for me personally and professionally. I know I would do whatever I could to try step up for others who are experiencing this type of awful experience, even if its just to let them talk and feel safe and not feel judged . I had to ask for help, it was humbling and hard. I am sure your co-worker may be feeling similar things. Ask yourself, if you were in their shoes how would you feel? What kind of support would you want? But, also ask yourself, what do I need in this situation so I can keep helping them, and that could include sharing the load with others, if it is taking on too much.

46. Kimberly GrahamJanuary 17,2023 at 5:36PM UTC

    Tragedies vs. drama are much different from my vantage point. I have compassion for those struggling during tough times, health issues, etc. but try to refocus people just looking for drama.

47. JudiJanuary 17,2023 at 6:27PM UTC

    It sounds to me like you're overworked due to covering for someone else and that is the area of your question that needs to be focused on and addressed by your supervisor. Let them know how horrible this must be for your coworker. Could they also provide some additional resources so your work doesn't fall behind? I can understand how patience can run thin when you are overworked due to someone's hardships and you've been supportive but now need assistance yourself.

48. AnonymousJanuary 17,2023 at 11:55PM UTC

    I’ve read a lot the other comments and like some I have had difficult periods of my life and notice that my coping versus that of others is very different. I’m private and no one I worked with knew my dad was dying of cancer for months, and when he died no one knew about it for months. They only found out that he died because I casually mentioned something about an upcoming event that he would not attend. What I’m saying is that everything that happens doesn’t have to be an issue for others, some things for yourself will be but I don’t understand dwelling on the negative issues that happen repeatedly, frankly no one else needs to know how rough your life is and especially when issues stack on top of each other. Communicate that you will need temporary assistance and then will get it together or report to your manager that the workload you’ve taken because someone else is not pulling their weight needs a review because you can’t continue with the load

49. AnonymousJanuary 18,2023 at 7:08PM UTC

    Did you take care of your dad and work full time while living alone during the pandemic with no help while also dealing with lupus? If so, hats off to you. There was no way to keep this private as my mother would often need help while I was in the middle of a work meeting and had so run. I sure as hell don't love sharing all the crap that has happened to me but otherwise I would have lost my job a lot sooner. And honestly, what happened to our society that we don't help one another out, but have to keep everything private. There's no medal for that!

50. AnonymousJanuary 19,2023 at 1:33AM UTC

    I SO agree with you. It is the cause of the decline of our society--and the collapse of business (and, ultimately, the economy -- surprise, surprise!) that workers have to stiff upper lip it and keep real life tragedies secret. We've turned into little tin soldiers who rally around protecting the bottom line, rather than each other. If we reveal that we are suffering, we're viewed as "weak" or "ineffective." Or, in some cases, "drama junkies." Even if our hardship is temporary. And it often is.

    Unfortunately, Business in America is all about profit and nothing about the human beings behind that profit. Back in 2016, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to go through months of chemotherapy and then a mastectomy. I never missed a day of work, except for when I had surgeries/procedures. (Fortunately, I worked from home, where I was able to manage the side effects and after effects--a commute would have made that impossible.) The day I arrived home from my mastectomy, the company owner called to ask when she could expect me to get back to work--and also told me I was getting a cut in pay. So, when I call someone a Monster, it's because I've experienced it. If I owned a company, it would be People First, Money Second. I think that's what Suze Orman says.But I'm happy to borrow it!

51. AnonymousJanuary 18,2023 at 2:12AM UTC

    I have been that person before that had multiple people die or something bad happen within a short time period. (Grandparent's death, friend's suicide, etc.) Some people want and create drama, and sometimes things happen around them. When I had multiple people around me die that I was close to in a short time period, I was not at my best. I was trying to cope with losing family and friends. I was lucky for the support around me. If he is telling the truth, he needs grace, support, and patience.

    It sounds like you do not trust him. It also sounds like you are resentful for having to cover for him. I get it. Life is busy enough already, but as many have posted here just realize things can happen and be glad you are not expiring what he is. If he is lying, eventually he will be found out. It will also likely ruin your company and employees from being so concerned and supportive the next time something happens and a person really needs the support. (And we all need it at some point.)

52. AnonymousJanuary 19,2023 at 2:02AM UTC

    I'll share a bit more because yes, I feel like a monster and the reality is all of us on the team have gone through traumatic incidents with loved ones and everyone is always there for each other, even when it's just not a great day for a coworker, we use the food service rule and let them take a break, nap, rest of the day! That's who we are but we are so suspicious...all of us...that exactly because of that we are getting "played" by this person. He knows our weaknesses and he knows for us, tbe person comes first, family comes first, our well-being comes first ... but in this case...things are not adding up for the team. He's only there for the team to share and prepare his "tragedy" story. Unavailable even when he is working, out shopping when he should be at work, at the beach when his grandmother is dying and he said he was at her bed side, at a son's school event when he was signing paper work for his dad's hospital admission, pool side when he was supposedly in the hospital. He asked me to come back from a vacation early because of hospital emergency he had, but posted pool pictures few hours later, only to tell me he feels better but not 100%.

    I'm just exhausted and feel like he's taking advantage of us, how do we know this incident is a real incident? It very much could be and he deserves all my compassion and support and I feel so bad about my doubts.

53. Kate MockusJanuary 19,2023 at 8:53PM UTC

    How about ask him about the pics he's posted when he is presumably at the hospital, etc.?

54. Liz MilneJanuary 20,2023 at 10:57PM UTC

    Like Kate says, call him out. Every time he gets away with it, he'll get a bit worse for next time...

55. JudiJanuary 19,2023 at 7:28PM UTC

    Thanks for adding the additional color. You have evidence that he is possibly abusing the time off? Depending on the type of time off he took... This should be a conversation with your supervisor with these details provided. It's not a judgement that anyone else should really be making. It's not up to anyone to decide if it's real or not. It could all be innocent however if confronted with all of this, (by mgr or HR) he likely won't do it again or your boss should put in parameters around time off. Perhaps a leave of absence is an option. If it were me and this continued to happen I would say to my boss in great detail all the times I've been covering for this other person with great detail. I'd also be logging overtime and discuss how this is affecting your personal time off mentally and reiterate being asked to come back early from PTO. By the way once you put in for PTO they cannot ask you to come back - you shouldn't be contacted. It sounds like there's a lack of boundaries and lot of gossip going on.

56. IntentionGirl299847January 20,2023 at 11:41PM UTC

    have him show proof. copies of paperwork and so on. and keep all his texts and photos or location sites that show he lied and as a team go to your boss.

57. AnonymousJanuary 21,2023 at 9:39PM UTC

    If a coworker asked me for “proof” but they were not in charge of me I’d tell them where they could put their proof. That’s HRs or the direct supervisors job

58. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 12:52AM UTC

    As a single mom, I was the coworker that experienced issue after issue for a many years and was treated badly by other coworkers who said they were tired of picking up my work, but life happens and I did prove that they did not have any extra work due to me not being in the office, and I was always picking up their work because they did not want to do it. Yes it is an inconvenience, but someday you may be in the same shoes and someone will be taking over the workload. If it is a true hardship speak with your supervisor and they should allocate the workload accordingly.

59. AnonymousJanuary 22,2023 at 10:25AM UTC

    Just in case anyone wants an update: coworker is back but continues to sporadically leave to be with his relative in the hospital. He also shared with us he has no intention of taking back any of his work that we are covering until he's back back but did say he's interested in exploring some of our work duties to grow in his role and because what we do , does not require a high IQ. However, he was extremely grateful for our coverage.

60. Liz MilneJanuary 22,2023 at 4:41PM UTC

    So, in other words he wants to be your supervisor and boss you around while doing little to nothing himself?

    Oh, hell, no.

    And the negging you guys? 'what you do does not require a high IQ' - he's literally saying: 'You're all so stupid, I'm going to take advantage of you all' - get his toxic arse out of there as soon as you can, for heavens sake!

61. AnonymousFebruary 5,2023 at 12:52AM UTC

    My boss is one of these people. I've never worked with someone in my entire career who always has some illness to talk about. Either she's sick, her husband is sick, her kids are sick. There are moments where, I kid you not, she's only spacing these events out by a week or two. We don't have heavy paperwork or phone calls but her lack of connection with her role really hurts this team.