Advice needed.

Anonymous

June 3,2023 at 1:30PM UTC

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Advice needed. I was interviewed for a promotion at the end of March. I was told they would have an answer by April 31. My manager told me and most in the warehouse I was the new manager. I was being congratulated for a few weeks. My reply was simple thank you but I haven't heard anything. Well we are into June. I have been carrying the weight of this same department manager for almost a year and I'm tired this was one reason I wanted out of the department. I have been offered a position at a new company and I don't know if I should ask upper management if they made a decision or just resign. I'm told upper management wants me to be promoted but they don't want to upset operations because he has a friend he wants to be promoted.

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Chrissy Regan SmytheJune 3,2023 at 1:35PM UTC
If you are not being paid for the position, then stop doing it. Why would you stay there? They can’t make timely decisions and they clearly don’t mind upsetting you. They also don’t seem too keen on promoting the more qualified person. You will end up carrying the friend if you stay.
AnonymousJune 3,2023 at 8:54PM UTC
It's best to get out now. I have worked 12-13 hour's while manager works 4-5 and they see me open and close the departments, yet say nothing. Thanks for the encouragement.
AnonymousJune 3,2023 at 2:10PM UTC
That's terrible. I'm sure I can't grasp the full situation from just this one post, but it feels like you are being jerked around. The communication and expectations are not aligned here from what you write. If you can, it seems better to get a new job.
AnonymousJune 3,2023 at 3:01PM UTC
Is the new position something you're interested in? If so, I would accept the new position without hesitation.
I'm not at attorney or HR but that operations comment sounds illegal or shady at best.
It doesn't sound like they've given you much room to trust them. Nor that they're pushing to deliver on a promise that's been made to you.
You could ask them, but I would be prepared to accept and walk, I would have very little trust in the organization.
AnonymousJune 3,2023 at 3:18PM UTC
I would ask if you got the promotion, and then decide. I would most likely move on
AnonymousJune 3,2023 at 6:22PM UTC
They can say whatever they want, but that doesn't mean your new position would come through - it may just mean your chance for a different role is gone. They've proven you can't trust them. Don't dismiss that message.
AnonymousJune 3,2023 at 8:14PM UTC
I have lost my ability to trust upper management at this point.
I already know to not give notice of leaving because they get in their feelings and walk you out immediately. I guess what bothers me the most is to have given so much and to leave without notice. I always try to do what is right.
AnonymousJune 3,2023 at 10:37PM UTC
Been there too. I gave written notice at the end of my day (worked there 10 years & things kept getting worse) and already had a new job starting the next week.
AnonymousJune 3,2023 at 11:04PM UTC
I would let them know you have a good opportunity and they need to let you know. Also say this other place pays more. I have seen many do this at my current job
AnonymousJune 4,2023 at 10:06AM UTC
I'd ask them point blank what's going on. The dates have passed and they are concerned about upsetting someone else?!
If the other opportunity is what you want, go for it! If the place you are at now realizes (wakes up), you could say "I tried, but too bad for you -- other person can have it
Mary PoolJune 4,2023 at 2:27PM UTC
Even if you receive the position, if a key person wants someone else and they have enough influence to keep you from being offered the position, you will never be successful in it. Take the new job. If they are the type to walk you out, make sure your desk is cleaned out before giving notice!
AnonymousJune 4,2023 at 2:45PM UTC
You cannot trust them. Resign immediately and go enjoy your new life in a better place. Don't look back.
AnonymousJune 4,2023 at 4:03PM UTC
I think you owe it to yourself to ask the question. Let them know you took them at their word and expected a response by the April 31 date. Let them know that you want to know irrespective of the friend. If it's not you and that could be the roadblock, take the other role elsewhere and take your skills to an employer who will treat you better.
Julie EJune 4,2023 at 7:04PM UTC
If they gave you the promotion it sounds like they didn’t give you the increase in pay to go with it. The whole thing sounds fishy. I would take the new job with a different company and not look back. I was up for a promotion last year and they froze hiring after my final interview only to bring the positron back as 2 roles, one 2 levels higher than my current role and the other a pay grade below my current role. I applied for the higher one and didn’t even get an interview. Nothing is guaranteed.
AnonymousJune 4,2023 at 11:40PM UTC
Not to sound like a smart alec, since April 31 st doesn’t exist, do you think that was their was of saying you weren’t getting this role. April only has 30 days, so they could have been saying never in a sly way. Just my thoughts.
AnonymousJune 5,2023 at 2:02AM UTC
If upper management wanted you to be promoted, you would be promoted.
AnonymousJune 5,2023 at 1:39PM UTC
Something seems off here. Your promotion was announced by your manager to you and your colleagues, but it's...not real? It's unclear from your post what the steps are to making this official in your eyes, but I'm guessing you haven't seen a pay raise, change in title, or an expected company-wide announcement, etc. If you haven't already, circle back with your manager to find out what's going on. I agree with Anonymous that, if the decision makers wanted you in a certain role, you'd be there. If the operations person is so influential he's essentially running the show, it sounds like your employer may be dysfunctional and it's time to consider taking that other offer (or looking elsewhere in general).
AnonymousJune 5,2023 at 2:53PM UTC
April 31? That date seems suspicious. Anyway, if you already interviewed for a job elsewhere and got the offer it sounds like you were ready to leave anyway, so might as well just take that job.
AnonymousJune 5,2023 at 3:50PM UTC
Well why haven’t you asked anyone like your boss/new boss/HR?
AnonymousJune 5,2023 at 4:42PM UTC
I hate to be the one to say this, but you had an April Fool's joke pulled on you from the beginning. There are only 30 days in April. 31 in March. Take the new job at the new company and don't look back, just smile as you leave.
Antonia CalzettiJune 5,2023 at 5:26PM UTC
Take the new job. Don't wait for a company that doesn't respect what you're bringing to the table. It's been too long.
Joann S. LublinJune 5,2023 at 7:36PM UTC
If you decide to accept the other offer, you should be prepared for the possibility that your current employer will make a counteroffer -- such as finally giving you the promotion you deserve. At that point, suggest you think hard and long before staying put. Once burned, twice shy. Let us know how things go!
Omawumi GrantJune 5,2023 at 9:20PM UTC
Hello Anonymous, If I were in your shoes, I would resign and move on to the new offer. In my opinion if Operations fellow have such a strong hold on upper management , and for two months they can't make up their mind, they don't value your input. Please move on with your life. All the best.