My manager seems to be victimising me and it’s making me dread interacting with her.
March 5,2023 at 7:32PM UTC
I’m having a REALLY difficult time at work right now and it’s affecting my mental and physical health as well as my moods with my family. I work for a nonprofit that’s based in the US but I’m from Africa and work remotely. I joined in July and have met my entire team and department once on a company retreat. My manager and I have always had an amicable relationship until I lodged complaints about two associates who I felt were rude and unprofessional towards me via Teams. Even though I’m the one that raised the complaint, the way I’ve been treated since then was as if I was the aggressor. Every 1:1 with her is full of criticism, snarky remarks, micromanagement. She even told me that one of the women I complained about was the “nicest person”. Her support for me through my onboarding has been minimal and her one on ones mostly consists of me feeling like a child being interrogated. My mid year review was a mess. She didn’t leave one single positive comment about me. Everything was negative and not meeting expectations. Im beginning to feel like this woman just doesn’t like me. She sets me up for failure and not picks everything without giving me the tools to win. She treats me so much differently than my US colleagues and it’s obvious to me. She’s made a jab in a meeting about a very personal choice that I’ve made and chose to share during a casual team meeting. She makes me feel extremely uncomfortable but I desperately need this job as I am the breadwinner of my family. Please help. This is causing me a lot of distress. I have gone to HR and to her senior manager who have o offered to reonboard me but nothing around this woman’s toxic behaviour towards me. Honestly I feel bullied and harassed and exhausted.
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