In my check in with my boss today I learned that an Executive Director from another department (technically he and I are in equal level positions) in our organization told him that I'm not being responsive to his needs.

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October 20,2021 at 3:24AM UTC

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In my check in with my boss today I learned that an Executive Director from another department (technically he and I are in equal level positions) in our organization told him that I'm not being responsive to his needs. Nothing could be further from the truth. This ED is new and has told me a couple of times that he doesn't know what he's doing. I've given more of my time to this person than I have with previous people in this role, but the reality is I, nor my team, can miraculously solve the issues he's identified in his team's work. I'm livid that he would mischaracterize me to my boss and this isn't the first time I've noticed him lying. My boss wants me to find easy wins to placate this person (something I've already done). What do I do next?

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AnonymousOctober 20,2021 at 3:45AM UTC
Play the game I guess. You've been directed by your boss to smooth things over.
I would keep immaculate notes/records and have your team document everything because this guy is a snake and will try to set up others for his failings.
AnonymousOctober 22,2021 at 6:34AM UTC
Was just going to say, document everything.
AnonymousOctober 26,2021 at 5:22PM UTC
If the ED makes another comment to your boss, you'll have the documentation. It also puts you in a place to tell your boss, 'I've tried X,Y,Z but need more ideas for easy wins; could you help me brainstorm?'.
Jackie RukaOctober 20,2021 at 5:31AM UTC
Perhaps his expectations and yours do not match?
This should be established so as to form continuity between departments and open communication.
His not knowing what to do or his job or that of his teams, is NOT your problem unless it interferes with meeting the KPI's or MBO's of the organization?
If he is lying, keep a daily journal on interactions, emails and any other discrepancies that take place.
Sorry you have to deal with this.. try to stay patient and proactive.
Patricia BeneveniaOctober 26,2021 at 7:14PM UTC
Also chiming in to recommend documentation of everything. There are two ways I suggest how you should document encounters. Email yourself so it is time-stamped; do not use your work email or computer that can be tracked by your company. If you prefer to write it down, use a spiral notebook, so you cannot be accused of inserting notes to accommodate your side of the experience. I would also document your boss' suggestions and how you responded. I was in a similar situation and being able to present documented "evidence" saved my buns!