How do you handle the 1 of owners of the company wants you GONE yet in the process of retiring and I’m the HR PERSON!!

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December 26,2022 at 10:31PM UTC

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How do you handle the 1 of owners of the company wants you GONE yet in the process of retiring and I’m the HR PERSON!! I’ve been there for just over a year and am responsible for all admin, IT, HR, benefits (shall I go on?)

im just skimming the top of each of these areas so I’m obviously scattered all over the place, I work way too many hours and need some guidance.

How can I do something when it’s one of the owners yet I feel I’m on her checklist before she goes!?!

this cannot be right or even fair!! She’s accused me of lying (I saw the email as she inadvertently responded all).

good gosh, I’m loosing it

I’m living paycheck to paycheck yet have an incredible resume but cant justify taking the time off (legally I don’t have too, I know that) but how can I deal with her without drop kicking her??

in all fairness, my predecessors couldn’t handle this position either- how I wish I’d have listened

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AnonymousDecember 26,2022 at 10:58PM UTC
If the owner wants you gone, get out.
You can leave on their terms or yours. It's always better to leave on yours.
I don't even understand the time off thing. Do you mean time off for interviews? I doubt they'll care at this point.
As far as you being mission critical, obviously that doesn't matter to the owner, so it shouldn't matter to you (and in fact, doesn't, since you're likely to be fired from the other information provided). Either you have different perspectives on what's going on, the owner has a backup plan, or you are 100% correct and the business will fail after you leave. Regardless, not your circus, not your monkeys. Shake it off and find a better fit ASAP.
Cindy GloverJanuary 4,2023 at 2:43AM UTC
Awesome advice from everyone!! Boosted my confidence
Dawn S. CrossDecember 27,2022 at 3:04PM UTC
Polish your resume up.
Then start listing the things you do and the percentage of time you spend on it. Then work with both owners to find a balance. Don’t keep the “bad boss” out of the picture, that just gives more fuel to the fire.
AnonymousDecember 27,2022 at 4:43PM UTC
I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. I think you have two choices, wait and see if she actually fires you and then you may be able to apply for unemployment. I think unemployment can be approved or denied by the employer, depending on the reason you left the company. They don't have to agree to pay the unemployment. The other option is to look for another job immediately. Brace yourself, because the job market is tough for a lot people. Revamp your resume and brush up on your interviewing skills. While you are in the process of deciding, please document everything from this point on.
AnonymousDecember 28,2022 at 7:34PM UTC
The company does not pay unemployment, the State does. The company can contest it, but as long as you weren't fired for doing something illegal you are pretty much guaranteed that you will received unemployment. You can even get it in the case of you quitting, depending on the reason.
Cindy GloverJanuary 4,2023 at 2:42AM UTC
Thank you SO MUCH!
AnonymousJanuary 5,2023 at 10:15AM UTC
1 Ask her for direct feedback, as you’d like to make her departure as smooth as possible.
2 Interview elsewhere— even if it works itself out as this owner retires, there’s no harm in seeing what else is out there and staying ready for that moment you need to leave. Yes, job searching is exhausting. But so is what you’re dealing with at work. At least job searching can be exhilarating at the potential! Good luck!!