Should I stay or should I try something new?

Should I stay or should I try something new?

I have been working at my same employer for the past 8 years and have worked my way up from entry level to department manager and have acquired a wealth of industry knowledge and a great reputation. Yay! I just got my last promotion to manager in June when our department manager (also VP) retired. I inherited about half of her duties, while a coworker (remote worker with a PhD and an additional 5 years in the business) got the other half of her duties... and I'm supposed to report to her.

I like this woman I am supposed to report to and I've worked with her for a long time, but I don't actually do much reporting to her, just the occasional conversation, and she rarely works during our typical work hours. The team has been expressing confusion as to what she's actually doing, which is not great for morale, but I support her and say "she has other duties that are not your concern". Other than covering for team members while we are sick or on vacation, I think she does very little, but she keeps referring "other tasks" she's been given, but it's all so cryptic. I know what her official job description is and I just can't figure out what she's doing, but she's my boss so I guess that's not my business? And I'm also concerned that she's going to leave the company soon because she just moved across the country and she could probably find a way better job out there, especially with her qualifications.

My team is short both an inside (former was fired in Dec 2019) and outside sales person (former was fired last month) [both firings were completely justified FYI] right now, and two other women on my team will be retiring next year, one in February and one in July, which just leaves myself and one other existing team member left. With time narrowing and me being left in the dark about recruitment from the company owners (which is not my responsibility, nor do I have the tools to recruit), I'm expected to be able to train a new outside sales person, two new inside sales people, and a new customer service person for my team all within the next 6-9 months (before half my team retires), and we haven't even interviewed anyone yet. And of course this is on top of doing all the other things my job requires, which is a lot. I'm worried my whole department is going to fall apart and our business will suffer and that it will look poorly on me as a first time manager. It's really got me anxious and wanting to jump ship, despite the fact that I love my job and I love this company.

My husband says I should look for a new job... he knows all my complaints and he thinks I'm being taken advantage of. I know my former boss was often taken advantage of, and she was a VP with 45 years of industry experience. I'm scared to leave because I've been here so long and it's comfortable, but I think my husband might be right. Maybe it's time to look elsewhere? I'm just scared to try something different. I don't know what to do. If I stick around, I'll get to build my own team, as long as they don't try eliminate my department or something like that... I've had that worry in the back of my mind for a while and it's still a concern. What should I do?

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  1. Anonymous

    You do what matches your career goals and personal growth ambitions.

    If you decide to stick around, I suggest you learn everyone's job so you can either perform their responsibilities when the time comes or you can train new hires when needed.

    There is nothing wrong with being scared of new opportunities or wanting stay put as long as you are being paid well and have the responsibility you desire. It's a bold move to switch jobs and prioritize your career. 8 years is a long time at one company.

    Stay alert that your department stays intact. The owner may decide to reorganize the company and fold you into another department or under a new VP at some point since you are at a manager level and with all the potential roles being vacated, the owner may not feel keeping things set up the same way makes sense.

    There is no harm in shopping around to see what's out there. You can stay safely where you are and just research your industry.

  2. Anonymous

    I was at my former job for 21 years (part of that in customer support and part in software development) and was comfortable...

    Until business started really looking bad, and they laid me off with minimal pay and 9 DAYS' worth of benefits.

    Seems like your company is poorly managed, and I'd really hate for you to go through what I went through. (My son actually asked me if we were going to be homeless. Oh, and my dog died 2 days later.)

    Do some soul searching, reach out to friends in your industry and/or one that interests you, send out feelers, and update your resume.

    Best of luck to you.

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